We Weren't Told

Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's.

I decided a long time ago that I wasn't a football person. No maps, no cardinal directions, no football — these were just facts about me, or so I thought. Then I asked my gym trainer a question about football, instead of defending my position like usual. Three days later I was on my couch watching Cape Verde play Argentina, completely losing it over a forty-year-old goalkeeper blocking a shot from Messi.

In this episode, we're talking about:

• The identities we build around "things we don't do" — and never once question;
• Why we decide certain things aren't for us, and where those decisions actually come from;
• The one sentence that can change everything for you: "Explain it to me like I'm five";
• Getting fully, shockingly invested in something we swore wasn't ours;
• What a forty-year-old goalkeeper from a country of 500,000 people can teach us about the walls we build around ourselves;
• The question you need to ask -- What have you decided about yourself that you've never actually gone back to test?

Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time.

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Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's.

I was recently in a room full of women my age — millennials and Gen X — gathered to learn from a woman who is genuinely excellent at what she does. I'm talking senior in her field and decades in. We were there to receive her professional expertise, the kind that can only be built over real time. And somehow, the conversation kept turning to Gen Z and Gen Alpha, about their discernment, and their freshness, and how the future belong to them. And I found myself in the room thinking: why are we skipping ourselves?

In this episode:

• A room full of accomplished women in attendance to learn from a seasoned expert — and collectively moving past their own value anyway;
• Why the algorithm has trained us to face forward so hard we forget to look at what we're standing on;
• What twenty-plus years of adulting actually gives you — and why it cannot be downloaded, prompted, or fast-tracked;
• The difference between precocious and discerning — and why our generation of parents might want to sit with that one;
• What would it look like to claim our age, our stage, and our experience — because of all of it, not in spite of it?

Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time.

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Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's.

Fair warning — this is my voice after four days of flu and zero voice, and it's either this or I don't show up. And we are not doing that. We went to Ocho Rios for Father's Day weekend, and somewhere between the AC on full blast, a standing fan three inches from my chest, and CJ joking "maybe it's menopause" — I had a full reckoning about how little I actually know about my own body's next chapter.

In this episode, I'm talking about the conversation millennial women were never given about perimenopause and menopause — and why we're going to have it now.

In this episode:

• The Father's Day trip that turned into an unexpected body reckoning
• Calling my mom about menopause symptoms — and the advice that did not help
• Why two intelligent women had to Google what menopause actually is
• The female hormone panel every woman needs to know about
• Scientists mapping nerve endings in the vagina for the first time — thirty years after the penis
• What did the women in your life tell you about menopause — and what were you never told?

Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time.

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We Weren't Told | Episode 13: Your Body Is Keeping Score

Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's.

I've been in the thick of something heavy with some family members — and then I got a message from one of my most cherished friends that made everything I'd been carrying look completely different. She is fighting for her life. And I realised I'd been filing my body's notifications without opening them.

In this episode, I'm talking about what our bodies are trying to tell us — and what happens when we keep postponing that conversation.

In this episode:

• The tightness in my throat and the dizziness I kept filing away
• The message from my friend that cracked something open and wouldn't close again
• Why the body is a messenger, not just a surface to manage and present
• What chronic stress is actually doing in the places you can't feel yet
• Bombay mangoes, oxtail, and why life insists on beauty in the same week as the grief
• Where is the tightness in your body right now — and when did you last stop to ask it what it's trying to tell you?

Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time.

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Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's.

I went to a moms' networking event a few weeks ago and as part of an icebreaker, a woman pulled a pair of tiny socks out of her handbag. She said being her son's mother is the most important thing she has ever done in her life — and she meant it with her whole chest. And I sat there and felt something I couldn't immediately name. It took me a few days to be honest about what it actually was.

In this episode, I'm talking about what happens when you love your children fiercely — and still can't locate the feeling that they are the greatest part of you.

