Vibes and Feelings

2020 has been plain disrespectful. Let’s talk about it.

What you sow is what you reap. How healthy is your garden? How are you nurturing the most important garden in the world? As we explore next steps and what’s next after the pandemic let’s do some self evaluation and reflection. Let’s understand the different things we need to work on for this new season.

With so much going on in the world there’s still the question of what’s next? What will life be like after the pandemic? What is next for me? I may not have all the answers but I hope today’s episode provides some encouragement and gets you thinking of new and creative opportunities. Yes, this pandemic and social unrest is a lot and the idea of what life will be like after is scary, especially for the millions of people out of work, but we must keep the faith. We must keep pushing forward.

Candid thoughts and emotions about the violence and murders against unarmed black people, especially as it relates to the news of George Floyd. There’s also a quick discussion on allyship and three ways you can be an ally if you’re not black.

Which type of scrub have you encountered in your dating life? Today’s episode features a roundtable discussion where we explore and share stories about:

* The “go with the flow” scrub – this scrub has no real direction or intention for your relationship/dating and is honestly just dating to date. Looking to see how things go.* The “boomerang” scrub – Always comes back. Loves to ensure they always have access. Sends the random miss you text. They try to rekindle when you’re doing well and most likely have healed from them.* The “cheap” scrub – this scrub is extremely cheap when it comes to courting and even in relationships he tends to be the let me borrow this, let me borrow that, let me drop you off at work, let me take your car and/or can you pay for this.

Finally, the ladies and I take a moment to discuss our own red flags, how we have been “scrubs” in our own dating lives and how we’ve grown through it all.

Enjoy, Sugs.

Who would you want to quarantine with? No, I’m not just talking the physical, but think about their qualities, morals, how they smell, how they make you feel. Now think about your prospects, they guys you’ve dated, the guy or girl you are dating? Do they make you feel the same. Do you get excited? Do you know the values that you want or need in a partner? Today’s episode we discuss non-negotiables – let’s explore.

No, I’m not talking about the 90s hit sitcom with Max, Overton, Synclaire and the gang. In today’s episode we explore singleness and what it means to sit in singleness. If you find yourself unsure of what that means take a moment to meditate on the below.

1. Can you be alone?

2. Do you have trust issues?

3. Do you now what you want from your next relationship?

4. Are you still healing from broken wounds?

5. Who are you and what do you stand for?

6. Do you enjoy your own company?

7. What gifts have you uncovered or discovery of yourself?

8. Do you obsess over being in a relationship or finding your person?

9. If your were to be single for the next year, how would you feel?

If you find yourself unsure or unable to answer these questions then this episode is for you.

Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. When you let fear reign, you miss out on 100% of the opportunities you could have taken. Fear won't even allow you to taste failure, so how can you ever expect to experience success?

Sticks and stones can break your bones, but, can words really hurt you? Let's explore the importance and power of words.