Upbringing

By Parenting For Sanity + Social Change

We’re Hannah & Kelty of Upbringing- twins, certified parent coaches + speakers who help caregivers across the globe transcend daily conflict with their kids for sanity + social change.

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The podcast currently has 177 episodes available.

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February 25, 2021 LIVE Q&A // Kids’ big feelings, aggression + misbehavior, eye rolling + attitude, sib conflict
Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast, which consists of the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode:

- Highly sensitive 10 yo struggling to socialize with friends
- Aggressive 4 yo misbehaving constantly
- 6 yo big feelings around moving
- 9 yo struggling to adjust to new school
- Parent struggling with self-regulation + staying calm
- 8 yo stomping + eye rolling when resistant
- RESIST Approach example
- Parent struggling having to explain over + over to kid
- Feeling like a “bad mom”
- 3 yo son frowns + looks sad when parent “calls him out”
- Twin 3 yos fighting all the time
- 4yo pees pants, bed, floor all the time
- Toddler tantrums
- When RESIST Approach isn't "working"
- 5 yo coloring on lamp shades
- What limits are ok to set?
- 4 yo exploding over nothing

We connected multiple times about joining the Taming Your Triggers Workshop from Your Parenting Mojo! This is the last week to sign up… Learn more about the amazing elements of the workshop HERE! We are so excited to begin with you on March 1st, so make sure to register by Feb 28!
Tune in and connect on our LIVE Q&As, every Tuesday AND Thursday at 5PM PST on Instagram. Catch up on past LIVE session on our IGTV tab. As always, we laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us!
Relevant Links:
- Our Freedoms Model
- Our RESIST Approach
- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!
- Our Resources Page
- Our Coaching page
- Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist
- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer
- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in law
Contact us! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.
Email us: [email protected]
Follow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.co
Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.
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1h 13min
February 21, 2021 LIVE Q&A // Taming Your Triggers! Convo w/ Jen Lumanlan of Your Parenting Mojo
We loved connecting with Jen Lumanlan of Your Parenting Mojo about ways we can tame our triggers in the toughest moments with our kids. Learn more about the amazing elements of her upcoming workshop HERE! We are so excited to begin with you on March 1st, so make sure to register by Feb 28!

A few topics we cover with Jen about taming triggers:
- Are triggers all because of our kids’ behavior?
- When will kids grow out of these behaviors?
- What is “re-parenting”?
- Is it reasonable to ask our kids not to trigger us?
- What is the actual definition of “being triggered”?
- Big T trauma vs Small T trauma AND The trauma of unmet needs
- Feeling triggered vs feeling flooded
- How trauma is passed on to our kids (epigenetically + parenting)
- How do triggers show up? Fight, flight, freezing, fawning
- How early trauma shows up in our bodies as adults and how to work through those somatic symptoms
- Why we can feel so guilty about our behaviors when triggered
- Why is self-compassion so hard?
- Is it ok to apologize for your triggers to your kid?
- How we can live beyond the script in greater alignment with our values
- What to expect from the Taming Your Triggers Workshop
- Why group support while working on triggers is so vital
Learn more about the amazing elements of Jen's upcoming Taming Your Triggers workshop HERE! We are so excited to begin with you on March 1st, so make sure to register by Feb 28!
Tune in and connect on our LIVE Q&As, every Tuesday AND Thursday at 5PM PST on Instagram. Catch up on past LIVE session on our IGTV tab. As always, we laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us!
Relevant Links:
- Our Freedoms Model
- Our RESIST Approach
- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!
- Our Resources Page
- Our Coaching page
- Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist
- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer
- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in law
Contact us! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.

Email us: [email protected]
Follow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.co
Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.
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February 17, 2021 LIVE Q&A // Kids won't brush teeth or change clothes, hitting new baby, destructive when disappointed, yelling at parents
Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos.

