We Will Educate | All Things Sex Ed

In this episode we will be talking about teaching sex education and talking about sexuality through love and positivity while avoiding shame. We’re going to be building on what we learned from Jeremy Bodin and applying it to how parents can talk to their younger children and adolescents about sex and sexuality. Using the wrong terms and vocabulary can confuse children if we’re not careful, so the best approach is to just refer to everything as their correct anatomical names. Having loving, positive conversations with children/adolescents will give them a lot more confidence and understanding in their sexuality and they’ll be much less likely to hide that part about themselves.

Sex ed. in the South 1:06
The negative messages about sex 2:47
Sending the wrong message to infants and children 5:45
Be careful about how you approach sex education 7:42
Helping your child feel loved and not shameful 10:57

“Messaging about sexuality can start at the time you’re changing a baby’s diaper, like if you’re making grossed out faces while you’re changing your baby’s diaper, that’s kind of giving the message that their genitals are gross or bad or nasty. Those messages are all around us.” 5:51

In this episode we will be talking about teaching sex education and talking about sexuality through love and positivity while avoiding shame. We’re going to be building on what we learned from Jeremy Bodin and applying it to how parents can talk to their younger children and adolescents about sex and sexuality. Using the wrong terms and vocabulary can confuse children if we’re not careful, so the best approach is to just refer to everything as their correct anatomical names. Having loving, positive conversations with children/adolescents will give them a lot more confidence and understanding in their sexuality and they’ll be much less likely to hide that part about themselves.

Sex ed. in the South 1:06
The negative messages about sex 2:47
Sending the wrong message to infants and children 5:45
Be careful about how you approach sex education 7:42
Helping your child feel loved and not shameful 10:57

“Messaging about sexuality can start at the time you’re changing a baby’s diaper, like if you’re making grossed out faces while you’re changing your baby’s diaper, that’s kind of giving the message that their genitals are gross or bad or nasty. Those messages are all around us.” 5:51

Today we have with us Dr. Jeremy Boden who is an associate professor of Family Science at Utah Valley University where he teaches courses in marriage and relationships, human sexuality, family dynamics, and couples therapy in the Marriage and Family Therapy graduate program. He’s also a licensed marriage and family therapist and maintains a small private practice in Provo, Utah. We discuss shame and guilt in sexuality and the differences between the two, shame being bad and guilt being good. The language we use around people or unhealthy/toxic metaphors we use about sexuality can be damaging to how people view this part of themselves. Everyone has their own views that they develop from a young age and it’s healthy to really take a look at these views/beliefs and challenge them to see if they really are what we should believe.

Sexual shame 2:19
What contributes to feelings of sexual shame? 7:44
Do individuals play a role in perpetuating sexual shame? 12:42
Challenging internal views and beliefs 15:38
How different age groups are affected by sexuality 17:30
Combatting sexual shame in adolescents 20:15
Healing from that way of thinking 24:02
One thing people should know about sexual education 27:34

“Sometimes we get sexual scripts or messages from our culture, from our religion, from our parents, from our peers, from our mentors and teachers that are less than healthy, and so those are unhealthy weeds that get planted into our soil.” 10:06

Today we have with us Dr. Jeremy Boden who is an associate professor of Family Science at Utah Valley University where he teaches courses in marriage and relationships, human sexuality, family dynamics, and couples therapy in the Marriage and Family Therapy graduate program. He’s also a licensed marriage and family therapist and maintains a small private practice in Provo, Utah. We discuss shame and guilt in sexuality and the differences between the two, shame being bad and guilt being good. The language we use around people or unhealthy/toxic metaphors we use about sexuality can be damaging to how people view this part of themselves. Everyone has their own views that they develop from a young age and it’s healthy to really take a look at these views/beliefs and challenge them to see if they really are what we should believe.

Sexual shame 2:19
What contributes to feelings of sexual shame? 7:44
Do individuals play a role in perpetuating sexual shame? 12:42
Challenging internal views and beliefs 15:38
How different age groups are affected by sexuality 17:30
Combatting sexual shame in adolescents 20:15
Healing from that way of thinking 24:02
One thing people should know about sexual education 27:34

“Sometimes we get sexual scripts or messages from our culture, from our religion, from our parents, from our peers, from our mentors and teachers that are less than healthy, and so those are unhealthy weeds that get planted into our soil.” 10:06

Today we’re going to talk about sexual violence prevention both through general means and through sexual education. We’re going to discuss a little bit about what sexual assault prevention is and what it is not. ⅕ women experience rape in their lifetime and about 80% of women experience some form of sexual assault in their life. The effect that sexual violence has on people can be devastating. 94% of survivors display PTSD from their experience and a third of survivors contemplate suicide, and then they are 10 times more likely to turn to substance abuse. Often preventing sexual violence focuses on the woman/victim, but another large portion of prevention is understanding the perpetrator and keeping them from becoming the type of person that would act out.

