Are your kids witnessing a love worth repeating, or a legacy you never meant to leave behind? In today’s episode, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt pull back the curtain on the quiet but powerful ways we model marriage and parenting to our kids. What began as a conversation with the father of the bride at a wedding unfolds into a passionate, vulnerable discussion about admiration, generational patterns, and the hard truth that every moment, good or bad, is teaching your kids something.

Dr. Ryan shares how his own childhood shaped what he didn’t want in marriage and how, even after intentionally making different choices, those early patterns kept showing up. Kendra opens up about the emotional weight of parenting, sharing a powerful story of losing patience with their daughter and the realization it sparked. From old wounds to fresh awareness, they challenge listeners to stop “playing house” and start consciously creating homes built on love, clarity, and respect.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why admiration in marriage isn’t optional, it’s foundational

How “staying together for the kids” might hurt more than help

The unconscious ways we pass down broken patterns

How to identify and shift from default mode to intentional leadership

Why “clear is kind” should be your new parenting mantra

“What I wouldn’t give to sit at a bar next to my dad and just have a coffee… that’s how powerful modeling is.” – Kendra Hewitt

CALL TO ACTION: If this episode stirred something in you, share it with your spouse or a fellow parent. Journal one way you want to model love more intentionally this week. And don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review The Weaponized Marriage Podcast. Let’s break generational curses, together.

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What’s really behind the way you and your spouse respond in conflict? Why do some people shut down, while others press in harder? What if the way you love, and fight, has less to do with your partner and more to do with your past?

In this episode, Dr. Ryan and Kendra peel back the emotional layers of attachment theory, breaking down the four major styles, secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant, and how each one shows up in real-life marriages. With unfiltered honesty and a touch of humor, they unpack how their own attachment styles have created challenges, triggered reactions, and shaped the way they connect, fight, and repair.

Kendra shares how childhood loss and her dismissive-avoidant wiring created trust barriers in their relationship, while Dr. Ryan opens up about being a pursuer and how his need for connection can sometimes come off as attack. Together, they offer practical insights, honest mistakes, and real-time growth as they navigate conflict, parenting, and healing in their own marriage.

Key Takeaways:

The 4 attachment styles and how they form in childhood

How your attachment style plays out in adult conflict and connection

Why becoming a “resident expert” on your spouse’s trauma changes everything

The “sins of omission” vs. “sins of commission” in relationships

How to ask your spouse and kids: What makes you feel loved?

“Understanding your spouse’s trauma and attachment style is like learning their emotional operating system. You can’t love them well if you don’t understand what makes them tick.” - Kendra Hewitt

Call to Action:Take a moment after this episode to ask your spouse (or your kids): What makes you feel most loved? Then just listen. No fixes. No defenses. Just presence. If this episode stirred something in you, share it with a friend or leave us a review, it helps more couples get honest and grow.

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Ever feel stuck in the same emotional loop, initial excitement followed by frustrating fights? This episode tackles the question: Why do so many marriages never move past the honeymoon phase? Discover where your relationship really is, and how to level up.

Hosts Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt break down the five transformative stages of romantic relationships, adapted from a thought-provoking Instagram-inspired framework. They explore why most couples stall in the honeymoon or power‑struggle stages, and what it takes to move into acceptance and deeper commitment. With personal stories and real-life examples, they guide listeners through identifying their own stage and recognizing whether it's time to lead, grow, or walk away.

You’ll learn:

By the end, you'll have a clear path forward: either to strengthen what’s real, or to courageously redefine your next step.

Key Takeaways:

“Most people never get past level one and two, so honeymoon and power struggle, and they just repeat the cycle over and over.”

Call to Action:If this episode challenges you to think deeper, share it with your partner or a friend. Then, journal or talk together about which of the five stages you feel stuck in, and what the next step toward growth would be. Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss a conversation that strengthens your marriage.

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Join hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt on the Weaponized Marriage Podcast for a late-night conversation about the delicate balance between saving and supporting in relationships. In this episode, they dive into real-life stories, including their own, to explore how enabling can hinder growth and how true support empowers transformation. With candid reflections and practical wisdom, this episode offers couples tools to foster healthier dynamics and grow together.

Key Takeaways:

Saving vs. Supporting: Saving a spouse can enable stagnation, while supporting them encourages personal growth and accountability.

