Wait, Is This A Date?

The year: 2017. The day: the beginning of Pride Month. Big Little Lies and The Good Fight had recently released their first seasons. Rihanna had an album out the previous year. Images from Carol still danced across our feeds with a swooning urgency. The air was hot with the sparkle of new life. June 1, 2017: Mommi was born.

Former Autostraddle writer Erin Sullivan and current Autostraddle managing editor Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya co-wrote an article titled, "Mommi Is the New Daddy" and our lives were never the same.

I had only come out a couple months prior so it's safe to say I've never really known a gay world without mommi. And why would I want to? Whether you are a mommi, like to date mommis, or are just an admirer from afar, we all have reasons to appreciate this gay archetype named a mere five years ago.

But amid all this mommi madness, I started to think of the actual moms. Some moms are mommis, but, of course, not all. And while we love to discuss mommis, moms — like people with actual children — are sometimes left out of the gay dating convo. And that's why we're so excited that for our season two premiere we have Autostraddle's director of operations — and real-life mom — Laneia Jones to talk to Christina and I about all things dating as a mom. And before that great convo, we have mommi co-creator Kayla on to play a little mommi game!

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We're back babyyyy! Season 2 is finally here with a whole new lineup of special guests, hilarious games, and your classic WITAD dating advice! New episodes air every Wednesday!

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Happy holidays! And by "happy" I mean, things sure feel really bad right now?? And most of us have probably had our holiday plans changed once again?? But luckily our gift to you is a virtual one aka our long-awaited mailbag episode!

We get into tough feelings surrounding non-monogamy, fictional characters we'd want on the pod, and so much more. Thank you to everyone who sent in questions!

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Thank you all so much for an incredible first season

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How could we talk about queer dating without talking about astrology and tarot? Whether you're swapping charts with your crush or showing off your latest deck, astrology and tarot are often go-to spiritual practices for your average queer.

To talk about all things astrology and tarot, we have Autostraddle writer and professional tarot reader Meg Jones Wall of 3am.tarot. We get into their role in queer community and queer dating and then Meg reads Christina and I's cards!

This very special episode of Wait, Is This a Date? is our season one finale! If you liked our first season leave us a review and we hope to be back with even more queer dating soon!

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This episode was sponsored by Candlewick Press and The Heartbreak Bakery! Available now wherever books are sold! You can check out a recipe for Syd's Breakup Brownies and a sample chapter of The Heartbreak Bakery here, and in our Autostraddle show post!

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Is it a date or are we just friends? Why not both! This week we're talking about fucking your friends with Autostraddle community editor and fucking your friends expert Vanessa Friedman. We get into the difference between friends with benefits and one time encounters and the range from drug fueled nights to thoughtful discussions over tea. Is platonic sex a thing? Listen and find out! And to start us off we have a good ol' fashioned game of Would You Rather? — with a personalized twist.

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This week we're joined by writer, To L and Back co-host, future TV exec, and Drew's roommate Analyssa Lopez! We're talking about first dates — the who, the what, the where, the why, AND the how. But before we get into our real dating lives, Christina fanfics some of our favorite queer celebs in a game of Love Triangles!

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Wipe away those break up tears because we're going to show you that love is not a lie! This week we have Autostraddle editor and all around icon Heather Hogan talking about her 11 year(!!) relationship with her wife and all things long term relationships. But first! We celebrate being reunited after an eventful summer and play a game of guess the show from the fanfic!

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Dating isn't all sexting and thirst traps. It's also heartbreak. This week on "Wait, Is This a Date?" we're joined by Autostraddle's very own sex and dating editor Ro White to discuss break ups. We're talking break up strategy, when to break up, and the gay tradition of remaining friends afterward. But first! We begin with a free association of break ups to cancel culture and play a game of Is This a Real Queer Celebrity Scandal or Did Drew Just Make It Up? Fun!

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Our episode topic this week is Best Sex Ever so we are talking about… the best sex we've ever had! We're joined by Autostraddle writer, poet, and journalist Dani Janae as we get into some steamy anecdotes followed by an in-depth discussion about what makes good sex good. And we spend a lot of time on Drew's sexual hang ups that she may or may not have actually done a lot of work on this summer! Come for the lesbian movie-themed game, stay for the coming.

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What comes after DM slides? Sexting! Or if you're for some of us there are like six more steps. Nevertheless our main topic this week is sexting and we're joined by the extremelet talented writer Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya!

We start with a game of "Sapho or Drew's 2014 Journal" before getting into all the ins and outs of sextual relationships. We're talking tenses, we're talking instigation, we're talking pictures — including the vast possibilities of the Live Photo. This week our direct communication is even hotter than usual!

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