It's Caller Day and today we're joined by two lovely callers! We're joined by our first ever caller COUPLE (!), Barbie and Ken. They plan to secretly elope even though Ken's mother has explicitly asked them not to. Should they alter their plans to avoid future friction, or do what feels true to them and let the chips fall where they may? Caller Elana a very relatable Am-I-The-Asshole question involving her best friend. Where's the middle ground when you both think you're in the right? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Welcome To Callers Barbie & Ken!
12:09 - Shandy Speaks
31:27 - Shandy Debrief
40:21 - Welcome To Caller Elana!
59:51 - Shandy Speaks
1:09:41- Shandy Debrief

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We Plan To Elope But Fear His Parents Will Freak Out—Help!

Dear Shandy is a dating advice podcast where Sharleen Joynt and her husband Andy Levine answer your burning relationship questions from the perspective of a happily married couple. Sharleen and Andy are two fiercely independent people who are skeptical of love stories and don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the dating lessons by living them.

Get no-holds-barred, honest advice from two people who actually have what you want: a fun, blissful partnership. But there's more! As an iconic former Bachelor contestant, Sharleen invites Bachelor Nation couples on for intimate double dates called Love Fests. Last, but certainly not least, Sharleen brings her insider knowledge and Andy delivers hilarious comic relief to combine for what are hands down the best Bachelor recaps in the business. New episodes drop every Thursday, and during Bachelor seasons, recaps drop on Tuesdays!

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is marriage necessary, or even at all what it's cracked up to be? If your partner struggles in the friendship department, how can you help? How should you respond to a question you hate being asked? And finally, an epic Am-I-The-Asshole question! Where does Shandy stand on unintentional door slamming? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!


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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Introduction
1:40 - Q1: To Marry Or Not To Marry?
9:11 - Q2: I Feel Weird Contributing To My Friend’s “Honey Fund” As A Wedding Gift—Thoughts?
18:06 - Q3: Strangers Constantly Ask Me A Question I Hate—How Should I Respond?
31:58 - Q4: My Fiancé Has No Friends—How Can I Help Him?
48:45 - Q5: Am I The Asshole—Door Slamming Edition


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Q&A! Responding To Stupid Questions, Friend-less Fiancé, & To Wed Or Not To Wed? - Ep 307

Caller sessions are BACK, baby! This is our SECOND Caller episode of 2024 (!) and we're thrilled we're joined by a lovely (and lively!) caller named Erin. Erin, whose relationship began with beautifully romantic gesture. However, 2+ months in, there are still kinks that need ironing. Erin is quick to defend her boyfriend, but when are excuses just... excuses? Listen on for the Shandy take!


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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Welcome To Caller Erin!
42:39 - Shandy Debrief


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Caller 

This episode is a surprise all around because Shandy had absolutely zero intention of recapping their experience officiating their friends' wedding. However, on Instagram you requested this with a fiery passion that couldn't be ignored! So today is all about Shandy as WEDDING OFFICIANTS!

As you may know, on Saturday April 26th, 2024, Shandy officiated the wedding of Nick Viall and Natalie Joy, their longtime friends. This episode will contain reflections on the experience, tips (and regrets!) for those planning their own weddings/officiant speeches, unexpected moments, and overall takeaways! Listen on for this unique Dear Shandy episode!


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0:00 - Introduction
2:37 - How/When Did Nick & Natalie Ask You To Be Officiants?
5:58 - How Did You Make The Decision To Officiate As A Couple?
6:10 - Was One Of You The “Official” Officiant?
8:13 - Would You Have Accepted For Any Couple In Your Life Or Only A “Special” Couple?
9:05 - How Did You Prepare?
11:27 - What Sort Of Planning Did You Do With The Couple?
14:50 - Humor
17:20 - How Much Did You Share With The Couple Beforehand?
17:43 - Have Either Of You Ever Officiated A Wedding Before?
17:47 - Since You’ve Known Nick Longer Was It Difficult To Make It Feel Equally Personal For Natalie?
18:59 - Were You Nervous? Who Was More Nervous?
22:55 - Overall Tips/Regrets
25:31 - Did It Make You Nostalgic For Your Own Wedding?
28:58 - Do You Feel More Responsible To Stay Together Now?
29:38 - Can Shandy Officiate My Wedding?
30:40 - How Did You Enter The Ceremony?
30:58 - The Couple’s Vows
31:07 - Unexpected Moment
33:05 - Was The Baby A Part Of The Ceremony?
33:23 - Did Nick Cry?
34:08 - Did You Cry?
35:06 - How Are You Friends With Nick?
38:28 - Did You Ride The Mechanical Bull?
39:09 - Was There Anyone Who Made You Starstruck?
40:22 - Did They Tell You What To Wear?
40:47 - Sharleen’s Looks
44:04 - Did You Bring Ruby?
44:50 - People Article Misspellings
46:44 - What Was Your Favorite Things About Savannah?
48:02 - Overall Thoughts


