Why does sex sometimes feel disconnected… even when you care about the person?
In Part 2 of this conversation, we go deeper into the connection between anxiety, shame, and intimacy—and how these patterns quietly shape your experience in relationships.
I’m joined again by Elana Auerbach, author of The Sure Thing, and we explore the layers most people avoid: the conditioning around sex, the pressure to perform, and the internal narratives that make it hard to fully relax and be present.
If you’ve ever felt in your head during intimacy, struggled to let go, or questioned why something felt “off” even when everything seemed right—this episode will open your eyes.
In this episode:
- How shame impacts your ability to experience intimacy
- The link between anxiety and disconnection during sex
- Conditioning and beliefs that shape your relationship with intimacy
- Why safety—not performance—is the foundation of connection
- How to start recognizing and shifting these patterns
This is the deeper layer of the conversation.
If you haven’t listened to Part 1, start there—this builds on everything we uncovered about anxiety, attraction, and relationship signals.
Wellness to Greatness: Anxiety Support for Women
Helping you understand your signals, build resilience, and create calm from the inside out.
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Find Elana Auerbach:
Website: https://surethingexperiment.com/
FB: facebook.com/ElanaAuerbachAuthor
IG: https://www.instagram.com/elana.auerbach/
A free guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire, visit:
https://guide.surethingexperiment.com/wild-sensual-self
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Find Janelle Plamondon:
Instagram: @wellnesstogreatness
Youtube: @WellnessToGreatness
www.wellnesstogreatness.ca