Weaponized incompetence is a trending term — but are we using it correctly?

In this episode of The Spaghetti Wall Podcast, Jason Wilcox, LCSW, and Dr. Thaen Saelee break down what weaponized incompetence actually is, how to tell the difference between manipulation and normal human imperfection, and why mislabeling your partner can quietly damage trust.

We explore:

1. The role of intentionality
2. The “burden of competence”
3. Mental load and division of labor
4. How perfectionism complicates the conversation
5. Why buzzwords can create more harm than clarity

If you’ve ever wondered whether your partner is avoiding responsibility — or if you’re worried you might be carrying too much — this episode gives you practical tools rooted in assertive communication, not accusation.

Be honest. Be thoughtful. Be kind.