If you sometimes waver in your undying commitment and love in your marriage, the resounding advice from the self-help experts of the decade is: "Well, maybe you're just not a match." Has this seed of doubt been planted in your mind?  In this podcast, I share a clip of Mel Robbins giving advice that's not at all uncommon today. As someone who has been categorically labeled as "incompatible" by well-meaning friends, family, and even personality tests that actually point out all the ways that my husband and I are NOT compatible ...allow me to respectfully disagree with Mel and bust, what I call, The Myth of Compatibility!  If you're a parent who needs a pick-me-up shot of recommitment juice in your marriage and family, it's right here on Hi Fam. _______ Want more encouragement and practical guidance in creating a family life that puts family first? Join us in the Hi Fam Community (HiFam.com/Studio)  Get my new book, "Reclaim Play", available on Amazon now! Go to ReclaimPlay.com/book for your free book bonus. 

#20 Uproot the Seed of Resentment in Your Marriage: The Myth of Compatibility

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             In a world where the mere mention of judgment can spark controversy and shame, it's easy to lose sight of its essential role in our lives. There's a crucial difference between being judgmental and exercising sound judgment, yet the fear of judgment has led many to forsake their ability to discern, blurring the lines between criticism and discernment.   Join us as we navigate this delicate balance, uncovering why it's vital not to shy away from judgment but instead to embrace it as a cornerstone of wisdom. And perhaps most importantly,  why giving the gift of good judgment to our children is an invaluable tool for them in navigating life's complexities with clarity and compassion.   __________________ Build the Family of Your Dreams and Become the Leader of Your Family with The Studio! (hifam.com/studio)             

#32 How To Have Judgment Without Being Judgmental

We've all experienced it—the gut-wrenching guilt, the overwhelming shame, the moments where we've passed judgment on others. Not the most pleasant feeling... Maybe that's why in today's world, there's a prevailing notion that these emotions should be erased from our vocabulary and emotional palette. But is this truly the best approach to raising our children and fostering healthy relationships? Join us on an eye-opening journey to challenge these societal norms that try to stop us from feeling these feelings and delve into the complexities of judgment, guilt, and shame. Learn why these emotions are trully important and why we should allow and not shield our kids from these emotions. _____________________________________ Build the Family of Your Dreams and Become the Leader of Your Family with The Studio!

#31 Embracing the Uncomfortable: Understanding the Role of Judgment, Guilt, and Shame

Ever found yourself meticulously following every parenting guideline to a t, only to feel like something crucial is missing?   In this episode, we confront the uncomfortable truth about scripted responses and emotionless reactions and how they may be stifling genuine connections with our children. If you feel that the rules of gentle parenting are just not getting you anywhere - this might be an eye-opening truth as to what might be missing. Even more importantly how, unknowingly, you could have fallen into the traps of Robotic Parenting.   Tune in and learn what Robotic Parenting is, how to avoid it, and rediscover the magic of Authentic Parenting.   Build the Family of Your Dreams and Become the Leader of Your Family with The Studio! _________________  The book mentioned in this episode: "Bad Therapy: Why Kids Aren't Growing up" by Abigail Shrier

#30 Authentic Parenting: Beyond the Rulebook

Ever wondered why today's kids seem less ready for adulting? This episode spills the beans on the real struggles – less independence, job hesitations, a bouquet of disorders, and major "not ready" vibes. Discover what's really going on with our young generation as we dissect the impact of excessive screen time, casual relationships, and the effects of super laid-back parenting. Brace yourself: it's a recipe for stress, anxiety, and more. But hey, no need to panic! We've got a solid game plan to prep your kids for success in the adulting game. Find out how setting boundaries, sharing values, and building a strong family culture can make your kids ready for anything life throws at them. Join us for a straightforward discussion on the challenges our kids face today and grab practical tips to raise resilient, kick-butt individuals. Tune in and empower your parenting game!   Ready to raise resillient kids that know who they are and where they belong? Create an unbreakable family with The Studio! _______ “I love this show!” 

#29 Raising Resilient Kids: Should I Follow My Child's Lead?

"Have you tried couples therapy?" - that's the one and really ONLY solution that married couples are handed when they are on the brink of going their separate ways. And then... Many come to find that it's actualy not working, or working only for as long as you're going. What about the ones who can't even afford therapy? OR that partner who is frankly refusing to go.  What choices are you left with then? Stay in missery or leave and break the family? There has to be a better way, and there is!  In this episode, let's dive deep into the terittory of why therapy might be doing your relationship more harm than good. And yes, side note - therapy does good, therapy can be necessary, therapy has its place. Yet, it also has its downfalls and risks you might not even be aware of. Being aware of the problem is the first step in fixing it. So listen in and discover what you actually can do instead to save and also strengthen your marriage.  _______  Build the relationship you want with the partner you've got! Take the first step at Married-U! (https://married-u.com)

#20 Uproot the Seed of Resentment in Your Marriage: The Myth of Compatibility

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