After a little life-hiatus, Totally Unqualified is back. From end-of-summer blues to Taylor Swift’s engagement ring to an NYC dating story so outrageous only social media could make it possible, we’ve got plenty to catch up on. Then we turn to something deeper: confidence. Why can we feel rock solid in one part of life yet shaky in another? How do parents shape their kids’ self-belief? And why does self-assurance seem to shift with every setting? We share our own stories—and some hard truths—about what it really takes to build and hold onto confidence