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We're Officiants! Officiating Nick & Natalie Joy Viall's Wedding - Ep 305

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a tumultuous relationship history, is "boring" maybe a good thing? If you feel yourself becoming resentful in your relationship because your sacrifices outnumber your partner's, what to do? And not one, not two, but THREE heavy-hitting platonic friendship questions! What does Shandy consider a "friendship-reconsidering" level crime? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!


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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Q1: Does Healthy = Boring?
10:35 - Q2: My Friend Accused Me Of “Bitching & Complaining” And Our Friendship Is Suddenly Over—What Happened?!
23:50 - Q3: My Friend Moved Out Of Town And Now Zoom-Joins Our In-Person Hangs—Am I The Asshole For Disliking This?
33:46 - Q4: Should I Let My Friend’s Outrageous Wedding Request Make Me See Her Differently?
46:03 - Q5: I’ve Sacrificed More For This Relationship Than My Boyfriend Has And Am Feeling Resentful—Help!


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Q&A! Too Much Complaining, The Seed Of Resentment & Is "Boring" Healthy? - Ep 304

At the heart of so many relationship questions we've received—and relationships in general—is a common thread: EMPATHY. This "healing force", as our esteemed guest calls it, has the power to not only heal our relationships with others, but with ourselves. So why do so few of us understand its powers?

Today we're honored to be joined by THE foremost expert on empathy, Dr. Judith Orloff, dubbed “the godmother of the empath movement.” Dr. Orloff is a board-certified psychiatrist and the New York Times best-selling author of several books, including 2017's landmark "The Empath’s Survival Guide" and her latest, "The Genius of Empathy: Practical Skills to Heal Your Sensitive Self, Your Relationships, and the World". Today she helps dispel the misconceptions around empathy, demonstrates how to draw healthy boundaries, and explains the transformative, healing power of SELF-empathy. She explains why it's OK that your partner isn't the same empathy "type" as you, whether or not you can have too much empathy, and how to approach someone whose beliefs you fundamentally disagree with. Today's conversation is the warm hug you needed and will hopefully inspire healing in your more complicated relationships, especially the one you have with yourself.


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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Welcome To The Legendary Dr. Judith Orloff!
3:41 - What Is Empathy & Empathy Vs Compassion
5:10 - What Are Her Thoughts On The Term “Empath” Becoming Mainstream?
6:52 - The Biggest Misconceptions About Empathy
10:32 - Drawing Boundaries
16:19 - Is Empathy Something We’re Born With? Nature Vs Nurture
17:31 - Can One Really Become *More* Empathic?
20:38 - The Empathy Types
23:13 - Mismatched Empathy In Relationships
29:19 - Tips For Self Empathy
31:24 - How Can I Make Empathy Work In A Way That Isn’t Ultimately To My Disadvantage?
34:04 - Is Self Awareness A Prerequisite to Self Empathy?
34:54 - Tips For Avoiding Empathy-Deficient Types
37:10 - When It Feels Like Someone Doesn’t Deserve Empathy
39:19 - Empathy Vs Enablement
43:29 - Is There Such A Thing As Too Much Empathy?
45:12 - Sharleen’s Takeaways
46:11 - Tips For Empathizing With Someone Whose Beliefs You Fundamentally Disagree With
49:06 - Shandy Debrief


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We Plan To Elope But Fear His Parents Will Freak Out—Help!

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