When you listening to your upset, have you noticed what happens? You react to the world outside, to the people around you and to your own feelings. Quite often that can make things worse.

I understand your confusion because it looks like the upset is coming from outside so it looks like sorting the outside will make you feel better. So getting angry, sending THAT message and saying what is on your mind all make sense. But that's like thinking the warning lights on your dashboard are coming from the car next to you.

But have you noticed what happens when you are feeling good. Everything looks better, you respond, you settle situations and you have clarity. The thing is, your feelings are telling you just one thing. They are telling you about thought in the moment. Off feelings = off thinking. Once you really know this, it is transformational.

If you would like to respond rather than react, please get in touch to talk.

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