🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A

2021. 4. 5

🔹Question : Hello Sunim, Thank you very much for this precious opportunity, I have been watching your videos for many years. I’m from Sweden and right now I’m in Taiwan learning Chinese. I have been separated from my son since 2009 due to perjury. From 2009 until now I have no contact whatsoever with my son. I do not know how he lookslike now. In 2014, the Swedish Court of Appeal stated that my son and I should be reunited. But again, because of foul play, this ruling was annulled by his father. My question is, should I practice moral courage and speak out against this human rights violation and injustice? Or should I just keep quite? How does it relate to the dependent origination and equanimity?

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🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A

September 19, 2021

🔹Question : I get extremely stressed living with my mother and my husband because of their differences, and also from having to care for my mother-in-law who has cancer. The thing that stresses me a lot is the fact that my mother is helping too much around the house. Now that my mother-in-law is living with us, the amount of work that she’s doing at my house is unbearable and as a daughter, it stressesme out.

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🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A

2023. 12. 19

🔹Question : (Questioner)I translated my question into English using Google Translator. So, please understand that it may be a bit awkward for other audience members. My question is...first, thank you for your valuable time. I know that this opportunity to ask questions is rare, like today. I thought carefully about what questions I would ask. I have many concerns and questions. I thought about why I have these thoughts and why I'm worried about them. I think it is because my words and actions do not match. As I raise my children, I hear all the tips people giveabout how it is good to do this or how to do something that is helpful. But there are many things that I do not put into practice. How can I improve my current situation of not putting them into practice? I know what I should do,but I don't do due to laziness

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🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A

2022. 2. 19

🔹Question : Hello Sunim. I live in Torrance, California. Thank you for giving me this opportunity to ask you a question.I have a sister who lives with her husband in country side inKorea.They used to be very rich but they lost all their fortune during IMF,so now, their financial situation is rather precarious.They have a son who is in mid 40s. He lives in Seoul with his wife and a daughter.He has a very seriousillness. He's losing his capability to take care of himself slowly and there's no treatment for that. So there's no hope for getting better. Her husband doesn't want to talk about their son's illness at all. He just ignores and doesn't offer any comfort to her son. So when my sister calls me on the phone,all her financial problems, her son's worsening disability, and her husband's indifferent attitude. So she has a lot of unhappy things going on in her life. And she says, "Sister, I envy you. You don't have any of my problems. That's why you're happy."That's true, really I'm very happy and I have none of her problems. I really don't know what to say to her. My question is when my situation is much better than hers, I don't experience any of her difficulties in her life, how can I offer any comfort to her? What is practical things I cando to reduce her unhappiness? Thank you. (Sunim) Do you want me to provide you words of comforts or provide you an objective analysis of the situation? (Questioner) What I want is when you're in a much better situation and when you hearsomeone's difficulty, I have so many problems, is there any thing I can offer to be helpful? Or I can say, "Yes, I studied Buddhism. I listen to the Dharma talk of Sunim. So all your problem is in your mind. This is the Buddhist truth." I don't think that's a very kind way to say things. So, both waysI want to hear. Thank you.

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🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A

2019. 12. 3

🔹Question :Bottom of Form I’m recently looking to change careers. And due to incidents with my current living situation, I ended up moving back home with my parents. And it has been very interesting to be once again home and as a master role, a daughter, and not an independent person who is capable of doing whatever I would like, whenever I would like, where I would like in my own space and being sponsible for myself. And so I feel as though a lot of times I must be obedient first to my parents. But now that I am searching to change my career and pursue higher education, I find it difficult to make those decisions with my parents so close all of the time because they do care and they do love me. But I think there is a struggle for me to make good choices for myself but also be a good daughter. And I’m wondering if youcould provide some advice.

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🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A

October 10, 2021

🔹Question :Bottom of Form My wife and I married a few moths ago, but we’ve been seeing each other for a few years even before then. My question is she has a demanding career, and as a result, she’s stressed from trying to meet both her own and outside expectations. Is there any recommendation or advice as her partner. How I can support more effectively?

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🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A

October 10, 2021

🔹Question : My mother seems like a very negative person. She tends to criticize and finds something bad in almosteverything and everyone. She doesn't seem to appreciate anything or anyone in her life. I see this makes everyone around her suffer, but especially herself. But I know she can not and will not change by herself. How should I make peacewith this? Sometimes I wish I had no family, because it's nothing but a source of suffering. But please don't tell me just stop seeing her or my family. That may be technically possible, in fact already happening with some members of my family. But I won't find peace in doing so.

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🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A 

Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (Aug. 28, 2023) 

🔹Question: I'm a mom of a five year old boy.

I filed a divorce when my son was 14 months old.

Then I went through an extremely high conflict divorce litigation over three years. My son has been living back and forth between my house and his father's ever since.

He does not hate his father, but he does not like to go to his house. His lifestyle has a lot of inconsistency and he says he experiences tiredness. His academic plans and extracurricular activities are greatly affected and becoming limited due to the arrangement.

My ex-husband always sends me threats, complaints, and messages and violates the order here and there only to try to upset me.

I feel great difficulties raising my son this way and often the excess behavior and messages disrupt my mind to be peaceful.

I learned to manage my peace by listening to your talks.

But how should I explain to my son his situation and how should I treat and raise him for another 13 years to minimize my karmic result on him?

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🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A

Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (July 19, 2021)

🔹Question : I want my kids not hating me when I walk away from their mother for a divorce. What is the buddhist's way to deal with this?

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🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A

2023. 11. 2.

🔹Question : We, as most people, are now living in such fast paced societies, and are so much focused on just one thing, and forget what's really important in our lives. For example, we can be focused on earning money and live almost not knowing what our priority is, like health, family, or even our own happiness. I want to ask Sunim, "In that case, where do we put a breakpoint and how?" Like if we lost where we are, sometimes we have to look back, put a break point, and look back to what the priorities are. To some people, maybemoney is priority, and to some people, happiness or families are priority. But we lose that during the time of chasing for something that we want. Sometimes we regret once...

For example, some people may be chasing for one thing andfind out that they're sick. And then, that's when they become,  "Why didn't I think of that ahead of time?" So, from time to time, there must be some ways you can put a breakto it and rethink of your life.

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