In Episode 338 "Were You the One Doing Everything?" we will discuss how I often hear clients say they "did everything" in their relationship. What you may not realize is that doing everything is a trauma response. People who "do everything" also frequently over-commit , struggle to delegate, mistrust others, are perfectionists, and are reluctant to ask for help. Hyper-independence is a way of avoiding needing on others in order to avoid being hurt. It also makes you the perfect target for a narcissist.