Why do some people seem so emotionally distant—even in relationships they care deeply about?

In this episode, Kelli and I are talking all about the dismissive avoidant attachment style—what it looks like, where it comes from, and how it quietly shapes our closest relationships. Whether you've been on the receiving end of someone's emotional walls, or you're realizing you might be the one who pulls away when things get too close, this conversation is for you.

We’ll unpack:

• What dismissive avoidant attachment actually is (spoiler: it’s not coldness—it’s self-protection).

• The key traits that often show up in real life.

• Why dismissive avoidants do care, even if it doesn’t always look like it.

• What it’s like to love or live with someone who keeps their heart guarded.

• And yes—what healing can look like, with time, safety, and grace.

We’ll also share a few “This might sound like you if…” moments that may hit close to home, along with gentle reflection questions to help you go deeper.

If you’ve ever felt like emotional closeness is overwhelming—or if you love someone who seems to push you away—this episode will offer clarity, compassion, and a little hope that change is possible.

Books on Attachment:

Attached by Dr. Amir Levine

The New Rules of Attachment by Dr. Judy Ho

Anxiously Attached by Jessica Baum, LMHC

The Anxious Hearts Guide by Rikki Cloys

**You can find these books on Amazon**

Creators on social media that I found helpful on my journey:

Dr. Sarah Hensley (She is on all platforms). Her website is thelovedoc.com

Mack (on TikTok)

Jbirdfit (On all platforms)

Natashavctoria (TikTok)

Anxious Hearts Guide (TikTok and IG) (She was anxious and her partner was dismissive avoidant and they now have a healthy relationship)