VNfiniti Podcast

As people we are hardwired to prevent pain. Seriously, the makeup of our brains prevents us from self-harm. This will sometimes manifest in the form of a lie with the complete intent to avoid such pain. We all do it, right? But does it really work? Can we lie and truly avoid pain? Perhaps but in the long run even, if it’s ourselves someone, usually gets hurt. And our plan for self-preservation has only bought us time but not complete avoidance of the one thing we were trying to avoid, pain.  Deep down inside who are we striving to be? Honesty is a virtue belonging to people who hold themselves to high moral and ethical standards. Veracity still exist. Even after making mistakes, part of being honest is facing it and forgiving ourselves. This too allows some freedom of burdens in order to grow. No one’s damning anyone or expecting perfection. However, authenticity should be easy, as much as telling the truth. Chil save erybody from unnecessary dramas and  fallacies of deceit and just be yourself.

In this episode of VNfiniti we are sharing tips in an effort to close the wealth gap, leave assets to the next generation of thinkers, doers & trailblazers. Yes, we are aware that systematic inequalities have contributed to racial disparities. However, we also know that there’s a vast amount of knowledge and resources available to us if we’d simply access them. Here’s the thing, our ancestors ascended from slavery building businesses and acquiring mass wealth against all odds. During this time, a number of Black Wall Streets emerged throughout the states, until decimated by envious, lazy white mobs. As a result, from the early 1920’s up until policies and laws were changed in the latter 1900’s, systemic symptoms crippled our communities with poverty. So, the question posed now is, what’s keeping the black community from rising in the ranks of accruing wealth? The blueprints are written, whether we refer to them or re-invent the wheel, what changes will you make today to change your reality for tomorrow?

So, after we pull through what many will refer to as one of the most brutal and eventful years of our lifetime, we decided to share our own verdict and recap our venture into our podcast. I think it’s fair to say that many of us came in with 20/20 vision, to what we prematurely deemed to be a ground-breaking and evolutionary year. We manifested, prayed and affirmed new paths into love, life and the pursuit of happiness. Little did we know how 2020 was going to blaze its own path, leaving its mark on the world with or without us. Now, of us who survived this year we will forever be changed. Whether from the heartbreak of losing someone to COVID-19 or experiencing the illness personally. Or witnessing the police brutality, war on racism, or the election of the first Female & BLACK vice president.  However, we will come out of this year as any other year if we’re blessed to see the next one with hopes of enlightenment and lessons learned to carry us over in the years that follow.  Whew…Praise to the Highest when 2021 arrives!

Do we allow people to veer and change their paths of growth, even if it’s not in the direction that we prefer? Do we grant others the grace they need to evolve? Do we dismiss people if their growth doesn’t benefit us? Evolution is inevitable. We as people progress, regress and digress depending on where we are in our life’s journey and per our own individual paths. Life is the best teacher, it can be difficult sometimes to watch people we care about veer in the wrong direction. We often want to intervene to save people from their mistakes or downfalls, forgetting that it’s not our responsibility to save them from themselves. Those experiences and lessons are vital for our maturity. Sometimes, when we can’t save people from their shit, as a defense or coping mechanism, we veer off in a different direction. We may do this in an effort to save ourselves from the heartache that their actions might bring or because we feel bitter about their life’s choices especially if they don’t coincide with our own. However, we say to you, be not envious, overbearing, spiteful or vengeful towards others and their paths. Instead, be compassionate towards others by allowing them the time and grace needed to grow into the individual they desire to be, even if that means veering off onto a path of their own.

It is no secret that we, as Americans, are the number one consumers in the world. I know what you’re thinking, tangible items we collect such as electronics, cars, clothes, and other trinkets. But there are also non-tangible things we collect that aren’t always visible such as stress, relationships, negative influence, and most importantly our own way of thinking! We're talking volume with special guest, motivational speaker, and author Dwayne Ijames. In this episode, we take a look at how much is too much; how we cope when capacity is reached; and, how to even recognize when we’ve reached our limit.

During presidential elections you can barely focus on much else. Every TV station, radio station and topics of discussion center around who gets your vote and why. While choosing a president is a big decision as well as an effective one for our futures; there are key components that can be missed. These key components lie right under our nose, our local elections! Let’s be honest, local politics take research! We are force fed tons of information like those running for president, but local policies can affect us MOST! No matter your affiliation, do your research people and VOTE! So, in today’s podcast lend an ear.

We know that sometimes people enter situations on the strength of the benefits. Whether it’s marriage or a relationship, with or without kids. However, problems arise and things end prematurely. For the individuals who are benefiting and have altered their lives accordingly, how do they move forward after separations?

There’s so much to be said about the desires of women, but can those desires to be heard if they push the limits or are downright freaky? We've all heard “I want a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets”. As if what we do as women have to be kept secret. Listen, we get it, one doesn’t have to broadcast her sexual escapades for the world to know but if the discussion came up and us as women wanted to chime in can we do so without judgement? Times have certainly progressed. We run countries, companies, homes; have been Queens, Princesses and walked with presidents. But as women, sexual aggression is still wading water at the door of acceptance. In this episode we are kicking down the door and no longer ASKING for permission to express our sexual prowess, we’re storming in heads held high and healed from all the trama it took to get here. No shame, no regrets, and not a care of any opinion who tries to suppress female venery! Let's chat hot pocket coochie talk!

Cancel Culture the act of canceling or “call-out culture” describes a form of boycott of individuals or entities that have acted or spoken in a questionable or controversial manner. The 1st amendment protects the right to speak freely and protest things of which we don’t agree with. However, not every offense warrants the public shaming, dismissing or discarding that some have suffered from sharing these beliefs publicly. Human error is inevitable but mostly everyone is entitled to redemption. Social Media also allow for disputes, debates, disagreements and protest. But if we allow for #CallOut culture to mute behaviors we don’t agree with, we may not be afforded the opportunity for thinking to evolve over time, apologies, counseling’s or enlightenment on the part of the offender. Is this trend moving us backwards? Is #CancelCulture best #Voided for the rest of 2020, an already canceled year?

Victim or Villain? Why do good girls like bad guys? Every girl wants a bad guy who will be good just for her and every guy wants a good girl who will be bad just for him. Is she really a bad girl who hasn’t been caught? Does a good girl turn bad because she’s bored? Is it that bad boys aren’t good for her? Or is it that good guys are no fun? No matter how you spin it, no one wants to be a victim. Or, do you? Most villains don’t start out as villains, they often start out as victims. Are you a victim turned villain or a villain turned victim?