Kelli and I had such a real conversation today about that little dash between the day we’re born and the day we leave this earth. That dash is our one life—what are we doing with it? We talk about being intentional with our time and our words, treasuring the moments with the people we love, and making sure no one ever has to wonder how we feel. It’s about living full out, being bold, and not wasting the gift of each day we’re given.

If you found value in my podcast be sure to follow, share and leave a review. If you'd like to connect further you can find me on Instagram @coachingwithraynea.

Your identity isn’t up for debate — it’s already been spoken over you by God. But if we’re honest, the voices of others can feel louder than His sometimes. In today’s episode, we’ll dive into why we care so much about what people think, how to untangle our worth from approval, and how the Let Them mindset can help us walk in freedom. If you’re ready to stop shrinking to fit into other people’s boxes and start standing in who God says you are, this episode is for you.

Identity as a Child of God:

Child of God: Romas 8:16 and John 1:12 affirm that believers are children of God

Adopted Child: Ephesians 1:5 state that believers are adopted as God's children.

Heir: Romans 8:17 says that believers are heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ.

Friend of Jesus: John 15:15 says that believers are friends of Jesus.

United with Christ: 1 Corinthians 6:17 says that believers are united with the Lord

Complete in Christ: Colosians 2: 9-10 says that believers are complete in Christ.

Redeemed and Forgiven: Colosians 1:13-14 says that believers have been redeemed and forgiven.

Sealed by the Holy Spirit: Ephesians 1:13 says that believers are sealed with the Holy Spirit.

Temple of the Holy Spirit: Corinthians 6:19 says that believers bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit.

Chosen by God: Ephesians 1:4, 11 sasys that believers are chosen by God.

Justified: Romans 5:1 says that believers have been justified.

New Creation: 2 Corinthians 5:17 says that believers are a new creation.

Free from Condemnation: Romans 8:1-2 says that believers are free from condemnation.

Citizens of Heaven: Phillippians 3:20 says that believers are citizens of heaven.

Blessed: Ephesians 1:3 says that believers are blessed with every spiritual blessing.

Fearfully and Wonderfully Made: Psalm 139:14 says that believers are fearfully and wonderfully made.

Worth More Than Sparrow: Matthew 10:31 says that believers are worth more than many sparrows.

If you found value in my podcast be sure to follow, share and leave a review. If you'd like to connect further you can find me on Instagram @coachingwithraynea.

What do you do when the last child leaves the house—and the quiet sets in? And what if you're still raising kids, but you've already walked five out the door?

In this heartfelt episode, Kelli shares what it’s been like watching her stepdaughter—the last to leave—step into adulthood, officially making her a new member of the empty nest club. I (Raynea) reflect on the journey of launching five grown kids, while still in the midst of raising two at home. Together, we explore what it means to let go, redefine our roles, and grieve the shifting identity that comes with each stage of motherhood.

Whether your home is quiet or still full of noise and needs, this episode will remind you: you’re not alone in this in-between.

What does it actually look like to feel secure in love, in friendship, in parenting—even in your relationship with God? After talking through the different attachment wounds, today we’re shifting the focus to something so many of us are craving: secure attachment.

In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking:

💡 What secure attachment is (and what it isn’t)

🧠 The mindset and nervous system of someone who feels safe in love

📱 Real-life examples of how secure people respond to triggers and conflict

🌿 How to begin developing secure traits—even if you weren’t raised with them

Healing is possible. Security is learnable. And love doesn’t have to feel like a battlefield. 💛

Books on Attachment:

Attached by Dr. Amir Levine

The New Rules of Attachment by Dr. Judy Ho

Anxiously Attached by Jessica Baum, LMHC

The Anxious Hearts Guide by Rikki Cloys

**You can find these books on Amazon**

Creators on social media that I found helpful on my journey:

Dr. Sarah Hensley (She is on all platforms). Her website is thelovedoc.com

Mack (on TikTok)

Jbirdfit (On all platforms)

Natashavctoria (TikTok)

Anxious Hearts Guide (TikTok and IG) (She was anxious and her partner was dismissive avoidant and they now have a healthy relationship)

Have you ever felt torn between craving closeness and wanting to run the moment someone gets too close? Or maybe you’ve loved someone who’s hot and cold—chasing connection one minute and pulling away the next? In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking the fearful avoidant attachment style, where the need for connection and the fear of being hurt exist side by side.

We’re diving into:

⚡ How fearful avoidant attachment forms
💔 The inner push-pull that can feel like emotional whiplash
👣 How trauma and betrayal shape this style
🔄 Why relationships feel intense, unstable, and hard to trust
🌱 And what healing looks like when you’ve never felt truly safe—either with others or with yourself

Let’s talk about it. Because it’s not about being “too much” or “too broken”—it’s about survival patterns that can be unlearned.

