Storytelling Therapy and Life Coaching by Shelley Carney provides the viewer with a new experience in relaxation and meditation using our most basic human love of stories and a soothing, ASMR quality voice. Starting with quotes from the I Ching, Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, Oprah Winfrey, Stephen Covey, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Helen Keller, Amy Poehler, Robert Louis Stevenson, Robert Collier and others, these integrated stories bring life coaching concepts into full use and help us to create a more fulfilling and joyful experience.

"The Voice of Encouragement" tells a story of a group of frogs who help each other through a difficult time and how one frog triumphs while another gives up. 

People who gather to share common problems and experiences associated with a particular problem, condition, illness, or personal circumstance are the most likely to overcome challenges and enjoy the journey. In a support group, people are able to talk with others who are like themselves, who truly understand what they're going through and can share the type of practical insights that can only come from firsthand experience.

When you announce your goals to others along with the steps you’ll take to achieve them, the social risk involved in failing can hold you more accountable to your plan. At the same time, when you achieve those steps and share that success with your support group, they cheer and further inspire you to reach for goals you would not have otherwise tried on your own.

If you're facing a stressful life change, you don't have to go it alone. Belonging to a support group who can provide guidance and assistance is a transformative vehicle for achieving your goals more quickly and easily. Growth and development in isolation is incredibly difficult, lonely and easy to quit. The bigger your goals, the more social support you will ultimately need to be successful.

Being coached with a group of your peers will take you to the next level of understanding and application of whatever you most want to work on. Many people feel intimidated to have a private coaching session because they're not really sure what to say or do.

When you are a part of a coaching group, there is less pressure. You don't have to prepare for the session, bring a topic or questions or be able to articulate anything. You have the opportunity to learn from others and to feel that you belong. You are not alone.

Group coaching is a very active, participatory situation where you receive tools and exercises, ask questions and go through processes together. So at the end of the session, you will have witnessed emotional growth in yourself, other members and the group as a whole.

A group coaching session is your opportunity to be yourself and know that is enough. Your coaching group will hold space without judgment and help you see your own thinking and how it affects your feelings, actions and results. Your coaching group can provide the friendship, support and love that surrounds you with the encouragement you need to finally succeed.

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What is the hunger scale? Why am I always hungry? What can I do to control my hunger and my weight? So many of us have difficulty with controlling our desire to eat (including me!) and want to understand what to do to change that. Join Shelley and Toby to discuss how to know when we are truly hungry or not and the best way to gain control when it comes to food choices.

This podcast was recorded on Friday, November 8, 2019. 

Disclaimer: All media content provided by Shelley Carney and Toby Younis of The Softer Side is intended for entertainment or educational purposes only. None of this content is intended to offer or replace qualified professional medical or health related advice. The author accepts no responsibility or liability whatsoever for any injury loss or damage in any shape or form incurred in part or in whole as a direct or indirect result of use or reliance upon the information and material presented here.

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Changing our habits to enjoy a healthier future is a beautiful goal that comes with using up our willpower and fighting urges. How can we learn to allow urges and other feelings while still sticking to our plan? Join Shelley and Toby to discuss the process of overcoming urges to change our habits and behaviors so we can learn to achieve any goal.

This podcast was recorded on Wednesday, November 6, 2019. 

Disclaimer: All media content provided by Shelley Carney and Toby Younis of The Softer Side is intended for entertainment or educational purposes only. None of this content is intended to offer or replace qualified professional medical or health related advice. The author accepts no responsibility or liability whatsoever for any injury loss or damage in any shape or form incurred in part or in whole as a direct or indirect result of use or reliance upon the information and material presented here.

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Storytelling Therapy and Life Coaching by Shelley Carney provides the viewer with a new experience in relaxation and meditation using our most basic human love of stories and a soothing, ASMR quality voice. Starting with quotes from the I Ching, Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, Oprah Winfrey, Stephen Covey, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Michaelangelo, Pablo Picasso, Robert Louis Stevenson, Robert Collier and others, these integrated stories bring life coaching concepts into full use and help us to create a more fulfilling and joyful experience.

"The Life We Build" tells a story of a man who wishes to retire but is asked to perform one last job. When he relies on excuses instead of his commitment to excellence, he finds out that he harms himself most of all.

It’s so important to have a clear and compelling reason for what you are doing. Because it keeps you going through the inevitable turmoil that will occur between where you are now and achieving your dreams. 

If your reason is money to purchase stuff, a vacation or a lifestyle, it’s not compelling enough. If you want to be successful just to enjoy a comfortable lifestyle, you’re not going to be willing to go through the necessary discomfort inherent in achieving your goals just to have that comfort. You’re never going to work as hard as you have to work to get to your goal of working less. The journey to get there is incongruent and the opposite of why you’re doing it. The cost is more than the reward.

A compelling and clear reason is so much stronger than all our excuses. For some people, it’s taking care of their family, retiring their husbands or their wives, moving into a bigger, better house or neighborhood, or helping their aging parents.

When you feel that conviction of your purpose, you know that it’s compelling enough because nothing you have to go through to get it matters. Your future is worth it. 

What if your reason isn’t compelling enough? Create one that is! You have to dig deep and figure out what is really important to you. Ask yourself: How does pushing toward your imperative goal move you further away from suffering?

Create a reason that generates an emotion that will overcome doubt, frustration, laziness, and confusion. When your reason is truly compelling and creates a driving determination for you, everything else becomes clearer. You don’t waste time. You get to work, knowing your purpose and committing to it.

