Welcome to The Inner Work Sunday series, where every week I share one of Marisa Peer’s Rules of the Mind. Simple. Powerful. And once you understand it, you will never un see it.

Today’s rule: the mind cannot hold conflicting beliefs. They cancel each other out.

Have you ever wanted something deeply, and at the same time believed you couldn’t have it? Have you worked hard towards a goal and found yourself quietly pulling in the opposite direction?

That’s not weakness. That’s not a lack of willpower. That is two beliefs pulling in opposite directions at the same time, and your mind, caught between them, unable to move forward.

When I did my own shadow work, I found my conflicting beliefs written on paper for the first time:

I need to be seen — but I believe I am not worthy of being seen.

I need to rest — but I don’t deserve it.

I need money — but I believe money is bad.

The moment I saw them clearly, something shifted. The pull between them began to lose its power.

That is the work. Not pushing harder. Understanding more clearly. 💛

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When did you last let yourself be truly angry?

Not the polite frustration you allow yourself. Not the irritation you immediately apologise for. The real thing.

Most of us, especially women who grew up learning to be good, quiet, and easy, were never taught that anger was allowed. So we stuffed it down. Lid firmly on.

But unfelt anger doesn't disappear. It waits. It turns inward. It comes out sideways, in resentment, in exhaustion, in that low hum of bitterness we can never quite explain.

In this episode we talk about the emotions we were taught to hide, and I introduce the feelings wheel, a simple, powerful tool for finally naming what's really underneath the surface.

Because anger is almost never just anger. And the moment you can name what's beneath it, something begins to shift.

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Are you always the one who shows up? The one who helps, listens, gives, supports, and then wonders why you feel so empty?

I was that woman. For most of my life.

I gave from the moment I woke up to the moment I went to sleep. And I told myself it was because I was caring. Generous. A good person.

What I didn't see was the quiet, desperate fear underneath: if I stop being useful, I will stop being wanted.

In this episode I share where that pattern comes from — often much earlier than we realise, and the difference between giving from love and giving from fear. Because one fills you up. And the other slowly drains you dry.

This one is for the women who have given everything to everyone and are wondering why there is nothing left for themselves.

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There is a moment in my own healing that I will never forget.

I was journaling, working through a prompt about recognition, about what I had needed to do to earn love, when something cracked open.

I realised I had been living inside a room full of eyes. Watching me. Judging me. Finding me lacking. The same eyes that had watched me in the school corridors. The same voices that had told me I was nobody.

And when I finally looked closely, every single one of those eyes was my own.

I had taken the voices and the eyes of the children who bullied me, carried them inside, and let them narrate my entire adult life.

In this episode I share the breakthrough that became the foundation of everything I teach — the moment I realised the harshest judge in my life had never been someone else. She had always been me. Wearing borrowed eyes.

This is the episode that changes things. 💛

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Have you ever noticed a voice inside you that criticises, doubts, and keeps you small, and assumed it was just you?

In this very first episode of The Inner Work, I want to gently offer you a different possibility: what if that voice was never yours to begin with?

I almost didn't press record on this podcast. The voice told me nobody would want to listen. That I wasn't interesting enough, credible enough, ready enough. And I nearly believed it.

In this episode I share what finally made me hit the button anyway, and the insight that changed everything: that the harshest voices we carry inside us were almost never our own. They were borrowed. Absorbed. Handed to us by people and experiences from our past.

And here's what I've learned, both through my own healing journey and through my work as a therapist: understanding where a belief came from is one of the most powerful things you can do. The moment you see it clearly, really see it, it begins to lose its grip on you.

This episode is for every woman who has ever shrunk herself to fit. Who has edited her words before speaking. Who has wondered whether she's too much, or perhaps not quite enough.

You are listening to the right podcast. 💛

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This is The Inner Work with Rose Gaudion, a podcast for women who are exhausted. Not just tired. Exhausted from performing, from keeping the peace, from giving everything to everyone and having nothing left for themselves. I'm Rose Gaudion — RTT therapist, women's coach, and someone who spent the better part of fifty years making herself small so that nobody would leave. Every episode we go a little deeper, into the inner judge, grief, anger, the wounds planted in childhood that are still running your life today. Real stories, no polished version. I'm still healing. And I'm doing this anyway. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode, the first one is coming very soon."Come and find me at rise-into-your-light.beehiiv.com — I'd love to stay connected."