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Even when we are attending adult events professionally to discuss STI testing, sexual health, and public health policy, something surprising still happens.

Anna gets grabbed.

Butt slapped. Breasts touched. Boundaries crossed.

Sometimes in subtle ways. Sometimes in ways that are not subtle at all.

Why does this still happen in sex positive spaces where everyone claims to understand consent?

Today we unpack explicit verbal consent and examine whether popular frameworks like the F.R.I.E.S. model are actually practical in real world social settings.

FRIES stands for Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific. It is widely taught in college campuses, kink communities, and sex education programs. But is it simple enough for people who believe they are already “good at consent”?

Here is the uncomfortable truth.

Most people believe they are masters at reading body language. Most people believe they are respectful. Most people believe they would never cross a line.

And yet lines keep getting crossed.

In this episode we discuss:

• Why consent violations still happen in sex positive communities
• The limits of enthusiastic consent in fast moving social environments
• The difference between explicit verbal consent and contextual consent
• Why being “experienced” does not mean being careful
• Whether frameworks like FRIES, RACK, and SSC actually translate to casual adult events
• Why professional environments do not magically create safer spaces

This is not an anti consent episode.

It is a realistic discussion about human behavior, ego, overconfidence, and the gap between theory and practice.

If you have ever thought, “I would never do that,” this episode is for you.

Because here is the kicker.

Everyone thinks they are good at consent.

Including you.