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Why do high-control religious environments and demands for absolute obedience lead to such devastating consequences? In this deeply personal episode of We're Doing It!, Sofia and Albert dive into the real-world dynamics behind the documentary The Death of a Pastor's Wife. Moving beyond the headlines, we explore how patriarchal church leadership, weaponized submission, and toxic control shape marriages behind closed doors.

Drawing from historical research on the Southern Baptist Convention, the 1984 backlash against female ordination, and our own journey of deconstructing out of high-control church systems, we look at the dangerous intersection of spiritual authority and coercive control. Plus, we share a fictionalized Reddit perspective that COULD have been written by Mica, exploring what it's like to slowly lose your voice, become a "shell of a person," and finally try to walk away.

Whether you are navigating your own faith deconstruction, trying to spot red flags in religious culture, or trying to understand the systemic pressures faced by pastors' wives, this conversation is for you.

Make sure to subscribe, share, and tune in next week as we continue this critical conversation with Part 2 on divorce, institutional betrayal, and a very special guest interview!

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In this episode of We’re Doing It, Sofia and Albert dive into the cathartic (and sometimes chaotic) process of decluttering...not just physical items, but mental and emotional baggage too. Sofia shares the thrill of making sales online after losing her job, along with the hilarious realities of Facebook Marketplace: lowball offers, strange 10 PM meetup locations, and accidental harassment over Zelle transactions. Plus, things get spicy as they debate the "great sock mystery," Tasmanian devil tool piles in the barn, and reading wild Reddit threads about the worst Marketplace interactions. 

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Reddit Story: What are your weirdest stories/sh*tshows on marketplace?

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In this episode of We’re Doing It, Sofia and Albert dive into the reality of turning 40, shifting mindsets, and why "midlife clarity" feels so much better than a midlife crisis. Sofia shares the hilarious and intimidating experience of buying makeup for the very first time, while Albert reflects on financial maturity, emotional growth, and what getting older really looks like. Plus, they tackle a heavy Best of Redditor Updates story about a woman dealing with an unstable spouse and learning to set hard boundaries. 

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Reddit Story: My husband (32M) left me (32F) after almost 15 years together and wants me to forget and let him come home. What are my next steps to stop that?

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I almost didn’t post this episode.

For our 10th milestone episode, Albert and I decided to tackle a topic we’ve been avoiding: parenting. To keep things light, we brought our daughters on the show to play a quick game of "Who's Most Likely To" and roast us as parents. Well, they didn't hold back, and I’m not going to lie…hearing their honest perspectives hit my ego hard and left me feeling deeply embarrassed and completely exposed.

As a mom, you try so hard every single day, so hearing how your kids view certain moments can trigger instant mom guilt. Part of me wanted to trash the audio and pretend this never happened, but we decided to stay vulnerable and keep it completely real. We also dive into a wild Am I The Asshole? Reddit story about a third-grader, a strict reading policy, and a pair of muddy clothes.

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Episode Timestamps & Highlights:

00:00:00 - Happy Episode 10! 🎉 (Plus our Exclusive Sticker Raffle details)

00:05:00 - Why parenting is such a hard topic for us to cover

00:09:50 - 12 Years of Marriage: Are we on the same page as parents?

00:13:30 - Parenting through childhood memories & learning not to parent out of fear

00:20:15 - THE ROAST BEGINS: Eloisa & Olivia join the podcast 🎙️

00:21:05 - Who gives the longer, more dramatic lectures?

00:26:00 - Who loses their keys, phone, and wallet in the freezer? 🧊

00:29:10 - The girls weigh in on who they actually spend more time with

00:32:30 - The $5 allowance & the infamous "grounded over a syrup bottle" story 🥞

00:41:15 - Post-Roast Debrief: Overstimulation, mom guilt, and dealing with hurt feelings

00:57:05 - Reddit AITA: Sending a 3rd grader to school in muddy clothes over reading class 

Reddit Story: AITA for being mad at my wife for sending our kid to school in dirty clothes?

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What happens when "for better or for worse" means dealing with public scenes, bad posture, and cultural clashes?

This week on We're Doing It!, Sofia and Albert return for part two of their summer series on all the things married couples do that make each other cringe.

From Albert calling out Sofia's open-mouthed chewing to Sofia calling out Albert for slumping until he looks like a literal letter 'C', no bad habit is safe! Plus, we're answering listener fan mail about window-lock fart traps in the car, and unpacking why public arguing makes us want to run for the hills. 

In this episode, we talk about:

• Listener Fart Stories: Locking the windows for "victory," computer lab biohazards, and why reading your fan mail makes us feel a little more normal. 
• Personal Pet Peeves: Open-mouth chewing, Albert’s letter-C spine posture, and the silent "husband look" every spouse knows during public arguments. 
• Dropping Pride & Tupperware: Why taking extra food home isn't embarrassing when you’ve been broke, and Albert turning 40. 
• Reddit Story Segment: We read a deeply frustrating write-in from a 26-year-old bride whose fiancé refuses to wear his permanent cultural wedding bangle because he claims it looks "unprofessional"—leading to a huge clash over respect, culture, and marriage expectations.

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Do you ever look at your spouse in public and think, "I love you, but please pretend you don't know me right now"?

This week on We're Doing It!, Sofia and Albert dive into the deeply relatable, slightly gross, and hilarious boundaries that collapse once you’ve been married long enough.