In this episode:

• Hunter Biden in MAGA comment sections — and what owning your shame actually does
• The tiny socks moment and the feeling I didn't want to admit I had
• Why I don't experience the greatest part of me as someone else — and the shame that came with that
• Whether any of us can actually rank the greatest thing we've ever done
• The motherhood script that had no category for women who refused to disappear
• Are you allowed to be the most interesting thing about yourself?

Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time.

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Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's.

Threads was on fire this morning. Jay-Z showed up at The Roots Picnic — combed-out locks, dressed in the black Tims, fifty-seven years old and completely himself. Meanwhile Drake dropped three albums after two years of silence and the internet split right down generational lines. And I couldn't stop asking myself: which one am I?

In this episode, I'm talking about what two rap legends taught me about what it means to actually inhabit the chapter you're in — versus performing one you've already left.

In this episode:

• Jay-Z on that stage vs. Drake in his feelings — and what the contrast really means
• What Kendrick's beef revealed about authenticity that's hard to unsit with
• Why I have some Drake in me — and why I'm not ashamed of it
• The difference between feeling young on the inside and performing young on the outside
• Why growing into yourself loudly was never in the script we were handed
• Are you inhabiting the chapter you're actually in — or performing the one you've already left?

Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time.

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Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's.

I'll be honest — this episode almost didn't happen. I've been in a two-day existential funk, the real "is this it?" kind, not the tagline kind. It was CJ who told me to just talk about it. So here I am, Monday at 3:24 PM, showing up anyway.

In this episode, I'm talking about what a boiled egg, a 1973 Jamaican recipe book, and a kitchen dance taught me about showing up for yourself on the blah days.

In this episode:

• Why this episode almost didn't get made
• Dancing alone in the kitchen to Bob Marley — and why it worked
• The 1973 recipe book that stopped me in my tracks
• "Not a cook merely, but a designer" — the line that cracked something open
• Why showing up, even imperfectly, is the whole point
• What is your boiled egg moment — the small, quiet way you're showing up for yourself today?

Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time.

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Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's.

I had coffee recently with a woman I've known since I was four years old — same prep school, same high school, now both mothers of twelve-year-olds. Part of our convo was about what Catholic school did to us, and what it quietly withheld -- the S words. Both of them — sex and silence. And either way, we were never supposed to talk about either one.

In this episode, I'm talking about the silence around sex and desire that shaped us as girls — and what it's costing us and our children, if we don't name it.

In this episode:

• What Catholic school's silence actually taught us about our bodies
• Why our mothers couldn't give us what they'd never been given
• How I came to understand virginity as a transaction — and why
• The conversations I'm determined to have with my son that nobody had with me
• Why silence was never neutral — it was always a position
• What did the silence cost you — and what are you doing differently?

Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time.

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Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's.

I was at my favourite café last week — the one I go to alone, to write — when something ordinary happened — a cashier was filming content, a beautiful young man stepped into the sunlight, and I realised I was on the other side of the camera entirely.

In this episode, I'm talking about the part of us that still wants to be seen — and why nobody told us that wanting wouldn't just quietly resolve itself.

In this episode:

• The café moment that made me sit with something I wasn't expecting
• The internal version of ourselves we've been living inside for years
• What the marriage script told us about desirability — and what it got wrong
• The honest question we don't ask enough about being noticed
• Why the wanting is not the problem
• The question to sit with: Are you still giving yourself permission to want to be seen?

Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time.

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Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's.

I'm going to be honest with you — I have been crashing out for the last two weeks. Eleven minute voice notes, therapy, ceiling-staring. A full, sustained emotional crash. And I almost didn't make this episode because I kept waiting until I had something neat to say about it.

I don't. What I have is the crash itself. And I think that might be more useful.

In this episode, I'm talking about what happens when life hands you something the script never prepared you for — and why falling apart might be exactly the right response.

In this episode:

• The funeral that cracked everything open
• The script we were all handed — and the chapter it's missing
• Why the crash is not a malfunction, it's a reckoning
• What it means to have somewhere safe to fall apart
• The kind of strength nobody told us to build
• The question to sit with: Who are the people you can crash with?

Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time.

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