Letting Them Sit in the Pit: Allowing a partner to face their challenges without rescuing them can lead to meaningful change.

Taking Responsibility: Personal happiness and healing are individual responsibilities, not burdens for your spouse to carry.

Leading by Example: Healthy marriages thrive when partners inspire each other through actions, not control.

Growing Together: Couples should embrace growth at their own paces while supporting each other’s healing journeys.

"Your happiness and your healing is your responsibility." – Dr. Ryan Hewitt

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Retirement‑style anniversaries? Not here. When two martinis, miscommunication, and a lake‑house “unicorn” collide, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt discover that the real win isn’t a perfect weekend, it’s how fast you repair when things go sideways. In this raw recap of their 15‑year milestone, they break down feminine storms vs. masculine steadiness, why celebrations are mirrors (not photo‑ops), and how a failed sexy moment turned into their best birthday ever.

Key Takeaways:

1. Why conflict‑recovery speed is the new success metric in marriage

2. The “oak tree vs. pine tree” metaphor for masculine stability

3. How ownership is overrated, access and experience build connection

4. A practical way to re‑frame milestones as investments, not afterthoughts

5. Tools for communicating expectations before resentment sets in

   
   

“To be in your feminine, you need an oak tree. And this time, you didn’t bend. You stayed steady.” – Kendra Hewitt

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In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt dive deep into a week that started with incredible connection and ended in emotional distance. They reflect on how easy it is for busy, entrepreneurial couples to lose intimacy; not for lack of love, but for lack of margin. From managing businesses and parenting a four-year-old, to forgetting the simple power of presence, they unpack why time doesn’t heal disconnection; intentional time does. With humor, raw vulnerability, and practical insight, they share how a date night turned into a collision, and how that moment of friction became a turning point for deeper clarity and reconnection.

Together, they challenge couples to audit their time and redefine what it means to be “present.” They highlight the importance of offloading stress, asking better questions, and being brave enough to say, “I want to feel prioritized.” Whether you're an overwhelmed parent, a high-achieving business owner, or just feeling the weight of everyday demands, this episode is a timely invitation to rethink your relationship with time; and each other.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

Why great sex doesn't fix disconnection without emotional safety

The real reason your spouse might feel unseen, even if you're "doing everything right"

How auditing your time reveals hidden patterns that steal intimacy

What to outsource to buy back connection; not just convenience

The critical shift from reactive to proactive marriage leadership

Listen now and take the first step toward creating more margin and more meaningful connection in your marriage.

“Sometimes the beauty is in the asking; that makes me feel prioritized.”

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In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt share seven simple yet powerful rituals to strengthen your marriage and make it divorce-proof. Drawing from their own journey as entrepreneurs and parents, they emphasize intentional habits like daily check-ins, heartfelt hugs, and playful flirting to foster connection and resilience.

The episode tackles the critical role of open money conversations, revealing how financial stress, not infidelity, is the leading cause of divorce. With candid insights into their own struggles and breakthroughs, Dr. Ryan and Kendra offer practical steps to protect your relationship from outside noise, repair conflicts quickly, and keep the spark alive. This episode is a must-listen for couples seeking to build a thriving, connected marriage through small, purposeful actions.

Key Takeaways

Daily Check-Ins: Connect regularly, even when things seem “fine,” to catch issues early and deepen intimacy.

30-Second Hugs: Physical touch, like a heartfelt hug or kiss, boosts oxytocin and lowers stress, strengthening bonds.

Shared Activities: Find a joint hobby, like shooting or spin classes, to create fun, shared memories.

Quick Repairs: Address conflicts promptly to avoid prolonged disconnection and rebuild trust faster.

Money Talks: Discuss finances weekly to align goals, reduce stress, and foster trust and transparency.

"If you can get really strong at talking about money together, it opens up more play, more sex, more attraction, more happiness, more freedom—everything." – Kendra Hewitt

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In this powerful and unscripted episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt open up about a life-changing week marked by bold decisions, divine downloads, and radical relational healing. From putting a cabin under contract on pure trust to celebrating new friendships, and diving deep into a transformative plant medicine journey, this episode captures what it looks like to live from your heart, not your head. The Hewitts share raw insight about emotional safety, the freedom of truth-telling, and the power of mutual ownership in marriage.

