When I’s Collide:
You leave
You win and partner conforms
You compromise

Expectations create a debt/debtor relationship

A Christian marriage is a submission competition

Healthy couples
Put each other first
by going first
in an effort to be last

Marriage is meant to be the clearest picture of Christ’s love and sacrifice for you.

Confess: Take responsibility for turning your desires into expectations?

Ask: Where do you feel pressure to live up to my expectations?
Ask: What can I do to make our marriage richer?

1Reward: What’s rewarded is repeated