No One Told Us

We Have Good Reason to be Angry with Yara Heary

09.28.2023 - By Rachael Shepard-OhtaPlay

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Did you feel totally unprepared for how ANGRY you'd sometimes feel after having a baby? Maybe you did all the baby prep classes or prepared yourself for labor as much as you could or read all the “how-to” books on parenting and have a great partner. But once you got home, you realized nobody prepared you for just how much everything in your life was going to change. Perhaps you are struggling with your identity shifting or your relationship has totally changed, or you're being triggered by things that didn't bother you before. Maybe you take it out on your partner- or your kids. Maybe you even feel some shame or embarrassment about these things. In this episode Rachael and Yara discuss the biggest points of contention in relationships after having a baby and why it is totally understandable for us to feel angry.

Join Rachael and Yara to talk about what couples struggle most with after having a baby and how a mothers identity tends to shift post baby. Yara discusses how defining expectations with your partner can help to prevent resentment and some ways to experience mothering with more ease. We address changing our beliefs & expectations on what it actually will look like when becoming parents and why moms might feel angry and resentful postpartum. Yara educates us on anger with our children and what to do when we're triggered plus how to assume the best of our children and others in our lives! Learn how to support your nervous system BEFORE you feel anger and how to practice self-compassion for mothers and connecting with our inner child, and so much more!

Book Mentioned: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky

Yara Heary is a Perth psychologist who works exclusively with women throughout conception, pregnancy, and motherhood. Yara started Life After Birth Psychology following the birth of her first son which started her on yet another journey of self-rediscovery. Her experiences throughout early motherhood drew her to support other women as they navigate their own family of origin dynamics, the social programming of the “good mother”, relationship changes with those around them, identity shifts, and role changes to find their place of balance and authenticity as mothers. She is also the host of Life After Birth with Yara, a podcast dedicated to sharing the stories of women as they navigate life as mothers. Follow Yara on Instagram.

Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Join me & our guests each week for new episodes and follow along:

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