To my veteran community, time for some tough love.
Before you ask for help, please first help yourself!
Whatever struggle you are facing, don't wait for solution.
1) Identify the problem
2) Come up with a plan to solve the problem
3) Ask others to make your plan better
4) Execute the plan.
Credit: Donny O'Malley
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PUSz0ZRdEHE&list=PLrDRwNBfES7hJSjBeJuD28nV2ZSrp1M9u