For the first time, Kendra describes what it felt like to hear Dr. Ryan share the story of his past affair publicly; without shame, fear, or pain. Together, they unpack what makes emotional safety possible, why your “mess becomes your message,” and how plant medicine played a surprising role in helping them process guilt and step into deeper connection. If you're ready for a marriage built on radical honesty, mutual respect, and heart-led growth, this one’s for you.

Key Takeaways:

Trust isn’t just spoken; it’s lived. Kendra signed for a cabin Ryan hadn’t even seen.Friendship loneliness in adulthood is real and deserves attention.

Emotional safety makes it possible to share the hardest truths without fear.

Your “mess” can actually become the pathway to deeper purpose.

Healing is a process that requires honesty, not perfection.

“What if every freaking mess in your life was actually part of the plan?”

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In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into the transformative power of setting balance targets; intentional goals for your marriage, family, and key relationships. Moving beyond vague resolutions, they share their proven framework of Facts, Feelings, Focus, Fruit to create meaningful, measurable targets that strengthen your partnership. From candid reflections on their own journey; like navigating flight upgrades for a couples’ trip to Spain or planning a cabin purchase; Kendra and Dr. Ryan reveal how to align on a shared vision while embracing discomfort for growth.

Whether it’s scheduling date nights, planning a dream vacation, or fostering deeper connections with your kids, this episode offers practical tools to turn your relationship goals into reality. Kendra shares her success in reducing morning stress with daughter Lily, while Dr. Ryan opens up about his goal to take her camping again. Packed with real-life examples and raw insights, this episode is a must-listen for couples ready to communicate boldly, dream big, and work together toward a thriving marriage.

Key Takeaways

Facts First: Start with concrete realities; what’s working and not working in your marriage or family life.

Feelings Matter: Separate emotions from facts to gain clarity and avoid wishy-washy traps.

Focus on Impact: Identify one high-leverage goal that moves the needle, like a couples’ retreat or more date nights.

Fruit as Vision: Define the result you want, like a dream vacation or a stronger bond with your kids.

Shared Vision: Align on goals that excite both partners, even if they require compromise or discomfort.

“You can’t grow in comfort. Set targets that stretch you as a couple and make you communicate about what really matters.” - Dr. Ryan Hewitt

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In this episode of Weaponized Marriage, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into the concept of "what you resist will persist," exploring how resistance to personal challenges can impact a marriage. Kendra shares her journey of overcoming resistance to hormone replacement therapy (HRT), couples therapy, and her recent ADHD diagnosis, which she initially avoided addressing. She discusses how reading The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov opened her eyes to patterns like the pursuit-withdrawal dynamic that strained their relationship. By embracing these challenges, Kendra found new ways to connect with Dr. Ryan, fostering empathy and understanding. The episode highlights how acknowledging differences, such as ADHD-related behaviors, can transform conflicts into opportunities for growth, offering practical insights for couples navigating similar struggles.

The conversation broadens as Kendra and Dr. Ryan discuss how ADHD affects their intimacy, communication, and daily interactions, from Kendra’s struggle with physical touch to Dr. Ryan’s feelings of rejection. They emphasize the importance of both partners taking ownership of their roles in relationship patterns, rather than pointing fingers. Through candid storytelling and actionable advice, this episode encourages listeners to identify areas of resistance in their own lives and marriages, offering a path toward deeper connection and mutual understanding. Whether you or your partner face neurodivergent challenges or not, this episode provides a relatable framework for improving your relationship.

Key Takeaways:

Resistance Persists: Avoiding personal challenges like ADHD or therapy can perpetuate relationship issues.

Pursuit-Withdrawal Pattern: Common in marriages, this dynamic (one partner pursues, the other withdraws) can be addressed with awareness and empathy.

Own Your Role: Both spouses must take responsibility for their contributions to conflicts to foster change.

ADHD and Intimacy: Neurodivergent traits can affect physical and emotional connection, requiring intentional effort to bridge gaps.

Embrace Differences: Accepting and understanding your partner’s unique traits builds stronger relationships.

“What you resist will persist. Draw back the curtain and face what’s showing up in your marriage for a reason.” — Kendra Hewitt

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