We chat a few times in this episode about the Taming Your Triggers Workshop from our friend Jen of Your Parenting Mojo! Enrollment is open and the workshop begins March 1st! Join us to tame your triggers and break the cycle when our kids are pushing us to the limit! The workshop will help us to feel triggered less often, to understand why our child's behavior leaves us so frustrated and angry and to know what to do on those occasions when we're still triggered, and how to use them as a way to deepen our relationship with our kid. Click here to learn more about the Taming Your Triggers Workshop!

A few of the topics we cover this episode:

- Description of the RESIST Approach
- We share a win written via email about The Hard Stuff being the Good Stuff
- Kid won't brush teeth, change clothes, etc. - parent feeling defeated
- How to nurture both values AND skills in cleaning, hygiene, good eating, manners
- 4yo punching mom while nursing baby
- Kid being destructive when doesn't get his way
- When is it ok to tell your kid you're frustrated or upset?
- What does shaming kids look like?
- Kid yelling at parent - is that time for a limit?
- Spirited extrovert kid drains mom going 100% all day
- Is it ok to close the door on your kid for space during a conflict?
- When can kids brush their teeth on their own?
We'll be back next chatting triggers with Jen Lumanlan of Your Parenting Mojo Podcast! Don't forget to check out Jen's Taming Your Triggers Workshop!

Tune in and connect on our LIVE Q&As, every Tuesday AND Thursday at 5PM PST on Instagram. Catch up on past LIVE session on our IGTV tab. As always, we laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us!

Relevant Links:

- Our Freedoms Model
- Our RESIST Approach
- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!
- Our Resources Page
- Our Coaching page
- Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist
- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer
- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in law
Contact us! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.
Email us: [email protected]
Follow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.co
Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.
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58min
February 15, 2021 LIVE Q&A // Kids harsh words, screaming, hurting pets, picky eating, partners refusing to align with parenting approach
Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode:
- 4 yo smothering cat
- Kid screaming and yelling, overwhelmed parent
- Accidental shaming of kids
- Kid only eating carbs
- What is intuitive eating?
- 3 kids under 4 hurting dog + each other
- Partner who parents differently * doesn’t believe in the research-based resources
- Kid saying “mean mama!”
- Struggling not to over-control partner’s parenting
- Grandparents poo pooing "new-agey" approach
- Kids insisting on second helpings of of less healthy food

Tune in and connect on our LIVE Q&As, every Tuesday AND Thursday at 5PM PST on Instagram. Catch up on past LIVE session on our IGTV tab. As always, we laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us!
Relevant Links:
- Our Freedoms Model
- Our RESIST Approach
- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!
- Our Resources Page
- Our Coaching page
- Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist
- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer
- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in law
Contact us! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.

Email us: [email protected]
Follow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.co
Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.
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52min
February 11, 2021 LIVE Q&A // Defiant, resistant kids, bad manners, hitting, no boundaries, transition struggles, won’t clean up
Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode:
- How we’re trying to raise non-fragile white kids
- Connection vs control
- Kid won’t say please + thank you
- How to deal with grief in front of young kids
- 2.5 yo hitting parents whenever they’re frustrated
- 5 yo has big scary feelings
- What kids’ resistance tells us
- Our Freedoms Model
- How resilience is built in kids
- Why we explore kids’ needs more than the behavior + impact
- Spirited 3 yo rejects 2 yo sib while playing
- How to teach kids about boundaries
- Spirited 2.5 yo struggling during transitions
- Parent struggling to self-regulate + not yell
- 4 yo son in pieces over ruined art project
- 4 yo + 7 yo sibs rivalry, jealousy
- Kid not wanting to leave preschool
- Alternatives to calling kids’ work “messes”
- 10 yo won’t brush hair or value hygiene
- Kid struggling with zoom school
Tune in and connect on our LIVE Q&As, every Tuesday AND Thursday at 5PM PST on Instagram. Catch up on past LIVE session on our IGTV tab. As always, we laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us!
Relevant Links:
- Our Freedoms Model
- Our RESIST Approach
- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!
- Our Resources Page
- Our Coaching page
- Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist
- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer
- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in law
Contact us! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.
Email us: [email protected]
Follow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.co
Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.
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1h 2min
February 08, 2021 LIVE Q&A // Kids bossing, negative self-talk, lying, disrespecting, no impulse control, hitting sibling
Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode:
- 5 yo bossing + controlling family talking to each other
- 4 yo getting too rough with 5 yo + 2 yo sibs playing
- 7 yo self-critical + "doesn't want to be alive anymore"
- Parent's empathizing for kid feels patronizing
- 5 yo lying about so many things
- When kids "disrespect" us
- Parent struggling with neutral tone w/ misbehavior
- Walk-thru of sib conflict support
- Kids w/ no impulse control
- What consequences are OK?
- 3 yo throwing toys, breaking things
- Making mistakes vs learning something
- 4 yo hits + screams at 2 yo brother when wakes
- When adults argue in front of kids
- Sensitive + spirited parents
- Parent feeling they've done it all wrong
Tune in and connect on our LIVE Q&As, every Tuesday AND Thursday at 5PM PST on Instagram. Catch up on past LIVE session on our IGTV tab. As always, we laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us!

