Communicating with an ex is ripe with triggers, and it’s easy to get overwhelmed by our emotions and react in a volatile way that we’re not proud of after the fact. But there are mindfulness tools to help us pause in the moment, observe what we’re feeling, and respond in a skillful way.

Joree Rose is the licensed marriage and family therapist behind the Bay Area Mindfulness and Therapy Center, a practice that offers mindfulness and meditation classes as well as private therapy for individuals and couples. She is also the host of Journey Forward with Joree Rose and the author of Squirmy Learns to be Mindful and Mindfulness, It’s Elementary. Joree leads mindfulness retreats around world, and her work has been featured in Oprah Magazine, Inc. Magazine and mindbodygreen, among many other media outlets.

On this episode, Joree joins Katherine to discuss how mindfulness can help us respond rather than react in the divorce process. She shares her practical approach to starting a simple meditation practice and explains how she leveraged mindfulness tools like naming your emotions to navigate her own divorce. Listen in for Joree’s insight around using the breath or external grounding when you’re triggered and learn to choose a skillful response rooted in compassion for yourself—and your ex.

Topics Covered

How mindfulness helps us respond rather than react to conflict

How deep breaths afford us access to our executive function

How naming her emotions helped Joree navigate her own divorce

Joree’s practical approach to getting started with meditation

The STOP acronym for learning to practice mindfulness

The myths around what it means to meditate successfully

Joree’s boundaries re: communication in the divorce process

Why you’re not responsible for managing other’s emotions

Reframing the message behind what your inner critic tells you

How to leverage external grounding to return to the moment

Using a mantra to cultivate self-compassion during a divorce

Connect with Joree Rose

Joree’s Website: https://joreerose.com/

Joree on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joreerose/?hl=en

Joree on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/joreerose33/

Journey Forward with Joree Rose: https://joreerose.com/podcast/

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/

Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/

Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246

Email: [email protected]

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

Squirmy Learns to Be Mindful by Joree Rose: https://joreerose.com/podcast/

Mindfulness, It’s Elementary by Joree Rose: https://www.amazon.com/Mindfulness-Its-Elementary-Joree-Rose/dp/1598502220/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1580235668&refinements=p_27%3AJoree+Rose&s=books&sr=1-1&text=Joree+Rose