Commitment means you have a willingness to be uncomfortable, that all other options are removed and the necessary steps are non-negotiable. To fully commit immediately invites risk. Your compelling reason is what will make that risk worth taking. By accepting that risk and honoring your commitment, you will become more resilient, more determined, and more successful. These results will add fuel to your compelling reason and increase your desire to evolve.

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Losing weight can feel like an endless battle of willpower vs. urges. How can we win this battle and lose the weight while having fun and enjoying the process? Join Shelley to discuss the process of overcoming urges to overeat and the simple and best formula for weight loss.

This podcast was recorded on Friday, November 1, 2019. 

Disclaimer: All media content provided by Shelley Carney and Toby Younis of The Softer Side is intended for entertainment or educational purposes only. None of this content is intended to offer or replace qualified professional medical or health related advice. The author accepts no responsibility or liability whatsoever for any injury loss or damage in any shape or form incurred in part or in whole as a direct or indirect result of use or reliance upon the information and material presented here.

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Why is it so difficult to achieve new goals? How do we step outside our comfort zone without the stress and misery and enjoy ourselves instead? Join Shelley & Toby to discuss the process of changing into a new better version of ourselves and the fun we can have along the way.

This podcast was recorded on Wednesday, October 30, 2019. 

Disclaimer: All media content provided by Shelley Carney and Toby Younis of The Softer Side is intended for entertainment or educational purposes only. None of this content is intended to offer or replace qualified professional medical or health related advice. The author accepts no responsibility or liability whatsoever for any injury loss or damage in any shape or form incurred in part or in whole as a direct or indirect result of use or reliance upon the information and material presented here.

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Storytelling Therapy and Life Coaching by Shelley Carney provides the viewer with a new experience in relaxation and meditation using our most basic human love of stories and a soothing, ASMR quality voice. Starting with quotes from the I Ching, Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, Oprah Winfrey, Stephen Covey, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Michaelangelo, Pablo Picasso, Robert Louis Stevenson, Robert Collier and others, these integrated stories bring life coaching concepts into full use and help us to create a more fulfilling and joyful experience.

"Caring for Turtles" is a story of a retired woman who finds a new purpose in helping those who cannot help themselves. Within this work she makes a difference for herself and others.

So many of us think small. We think in terms of what is possible. When we think about what's possible, we create futures based on our past and by what we've already done.

When you have an impossible goal, you must work towards believing it. We want to start identifying with ourselves from our future, and practice believing in that goal. What is impossible now will be possible later.

You want to have that big goal out in front of you so you have a reason to endure the failures. You want to have a reason to keep going when the results and the evidence aren't there.

We always seem to want evidence and proof that something will work in order to believe in it. We're usually willing to believe in impossible goals only as long as the evidence comes quickly.

So how do we bridge that gap between this impossible goal that we have for ourselves and our immediate reality? 

All impossible goals are created on a pile of failures. You have to start each day with the willingness to fail. Not failing in taking the necessary action, but in realizing the result that you want to create. Continue to take action, to believe in your impossible goal, and be willing to fail until you get there.

When we commit to believing in our goal even though it's impossible, and we release having to know the exact “how” to get there, then we can start taking action. Just take the next action based on where you are today.

If you don't get results right away, shift your focus back to your belief in the goal and in yourself, then take the next action. Even though you're "failing" because the results aren't there yet, you're still moving forward. If you just keep taking your next best action, all of those tiny little steps lead to the ultimate big step. 

Think of your goal, get excited about it, create a vision and then do the little task that is in front of you today. That is how you will get there.

How do we move forward when our brains tell us to stay safely where we are? How can we open up to new experiences and leave our old habits behind? Join Shelley & Toby to discuss the process of changing from who and where we are now to becoming our best selves and living the lives we truly desire.

This podcast was recorded on Friday, October 25, 2019. 

Disclaimer: All media content provided by Shelley Carney and Toby Younis of The Softer Side is intended for entertainment or educational purposes only. None of this content is intended to offer or replace qualified professional medical or health related advice. The author accepts no responsibility or liability whatsoever for any injury loss or damage in any shape or form incurred in part or in whole as a direct or indirect result of use or reliance upon the information and material presented here.

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When other people try to emotionally manipulate us with their words, how can we step back, analyze and learn about them from what they've said instead of reacting with negativity and hurt? Join Shelley & Toby to discuss the best way to deal with the people who try to emotionally manipulate us into reacting in the way they want and instead, take the high road to peace and love.

This podcast was recorded on Wednesday, October 23, 2019. 

Disclaimer: All media content provided by Shelley Carney and Toby Younis of The Softer Side is intended for entertainment or educational purposes only. None of this content is intended to offer or replace qualified professional medical or health related advice. The author accepts no responsibility or liability whatsoever for any injury loss or damage in any shape or form incurred in part or in whole as a direct or indirect result of use or reliance upon the information and material presented here.

#LifeCoach #EmotionalManipulation #WordsCantHurtMe

Storytelling Therapy and Life Coaching by Shelley Carney provides the viewer with a new experience in relaxation and meditation using our most basic human love of stories and a soothing, ASMR quality voice. Starting with quotes from the I Ching, Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, Oprah Winfrey, Stephen Covey, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Michaelangelo, Pablo Picasso, and others, these integrated stories bring life coaching concepts into full use and help us to create a more fulfilling and joyful experience.

"The Promise of Something Better" tells the story of a young boy who learns to let go of something small in order to receive something great.