Getting more comfortable with this topic 2:13
The crisis center 6:46
Preventing sexual violence 8:11
Protective factors 12:34
Research on sex education 14:28
Quality sex education and what it is 16:12

“Protective factors can be anything from learning how to work through conflict peacefully and also seeing your caretaker, seeing your parents, or your family work through conflict in a peaceful and respectful way. That makes a huge difference to see those behaviors modeled. That’s how children learn.” 12:47

Today we’re going to talk about sexual violence prevention both through general means and through sexual education. We’re going to discuss a little bit about what sexual assault prevention is and what it is not. ⅕ women experience rape in their lifetime and about 80% of women experience some form of sexual assault in their life. The effect that sexual violence has on people can be devastating. 94% of survivors display PTSD from their experience and a third of survivors contemplate suicide, and then they are 10 times more likely to turn to substance abuse. Often preventing sexual violence focuses on the woman/victim, but another large portion of prevention is understanding the perpetrator and keeping them from becoming the type of person that would act out.

Getting more comfortable with this topic 2:13
The crisis center 6:46
Preventing sexual violence 8:11
Protective factors 12:34
Research on sex education 14:28
Quality sex education and what it is 16:12

“Protective factors can be anything from learning how to work through conflict peacefully and also seeing your caretaker, seeing your parents, or your family work through conflict in a peaceful and respectful way. That makes a huge difference to see those behaviors modeled. That’s how children learn.” 12:47

In this episode we introduce Brittney, who went to law school at Brigham Young University and completed specialized sexual education research, which we will talk about, and then went to Georgetown to obtain a specialty law degree. She grew up in the American South where her sex education was very limited, which has led her to where she is today. Brittney experienced sexual assault growing up and didn’t realize that there was something she could do about it. As she learned more and began her healing journey, she decided to follow the path of educating people on sexual assault and prevention.

About Brittney 0:36
Her experience growing up learning about sex ed. 1:59
Limited knowledge on sexual abuse 3:28
Her healing journey and study 7:43
Creating We Will 11:25
What Brittney wants people to know about sexual education 14:47

“I started to get really angry. I was so mad. Why didn’t anyone tell me what consent was? Why did no one tell me I had the power to say yes or no? Why did nobody tell me what coercion was and the fact that people are manipulative in these ways?” 7:04

In this episode we introduce Brittney, who went to law school at Brigham Young University and completed specialized sexual education research, which we will talk about, and then went to Georgetown to obtain a specialty law degree. She grew up in the American South where her sex education was very limited, which has led her to where she is today. Brittney experienced sexual assault growing up and didn’t realize that there was something she could do about it. As she learned more and began her healing journey, she decided to follow the path of educating people on sexual assault and prevention.

About Brittney 0:36
Her experience growing up learning about sex ed. 1:59
Limited knowledge on sexual abuse 3:28
Her healing journey and study 7:43
Creating We Will 11:25
What Brittney wants people to know about sexual education 14:47

“I started to get really angry. I was so mad. Why didn’t anyone tell me what consent was? Why did no one tell me I had the power to say yes or no? Why did nobody tell me what coercion was and the fact that people are manipulative in these ways?” 7:04

On this show you will be learning and hearing from Jenna, a relationship and sex education expert, and Brittney, a sexual violence prevention expert. We’re going to share our healing journeys, talk with experts, and learn from survivors. Join us to build a safer, healthier community one lesson at a time. We introduce Jenna, who never dreamed this would be her profession, but as she has studied it, she’s found it was something she’s passionate about and hopes to help others who have experienced sexual trauma as she has.

About Jenna 1:05
The journey to studying this subject 5:00
Struggles with religion and sexuality 8:19
Jenna’s master program and navigating sex education 10:48
The one thing everyone should know about sex education 13:39

“I can’t talk about healing from sexual trauma without including God, because my religion and spirituality played a huge part in healing and in helping me overcome some of the spiritual hurt that I experienced through my trauma.” 7:34

On this show you will be learning and hearing from Jenna, a relationship and sex education expert, and Brittney, a sexual violence prevention expert. We’re going to share our healing journeys, talk with experts, and learn from survivors. Join us to build a safer, healthier community one lesson at a time. We introduce Jenna, who never dreamed this would be her profession, but as she has studied it, she’s found it was something she’s passionate about and hopes to help others who have experienced sexual trauma as she has.

About Jenna 1:05
The journey to studying this subject 5:00
Struggles with religion and sexuality 8:19
Jenna’s master program and navigating sex education 10:48
The one thing everyone should know about sex education 13:39

“I can’t talk about healing from sexual trauma without including God, because my religion and spirituality played a huge part in healing and in helping me overcome some of the spiritual hurt that I experienced through my trauma.” 7:34