Is your growth threatening your marriage - or is it actually an invitation from God?

If you’re a Christian woman in business, a Christian leader, or a faith-driven entrepreneur who feels God stretching you in this season, but your spouse feels stuck or left behind, this episode is for you. We unpack how to pursue godly success, purpose at work, and faith-driven leadership without sacrificing your marriage in the process. You’ll walk away with language, tools, and hope to navigate emotional tension, identity shifts, and misaligned seasons—without shrinking back from who God is asking you to become.

Summary

In this episode of the Don’t Waste the Chaos Podcast, Christian business and HR consultant Kerri Roberts sits down with her husband Terry Roberts for a real, unscripted conversation about what happens when one partner grows and the other feels left behind. Through their own stories - from grad school to career pivots, from burnout to business launches - they talk honestly about money fears, identity, retirement, and how growth in one spouse can feel threatening, scary, or lonely to the other.

Kerri and Terry dig into how identity in Christ shapes emotional health, how to support your spouse without losing yourself, and why “working on each other” almost always backfires. Terry shares about the 365-day identity devotional he’s building and how it’s helping him process insecurity, comparison, and emotional triggers in a way that keeps his focus on Christ instead of on blame. Together, they explore what it means for Christian women in leadership and Christian entrepreneurs to grow fast, pivot careers, or start businesses while still honoring their marriage covenant.

If you’re a high-achieving Christian woman in business who’s afraid your growth might cost you your marriage - or you feel resentful, stuck, or unseen while your spouse sprints ahead—this conversation will ground you in Scripture, reframe your expectations, and give you practical ways to overcome chaos at home. You’ll gain language for your feelings, a healthier view of retirement and calling, and renewed confidence that godly success doesn’t have to come at the expense of your marriage.

Key Takeaways

1. Stop “working on” your spouse—start working on yourself and serving them.
2. Fast growth vs. slow growth is normal—but silence kills connection.
3. Identity in Christ protects your marriage from insecurity and comparison.
4. Support doesn’t mean self-erasure.
5. Retirement isn’t the finish line—purpose is.

Resources

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Terry Roberts

• Instagram: @tdrob
• TikTok: @mortgagetipdaily

You don’t have to choose between your calling and your covenant. God can use the chaos between your growth and your spouse’s pace to shape both of you. Don’t waste the chaos—embrace it.

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