Books on Attachment:

Attached by Dr. Amir Levine

The New Rules of Attachment by Dr. Judy Ho

Anxiously Attached by Jessica Baum, LMHC

The Anxious Hearts Guide by Rikki Cloys

**You can find these books on Amazon**

Creators on social media that I found helpful on my journey:

Dr. Sarah Hensley (She is on all platforms). Her website is thelovedoc.com

Mack (on TikTok)

Jbirdfit (On all platforms)

Natashavctoria (TikTok)

Anxious Hearts Guide (TikTok and IG) (She was anxious and her partner was dismissive avoidant and they now have a healthy relationship)

Do you ever feel like you're too much in relationships? Like you're constantly overthinking, needing reassurance, or afraid someone might leave—even if they haven’t said a word? If that sounds familiar, you might be navigating anxious attachment. In today’s episode, Kelli and I are pulling back the curtain on this deeply emotional and often misunderstood attachment style.

We’re talking about:

💔 Why anxious attachment forms (and why it’s not your fault)
📱 What it looks like in day-to-day life: the texts, the spirals, the second-guessing
🧠 How it plays out in love, parenting, and even our walk with God
🛠️ Tools to move from anxious to anchored
💬 And the truth: your need for connection isn’t too much. It’s human.

Let’s talk about it—because when we understand the why, we start to change the how.

Books on Attachment:

Attached by Dr. Amir Levine

The New Rules of Attachment by Dr. Judy Ho

Anxiously Attached by Jessica Baum, LMHC

The Anxious Hearts Guide by Rikki Cloys

**You can find these books on Amazon**

Creators on social media that I found helpful on my journey:

Dr. Sarah Hensley (She is on all platforms). Her website is thelovedoc.com

Mack (on TikTok)

Jbirdfit (On all platforms)

Natashavctoria (TikTok)

Anxious Hearts Guide (TikTok and IG) (She was anxious and her partner was dismissive avoidant and they now have a healthy relationship)

Why do some people seem so emotionally distant—even in relationships they care deeply about?

In this episode, Kelli and I are talking all about the dismissive avoidant attachment style—what it looks like, where it comes from, and how it quietly shapes our closest relationships. Whether you've been on the receiving end of someone's emotional walls, or you're realizing you might be the one who pulls away when things get too close, this conversation is for you.

We’ll unpack:

• What dismissive avoidant attachment actually is (spoiler: it’s not coldness—it’s self-protection).

• The key traits that often show up in real life.

• Why dismissive avoidants do care, even if it doesn’t always look like it.

• What it’s like to love or live with someone who keeps their heart guarded.

• And yes—what healing can look like, with time, safety, and grace.

We’ll also share a few “This might sound like you if…” moments that may hit close to home, along with gentle reflection questions to help you go deeper.

If you’ve ever felt like emotional closeness is overwhelming—or if you love someone who seems to push you away—this episode will offer clarity, compassion, and a little hope that change is possible.

Books on Attachment:

Attached by Dr. Amir Levine

The New Rules of Attachment by Dr. Judy Ho

Anxiously Attached by Jessica Baum, LMHC

The Anxious Hearts Guide by Rikki Cloys

**You can find these books on Amazon**

Creators on social media that I found helpful on my journey:

Dr. Sarah Hensley (She is on all platforms). Her website is thelovedoc.com

Mack (on TikTok)

Jbirdfit (On all platforms)

Natashavctoria (TikTok)

Anxious Hearts Guide (TikTok and IG) (She was anxious and her partner was dismissive avoidant and they now have a healthy relationship)

If you're new around here—welcome! In this episode, Kelli flips the script and asks me the questions, so you can get to know the heart behind Breaking the Silence. From the grief that shaped me, to how I found healing, to why I started this podcast and what drives my work today—we’re pulling back the curtain. This conversation is honest, fun, and full of little pieces of my story that I hope will help you feel less alone in yours.

In this honest, heart-to-heart conversation, Kelli and I open up about something so many of us wrestle with—the urge to run when relationships start to feel too close. We talk about the stories we’ve told ourselves for years… like “I’m too much,” “I’m not worthy,” or “I’'m unloveable.”

From attachment styles to the beliefs that quietly shape how we show up (or shut down), we explore what’s underneath our patterns—and how healing begins when we stop running from ourselves.

If you’ve ever felt like you push people away just when things start to feel safe—or questioned if you’re even worthy of the love you long for—this episode is for you. You’re not alone, and there’s a better way forward. 💛

This week’s episode is a special one—it’s the beginning of a new chapter. I’m not doing this alone anymore. Today, I’m introducing you to someone who’s been behind the scenes in my story for years: my best friend, my safe space, and now… my co-host. Kelli and I have walked through deep grief, big transitions, healing, and lots of laughter—and now we’re bringing our friendship to the mic. We’re sharing the story of how we met, how we’ve held space for each other through life’s hardest seasons, and why we believe healing happens best in community. You’ll laugh, maybe cry, and walk away knowing that you are not alone either.