Hello Worthy Lovers, today we’re going to talk about attraction in romantic relationships. If you're looking for insights into how to understand your own attraction toward others, then this episode is for you. We discuss a lot of things ranging from what we seek in a short term and a long term partner are different to value different things and pretentiousness in our preferences.

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Hello Worthy Lovers, in the last two episodes, we’ve talked about the importance of making better decisions and what are the obstacles towards it. Today, we’re going to talk about a very simple idea that has interesting implications in practice. This idea comes from a friend of mine in the middle of an honest conversation when I’m talking about my problems with her. In honor to celebrate her birthday, we discuss this very simple idea.

Happy Birthday Kak Mutiara Maharini! May you and your loved ones be showered by all kinds of blessings.

What are some of the challenges and obstacles toward cultivating decision-making skills in your romantic relationship?

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When you've just had a rough experience in your romantic relationships, it's probably because you're lacking self-love, right? Right? If you're skeptical... then perhaps this series is for you.

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Hello Worthy Lovers, welcome to the Valet Amandum Podcast. In this episode, I talked about my hypothesis that can help solve the problem of unequal access to mental health in Indonesia. There are different kinds of ideas—taboos, controversies, innovation—that are being discussed to tackle the hypothesis itself. Overall, it's a pleasant discussion and ends with a reminder about the long history of understanding the true and tragic knowledge of the human condition.

Hello Worthy Lovers, welcome back to Valet Amandum Podcast with your host Yega. In today's episode, we're going to have a conversation about Omnibus Law with my good friend Athar. It is in my deep interest to steel man that bill, and to give credit where credit due. Because I'm beginning to feel a little bit tired from hearing people's comments that only straw man the bill. John Stuart Mill talks about this in his book On Liberty, "He who knows only his own side of the case, knows little of that. His reasons may be good, and no one may have been able to refute them. But if he is equally unable to refute the reasons on the opposite side; if he does not so much as know what they are, he has no ground for preferring either opinion."

And so there are 3 things that we're gonna talk about. The teleology of this bill, the pros and cons, and the dynamics of the discussion that we have regarding this bill. Athar tells me to give you a disclaimer that at the time of this podcast, he just woke up from his nap. However, let me assure you that the ideas we're going to propose in this episode are far from boring or even gullible.

Perhaps, my only apologies to you guys are about the sound quality. Athar's headset is broken so sometimes you'll hear my sound echoing when I talk, and that's about it. Hope you enjoy this episode!

Hello Worthy Lovers, welcome back to Valet Amandum Podcast with your host Yega. In today's episode, Bahres returns to talk about controversial views and how conversations allow for people to talk about them. We also talk about Skin in The Game and First Principle Reasoning. I hope you guys enjoy this episode!

Timestamp: (01:30) Risk in making controversial ideas. (02:15) Virtue is risk-taking. (04:28) What Bahres tries to do with his song. (11:50) Be careful about discussing ideal. (13:35) The problem with certain kinds of intellectuals. (21:29) The pursuit of trying to solve the problem with consciousness. (26:13) Perfecting the ways to find the truth, not the truth itself. (27:15) The problem lies in the interpretation. (29:05) We might never find the answer, but we can always try. (30:15) Talking about the stories about the house of wisdom. (32:50) First Principle Reasoning in Islam. (34:53) Write a book when you disagree with someone. (37:00) The fact that we're afraid to find the Truth in other ways. (40:54) Stories about perfection and progress. (44:32) The idea of perfection is an imperfect one. (49:12) Discussing religion critically counts as taboo. (50:07) Finding intellectuals in Indonesia. (Returning to the idea in our first podcast). (52:41) Researching Dukun in Indonesia. (56:31) The best part of Bahres' last song. (59:41) An explanation of satire. (01:00:21) An explanation of meta-satire. (01:02:40) Playing the game or talking about it. (01:05:15) Being critical of your own views. (01:07:11) The necessity of art. (01:08:25) Extending the notion of yourself. (01:09:15) The reason I don't like ideologues. (01:11:32) Two outcomes when you expose your ideas. (01:12:45) Change is painful. (01:17:58) Opening your eyes to places that you don't want to visit. (01:19:21) Move then adjust your goals. (01:22:30) Skin in The Game balances First Principle Reasoning. (01:25:35) Being called out by Nassim Taleb's book. (01:33:11) Quote by Anton Ego from Ratatouille. (01:38:00) How do we define a great artist? (01:38:00) Express? Impress? Both? (01:40:30) Art that works. (01:42:15) The necessary capabilities in expressing and impressing. (01:44:48) The 3rd argument about art. (01:47:23) Skillset about expressing can impress someone. (01:50:08) The market aspect of art. (01:53:40) The notion of high culture and low culture. (01:56:13) The 4th argument about art. (02:02:42) Experts need skin in the game.

Hello Worthy Lovers, balik lagi sama Yega disini. Karena minggu ini yang sangat padat, maka untuk episode kali ini gua akan menjawab beberapa pertanyaan yang udah kalian ajukan di Instagram gua. Thank you so much buat yang udah tanya. I'll try to answer your question with the best of my abilities. Hope you enjoy this QnA! | Timestamp: (00:50) Tips untuk mengingat hal-hal menarik yang udah dibaca di sebuah buku. (02:13) Novel Romance Favorit. (O3:15) Ebook atau Buku Fisik. (04:35) Tipe baca buku. (06:49) Cara milih buku untuk dibaca.

Hello Worthy Lovers, you’re in for a treat today. We have Mahari back in the podcast. And since we’ve talked last time she has grown a lot. She’s the chief product officer at Satu Persen - Indonesian Life School. She’s also a mentor that helps deals with life problems, from overthinking to your love life. Her start-up, Future Parents Project, has collaborated with a lot of brands including CintaSetara, TigaGenerasi, ChildPlace, and many more. But that’s not all, she’s also been accepted on her graduate study in the Faculty of Psychology at Universitas of Indonesia. And in celebrating that I’m uploading an old recording on the both of us. Hope you enjoy it! | Timestamp: (04:20) Yang Mahari rasakan saat mendapatkan juara harapan 2 di Final Abnon Jakarta. (08:20) Analogi untuk menjelaskan situasi pada saat Final Abnon. (13:22) Gak menang boleh bahagia. (17:43) Challenging the idea of ‘All emotions are Valid’. (20:40) Humanistic approach in looking at emotions. (22:25) Output yang terbatas. (24:21) Menikmati kesedihan. (26:30) Ada framework Achievement over Fullfilment. (28:00) Bersyukur as a mode of being. (30:50) From Tactics to Being. (36:38) Bringing awareness and soul in your work. (42:35) Ketika value yang ditawarkan tidak cocok dengan organisasinya. (45:15) Perbedaan fundamental antar staff dan bph di BEM. (50:41) Yang menarik ketika jadi orang tua. (55:53) What does it mean to be a good BPH? (01:00:37) What do you miss most about being a BPH? (01:01:51) Lanjut atau tidak lanjut. (01:03:55) Kenapa Mahari mau jadi TI pada saat itu? (01:06:00) Penjelasan atas Attachment terhadap organisasi. (01:09:45) Side story gua kenapa tertarik sama BEM. (01:13:00) Pendapat Mahari tentang podcast pertamanya. (01:17:25) Matching your heartbeat with the heartbeat of the universe. (01:21:43) What is the best way to matter in this world? (01:24:32) Interpretasi tulisan John Green.