From accidentally spending 30 entire minutes dissecting the mechanics of passing gas (and why Albert thinks farts are an inherited genetic trait), to navigating the unwritten rules of marital body boundaries—we are laying it all out on the table.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The Fart Boundary: How long is too long to hold it in front of your partner, why Sofia used a second-date car fart as an ultimate litmus test, and the courtesy (or shame) of stepping outside to let one rip. 
• Grown-Up Fashion Crimes: Why men should never comment negatively on their wife’s style, and how dressing down in public tests your partner's patience. 
• Listener Mailbag: A hilarious listener write-in about the ultimate morning-after deception—thinking your spouse is in the kitchen cleaning up late-night snack dishes, only to wake up and find them all piled in the sink! 
• Reddit Advice Segment: We read an infuriating post from a wife whose husband constantly misremembers facts, underplays her major life achievements, and accidentally makes her look like a liar to everyone they know.

Plus, we talk about Gen Alpha slang, classroom fart trauma from 5th grade, and why we’re building a community for real married people who just want to laugh at the absurdity of daily life. 

Reddit Story: How do I get my [26F] husband [26M] to stop embarrassing me?

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Are we completely losing our minds, or are everyday irritations just hitting harder late at night? We are back with a brand-new episode of We’re Doing It, and this week, Sofia and Albert are coming to you live from the nostalgic depths of a bedroom closet! 

We are officially diving into the mildly infuriating annoyances, part 2. First, Sofia breaks down the sheer anxiety of modern texting etiquette, confessing that she spent years thinking "left on read" meant something about the color red, and why she strictly keeps her read receipts turned off to avoid absolute panic. Albert shares his own seven-year texting ghost story, leading into a deeper conversation about the boundary clash between ADHD brain fog and everyday household logistics. 

Then, we hold nothing back as we dissect the dreaded "man flu," the phenomenon of grown men catching a mild cold, acting like literal babies, and expecting to be fully coddled and taken care of while their wives handle the entire domestic load. Sofia gets real about the hormonal overstimulation of dealing with chronic pain, PMDD, and the spider web of marital expectations when one spouse completely drains the room. 

To wrap it all up, we give our raw, blind reaction to a jaw-dropping Reddit thread about a husband who demanded his sick wife drop everything to nurse him back to health, completely ignoring the fact that she was actively caring for their three sick infants at the exact same time. We dissect the thread and officially determine that this husband is the definition of an unreliable narrator. 

Grab your home-brewed, sugar-free coffee, step into the closet with us, and listen now! Click follow on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and leave us a 5-star review! 

Reddit Story: AITA for expecting my wife to care for me while I am extremely ill?

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We’re back this week on We’re Doing It, and we are breaking down the mildly infuriating everyday pet peeves that drive us completely insane. Since Sofia has to make her own coffee at home now because we are broke, we are tackling the universal frustrations of public behavior and household logistics while running on pure brain fog. 

First up, we give a massive shout-out to our isolated listeners tuning in overseas in Germany, the Netherlands, and the UK. Then, we dive right into the ultimate test of human character: people who refuse to return their grocery carts to the cart corral. Albert shares some personal frontline history from his first job, sack-corralling at H-E-B, and Sofia shares a hilarious, mildly illegal personal story about an abandoned Walmart shopping cart she rescued from the side of the road and turned into a backyard wheelbarrow. 

We also discuss the absolute nightmare of public restroom etiquette. Why do people insist on picking the exact stall right next to you when the rest of the bathroom is completely empty? Albert shares a 20-year-old biology class germ experiment proving why the first stall is actually the cleanest, and we issue a public service announcement pleading with the masses to please wash your hands after using the restroom. 

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Is your AI chatbot secretly a better friend than the real people in your life? This week, Sofia and Albert are back with a brand-new episode of We’re Doing It, and they brought along a very special guest: their long-time friend, 6th-grade classroom alum, and veteran, Victoria!

Following up on last week's massive wave of listener DMs confirming that absolutely nobody has adult friends right now, the crew tackles the modern loneliness epidemic and the terrifying rise of AI relationships. Sofia gets brutally honest about her own premium $20/month subscription breakup with ChatGPT after an algorithm update left her feeling judged, leading her straight into the arms of Google Gemini.

We pull back the curtain on how AI is actively infiltrating and cheapening our local infrastructure, marketing, and art, including a hilarious breakdown of a local multi-million-dollar livestock show using a botched AI Longhorn billboard, and a nightmare story about an ex-boss who strictly banned AI while secretly using it for every single email. Plus, we share a truly bizarre story about a 1 AM airport Uber ride that featured AI-generated BDSM music. 

To wrap it all up, we dive into a jaw-dropping Reddit thread about a woman whose deep emotional relationship with an AI chatbot forces her fiancé to permanently call off their real-life wedding.

Are we losing our actual human capacity to communicate, or is a robotic moral compass exactly what we deserve? Grab your recycled coffee cups and tune in to find out!

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Are we the dream besties we think we are, or are we actually the problem? 🫣 In Part 2 of our adult friendship episodes, we are turning the mirror on ourselves! We dive into our own "sus" friendship habits, from Albert’s ADHD brain replies that never actually get sent to whether Sofia is secretly hogging the conversation in group settings.

Plus, we read an absolutely wild, unhinged Reddit story about a "friend" who accused someone of stealing her boyfriend... except the boyfriend had literally zero clue they were even dating. It’s giving major Baby Reindeer vibes.

Stick around until the end to find out why we’re sleeping butt-to-butt tonight. We swear we actually like each other!

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