Totally Unqualified

In this episode, we dig into how parents and adult kids can argue the right way—how to say what you need without blowing things up, and the reasons why everyone often walks away feeling annoyed and misunderstood. (Hint for parents: expecting less might actually help.) 
 
We also housekeep the difference between manifesting and having a hopeful mindset, and help a listener navigate early-dating oversharing—when to gently redirect and when to run because the ick is real.

We’re back, baby! After a little break, the Totally Unqualified crew returns to tackle the question we all secretly wonder: does manifesting actually work? Can you bring good things into your life just by saying them out loud? We unpack it all with our special guest, Will, and share what we’re currently trying to call into existence.
Plus, we talk about the underrated magic of stretching and sketching, the resurgent love of Glee music (yes, it still slaps), and our latest New York moment—a Brooklyn café with every milk except regular milk. Macadamia, oat, almond… but not one drop of the real thing. Welcome to Hipsterville. Manifestation, movement, and mild outrage—it’s good to be back.

This week we’re talking cowboys, country dancing, and why Texas two-stepping might just be our new love language. We’re also all in on the Sunshine Protection Act (because daylight savings is absolutely absurd) ,and we dig into the NYC mayoral race, friendship politics, and whether you can stay close with someone whose views don’t align with yours.

For our big topic, we’re getting real about regressing: what happens when grief sneaks back in, how to get back on track, and why missing who you used to be or what you used to have might actually mean you’re growing. Part therapy, part chaos, and totally unqualified—as always.

Let’s start with this: When did New York City become RSVP-only? You can’t just wander into a trivia night, workout class, or even the Halloween Dog Parade anymore. Everything requires a ticket, time slot, barcode, or blood sample (almost). Spontaneity = Dead.

We also discuss why Southern hospitality might actually be the superior hospitality and share the most “only in New York” story—featuring a cyclist and a vehicle no one saw coming.

Then we get into the big topic: What is stressing out Gen Z?  Texting anxiety? Friend drama? Student loans? AI replacing us all? Does Gen Z actually have more to stress about than any generation before them, or are we just more aware (and online) about it?

It’s funny, truthful, and organized just enough to claim it was planned.

This week, we’re talking about what it really means to access your inner strength—and why so many people wait for someone else to give them permission to shine. News flash: life isn’t coming to you. It’s waiting for you to step up and claim it.
Along the way, we also dig into why Gen Z loves this season of Dancing with the Stars, the sheer insanity when people continually “don’t remember” meeting you, and the fine art of BTI—Beating to the Ignore. We also continue the debate on when to take the high road versus the low road, and share a truly maddening New York story involving stolen taxis on the holiest day of the year.

Why is it so hard to just say sorry? In this episode, we unpack the art (and awkwardness) of apologizing—why we avoid it, what gets in the way, and how being intentional about our words and actions can change everything. Because “I’m sorry” isn’t just about guilt—it’s about growth.

And since no Totally Unqualified episode is ever just one thing, we also dive into cookbooks, longevity, and the everyday choices that help us live with more intention. Oh, and yes—Bad Bunny is on our radar (of course), as is the messy, complicated reality of immigration.

It’s apologies, intentional living, and a little cultural chaos—all in one episode.

After a little life-hiatus, Totally Unqualified is back. From end-of-summer blues to Taylor Swift’s engagement ring to an NYC dating story so outrageous only social media could make it possible, we’ve got plenty to catch up on. Then we turn to something deeper: confidence. Why can we feel rock solid in one part of life yet shaky in another? How do parents shape their kids’ self-belief? And why does self-assurance seem to shift with every setting? We share our own stories—and some hard truths—about what it really takes to build and hold onto confidence

Change—love it or hate it, sometimes it’s the only way forward. We talk about knowing when the benefits of change outweigh staying put, how to handle the uncertainty, and why it can feel easier when you’re young than later in life. We also get into why skimping is a no-go whether on quality, experiences, or life itself. We also share a few iconic NYC moments that could only happen here.

Is there such a thing as being too independent in a relationship? In this episode, we unpack the line between healthy autonomy and emotional avoidance. Doing your own thing? Great. But how often—and at what cost? We talk about how independence can be empowering… and when it might just be a way to avoid intimacy. We also get into the challenges of dating someone with totally different political views (maybe that used to work, but these days…maybe not), and share our strong feelings about why bars and restaurants need to chill with the craft cocktail obsession.

First dates: They’re exciting, awkward, and full of potential missteps. In this episode, we break down the essentials—how many drinks is too many, whether or not a kiss (or more) is on the table, and how to ensure success. We also get into the universally hated art of ghosting and why it needs to end, like yesterday. Oh, and one more thing: NYC in the summer? We have thoughts—and they aren’t pretty.