Relevant Links:
- Our Freedoms Model
- Our RESIST Approach
- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!
- Our Resources Page
- Our Coaching page
- Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist
- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer
- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in law
Contact us! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.

Email us: [email protected]
Follow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.co
Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.
Disclaimer: Hannah & Kelty are parenting coaches and do not work in a professional therapist’s or MD capacity to diagnose or treat mental health disorders. They cannot advise parents on issues such as drug addiction, eating disorders, self-harm, severe psychiatric disorders, child abuse, assault, etc.
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1h 10min
February 03, 2021 LIVE Q&A // Spirited kids acting out, kids disrespecting, avoiding bedtime, hitting themselves, scratching
Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode:

- How to get a 6 yo to value his own opinion more
- Spirited 5 yo acts out + won’t stop behaviors
- 8 yo blows up when opposed, won’t self-reg, runs away
- Our interview on The Purpose Show w/ Allie Casazza about parenting strong-willed kids using powers beyond control
- Jealous, strong-willed toddler resisting bedtime
- Disrespectful kids not asking nicely for things
- Kid saying "get away!!!"
- Highly sensitive 4 yo hitting self in head, not listening to parent
- Calm down corners
- Kid hitting head on walls when he's stressed
- RESIST Approach "wins" from listeners
- Kid scratching parent's arms playfully but it hurts
Tune in and connect on our LIVE Q&As, every Tuesday AND Thursday at 5PM PST on Instagram. Catch up on past LIVE session on our IGTV tab. As always, we laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us!
Relevant Links:
- Our Freedoms Model
- Our RESIST Approach
- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!
- Our Resources Page
- Our Coaching page
- Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist
- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer
- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in law
Contact us! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.

Email us: [email protected]
Follow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.co
Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.
Disclaimer: Hannah & Kelty are parenting coaches and do not work in a professional therapist’s or MD capacity to diagnose or treat mental health disorders. They cannot advise parents on issues such as drug addiction, eating disorders, self-harm, severe psychiatric disorders, child abuse, assault, etc.
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48min
February 02, 2021 LIVE Q&A // Kids spitting, sassing, defiant, breaking consent, parents struggling to self-regulate
Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos.
A few of the topics we cover this episode:

- Spirited 4 yo hates circling back - starts spitting
- 17 mo frustrated and has no words to explain
- 5 yo sassing parents all the time
- 6 yo with low emotional intelligence
- Spirited 5 yo hard on little twin sibs
- "Oppositional defiant" kid
- Parent's sib judges her emotion coaching
- How to self reg to support kids
- When we can't be patient with kids
- Overwhelm w/ 4 kids + how to self-protect
- How to apologize to your kid?
- How to catch yourself before screaming
- 5 yo urges 3 yo to misbehave
- 5 yo roleplaying in an unhelpful way
- 4 yo steals everything from 17 mo
- 5 yo constantly grabbing 11 mo
- 2.5 yo running from getting dressed
- Parent burnt out from kid resistance
Tune in and connect on our LIVE Q&As, every Tuesday AND Thursday at 5PM PST on Instagram. Catch up on past LIVE session on our IGTV tab. As always, we laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us!
Relevant Links:
- Our Freedoms Model
- Our RESIST Approach
- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!
- Our Resources Page
- Our Coaching page
- Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist
- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer
- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in law
Contact us! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.

