Happy 2024 my Wala’au Ohana! This was a fun episode on me discussing things I find as a foundation since started back on the dating scene. It’s been busy not with the dating but just life and traveling so I am excited to finally record this!

Opinions are by my friend Dustin P and I (Greg). We go over a “wala’au” fashion. I promise our thoughts are organized (somewhat) LOL. But hope you enjoy listening to our personal insights of navigating the dating and/marriage life.

How co-dependency makes relationships to ruin. Leads to resentment and more. I also share how relationship with self and save space. Saving space definition not mentioned in my podcast but is when you allow an appointment like time frame to share what ever they want without interruptions. I also include a discussion Dr. Chatterjee explains of anxiety builds up by trying to follow society without having your own sense of identity.

I go over my Segway of how to view relationships and then how to find a sense of security for yourself. Personal stories shared from my fear of public speaking and more. Take a listen and be sure to comment, rate and follow me for this new Season! My email to reach out to is [email protected] for collabs and/or topic ideas/suggestions.

Season 2 will begin on April 1st! Be sure to follow so you can be subscribed to my podcast. First episode will go over how to have self-awareness in knowing you can have a fruitful relationship when it comes to future conflict.

You a workaholic? My identity was heavily focused on pleasing people and working so much that I thought it was second nature to be that way with everyone. Working from a young age you develop these interpersonal skills with customer service. That led me to staying busy but if I didn’t realize that was my form of numbing I think I would not be sane. Take a listen to this last episode of Season 1 in my Wala’au Productions.

For real, trauma bonding is a mind trip. It is also loosely coined in the media or entertainment. People who have abusive relationships need to be their biggest advocate to want to leave a relationship that is a trauma bond. #lovebombing to #noreallove

Disclaimer: explicit language was used. Parental discretion should be advised. My good friend Angelo and San Diego native is sitting to talk story or past relationships. Reflecting and learning that over-extending in a relationship can be the downfall for a long-term connection. You should not be putting all the work in. Both should be putting the time before that other person may take advantage. Side note: the word I meant to say was Patriarchy!! Listen through to see where the word should of been used…LOL!

Ways to over come confirmation bias with victim mentality. Sharing experience from marriage. Being able to heal is to learn from things that happened. I also discuss learned helplessness in how it only makes relationship unhealthy. My hope is that people who want to be in a relationship do not do it purely out of convenience but out actual partnership.

Discussing how i was with one who seemed to have signs of a boarder line narcissistic person. Also, small dive into PsychCentral info on relationship attachment styles.