What we say, how we say it and what we hear all get filtered through the lenses of our stories.  We assume a lot when we communicate.  Clarity is one.

When we are feeling charged, ready to go full-tilt-boogie, whether positively or negatively charged, messages can get lost in transmission and translation. 

We can forget to offer or to seek clarity in these moments.  And sometimes it can feel too damn unsafe or uncomfortable to do so.

To change how I engaged with my family, I had to change how I engaged with myself.

What this meant was that I had to be able to IMAGINE a new way of being.

Before engaging with anyone, I start with myself - what story am I assuming?

Asked from love, assuming the best in myself or in another human, opens up space to clarify, to be curious, to be heard, to connect and to move forward in a good way. 

WHAT DID YOU HEAR ME SAY?

XXO