Feeling invisible or underappreciated in your life? Let me give you some encouragement & vulnerable talk about it to help you.

Show Notes:
I don’t really want to talk about this a whole lot, but I know I need to because I’m not the only person dealing with it on a regular basis. I genuinely feel invisible all the time. This is something I cry about often, too.

I feel like I am a shadow, drifting through my life and not actually a part of it sometimes. I mean, I know people see me & talk to me & you can see that I do work at my job & have fun with other humans sometimes, but I don’t really feel seen or appreciated. 

I want to be appreciated, I want people to make a big deal about what I do & how well I’m doing. I want people to remember me & have a good enough connection with me that I am not some random occurrence or event in their life that didn’t matter. And I don’t mean all the time, because we encounter strangers on the regular & those experiences don’t always mean something. 

And I know people will say, well it’s partly your fault because you’re not making an effort. Maybe that’s true sometimes. Maybe I or you don’t make a big enough effort to leave most people we interact with with something memorable or important enough to not forget. But I don’t think that should be a prerequisite either. I believe we can appreciate people in different & easy ways that don’t include needing to be impressed by them. We can just offer a compliment or word of advice, if it’s appropriate. Even eye contact & a smile can go a long way.

But we can’t change how other people appreciate us or understand us or even care about us.

We can only change how we react to these feelings we have & what we decide to do moving forward to help us from feeling down on ourselves.

We have to learn to appreciate ourselves. It’s not easy. I suck at it. I lived a life where I thought I was only valued at what others thought of me or classified me good at. I didn’t believe I had control of what I thought about myself, which is why I struggled with perfectionism & people pleasing. I valued what others thought of me & lived by it. But this can’t be the case. We have to step-up for ourselves & know & believe we matter.

But I know it can be tough when you feel like you’re alone in this. I often do. I crave recognition because I want to feel special & highly regarded. But I know that’s not the key to happiness. Happiness comes from within & the joy we find in our lives that has nothing to do with outside sources.

We also have to know that we all have times where we are going to shine. It’s just whether or not we are comparing those moments to other people’s moments. This is where we get in trouble. And God appreciates us. He really does because He made us and has crafted a life for us that is meaningful. We just put so much pressure on ourselves to be someone other than who we were meant to be.

Thank you again for listening & I hope this episode was helpful.

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