Email us: [email protected]
Follow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.co
Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.
Disclaimer: Hannah & Kelty are parenting coaches and do not work in a professional therapist’s or MD capacity to diagnose or treat mental health disorders. They cannot advise parents on issues such as drug addiction, eating disorders, self-harm, severe psychiatric disorders, child abuse, assault, etc.
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1h 21min
January 28, 2021 LIVE Q&A // Kids being mean, resisting agendas, won't clean up, listen to us, do what we say
Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode:

- Parent struggling giving consequences
- Kid spitting randomly all the time
- Boundaries vs consequences
- Should we mirror our kids' faces when they're upset?
- 3yo pushing 2yo sibling all the time
- Upset 5yo only grunts + won't talk
- Kids who "should know better"
- Spirited kid upset by blocks
- Kid ignoring parent, even when given consequences
- 9yo + 5yo still needing parent to sleep with them
- Kid asking "Are you sad, Mommy?" when ruffled
- Co-parent who doesn't parent consciously
- Parent worried about being a push over
- Husband thinks kid needs more punishment
- 5yo trying to bite parent
Tune in and connect on our LIVE Q&As, every Tuesday AND Thursday at 5PM PST on Instagram. Catch up on past LIVE session on our IGTV tab. As always, we laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us!
Relevant Links:
- Our Freedoms Model
- Our RESIST Approach
- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!
- Our Resources Page
- Our Coaching page
- Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist
- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer
- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in law

Contact us! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.
Email us: [email protected]
Follow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.co
Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.
Disclaimer: Hannah & Kelty are parenting coaches and do not work in a professional therapist’s or MD capacity to diagnose or treat mental health disorders. They cannot advise parents on issues such as drug addiction, eating disorders, self-harm, severe psychiatric disorders, child abuse, assault, etc.
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1h 3min
January 25, 2021 LIVE Q&A // Kids hurting sibs, won’t eat, hoarding toys, hugely frustrated, vaping, husband explodes w/ kids
Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode:
- Spirited 5 yo won’t leave the house when its time
- 5 yo antagonizes little siblings til she gets hurt
- Boy get over-excited + mean on playdates
- 19 mo keeps leaving table during meals
- 2.5 yo hitting kids + tearing books at school
- 2 yo won’t eat + family says to distract them
- Kid only eats yogurt at family gatherings
- Kid hoarding toys on playdates
- Kids won’t stay close on dangerous hike
- Huge reactions with frustration intolerance
- Kid goes from 0-100 quick all the time
- 8 yo is resistant + parent empathy feels fake
- Husband responds poorly to kids behaviors
- 2 yo won’t join parent w/ other day care kids
- 12 yo broke trust by lying + vaping
Tune in and connect on our LIVE Q&As, every Tuesday AND Thursday at 5PM PST on Instagram. Catch up on past LIVE session on our IGTV tab. As always, we laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us!
Relevant Links:
- Our Freedoms Model
- Our RESIST Approach
- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!
- Our Resources Page
- Our Coaching page
- Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist
- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer
- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in law

Contact us! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.
Email us: [email protected]
Follow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.co

Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.
Disclaimer: Hannah & Kelty are parenting coaches and do not work in a professional therapist’s or MD capacity to diagnose or treat mental health disorders. They cannot advise parents on issues such as drug addiction, eating disorders, self-harm, severe psychiatric disorders, child abuse, assault, etc.
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1h 23min

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How many episodes does Upbringing have?

The podcast currently has 177 episodes available.

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