In this empowering and sex-positive episode, Katie sits down with certified sex coach Gwyn Isaacs to tackle some of the biggest intimacy challenges couples face today. They dive deep into:

Why orgasm pressure is killing pleasure for so many women

How clitoral stimulation plays a major role (spoiler: 75-85% of women need it!)

Introducing sex toys without bruising male egos

Overcoming toxic masculinity and performance anxiety in the bedroom

How mental blocks, anxiety, and "the brakes" affect sexual desire (hello, Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are)

Mindful sex, breathwork, and practical ways to explore new pleasure pathways

How couples can experiment together and make intimacy fun again

This inclusive, no-shame conversation is for anyone looking to reignite their sex life, communicate better with their partner, and create more connected, satisfying intimacy—no matter your gender, relationship status, or sexual orientation.

Resources Mentioned:

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

Gwyn Isaacs’ podcast: What Excites Us

Coaching & Resources: earthlydesire.com

What’s the best way to start masturbating if you’re new? Can you pee inside a partner during sex — and is it safe? In this special solo episode recorded right before and after major surgery, Gwyn shares a personal life update and answers listener questions about self-pleasure, vulva-owner masturbation tips, toys, and advanced kink play like watersports. You’ll also hear behind-the-scenes thoughts about the podcast’s future, plus practical advice on exploring your own pleasure without shame or pressure.

🎧 Topics include:

Beginner’s guide to masturbation for vulva owners

How to create a safe, enjoyable solo exploration ritual

Sex toy recommendations for different desires

Is it safe to pee inside your partner? (Water play & vaginal health considerations)

A candid personal update on surgery, recovery, and what’s next for the show

Did you know perimenopause can start in your 30s — long before most people expect it? In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with Kim Benoy, host of Midlife with Courage, to break down what peri- and menopause actually are, how they affect the bodies of people with uteruses, and why it’s about so much more than just hot flashes.

We cover:

The wide range of physical and emotional symptoms (many people don’t realize are related)

How hormone shifts impact daily life

Essential oils that can provide real, immediate relief for some symptoms

Why early awareness is key to navigating this transition with confidence

🎧 Whether you’re approaching midlife, already there, or simply want to be better informed, this episode is packed with supportive information and actionable tips.

Learn more about Kim Benoy and listen to her podcast at midlifewithcourage.com, or find Midlife with Courage on your favorite podcast app.

What do teens actually need to build healthy relationships — with themselves, their bodies, and others? In this eye-opening episode, I’m joined by Julia Sheldon, also known as Ask Auntie Julia, a Teen Relationship Coach who helps young people feel seen, heard, and supported as they navigate the complex world of relationships and sexuality.

Together, we explore:

How parents can start (and survive) the tough conversations

The real impact of porn on today’s teens

What teenagers wish adults understood

Why Julia is hopeful for the next generation

And so much more

🎧 Whether you're a parent, educator, or simply curious about how to support teens in today’s world, this conversation is packed with insight and actionable advice.

See Velma the Vulva and some adorable pics of Julia at: earthlydesire.com/ep23

Connect with Julia:

Want to unlock deeper pleasure and playful exploration in your solo or partnered sex life? In this episode, Linda River Valente reveals how Tarot and Oracle Cards can be powerful tools to guide your sexual play, inspire creativity, and deepen connection — anytime, anywhere.

Episode Description:

Linda, an astrologer, tarot visionary, holistic sexuality educator, witch, and burlesque performer, shares how you can use Tarot and Oracle Cards as intuitive guides for solo self-pleasure and partnered play. Whether you’re new to card reading or a seasoned mystic, this conversation will inspire you to bring more magic, intention, and fun into your sexual experiences.

Learn about Linda’s favorite decks — including the Linestrider Tarot and Wild Unknown Archetypes Deck — and how these tools can open up new pathways of self-discovery and erotic creativity.

✨Connect with Linda River Valente:

Wild Unknown Archetypes Deck: thewildunknown.com

What if pleasure could actually heal your body and mind? Somatic Sex Educator Melody Joyce breaks down how reconnecting with your body through science-backed techniques can transform your experience of intimacy and well-being. Ready to feel more embodied right now? This episode is for you.

Episode Description:

Melody shares her personal healing journey and explains how the Vagus nerve, jaw-pelvis connection, and five embodiment tools can help you feel more grounded, present, and alive. You’ll walk away with simple, practical ways to start feeling more embodied today.

We also discuss:

The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin

Sex for One by Betty Dodson

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

✨Connect with Melody Joyce:

In this solo episode, I share my personal framework to help you create more satisfying, connected, and enjoyable sexual experiences — and yes, it’s called REAL. We’ll explore how redefining what "sex" means to you can open up new possibilities, why evaluating your desires ahead of time can deepen your connection, how aligning with yourself and your partner(s) fosters trust, and the importance of leaving distractions and expectations behind.

In the episode, I talk about how cheesy I am and my new tattoo that emphasizes that. I offer permission to you, and I reference a few folks who have influenced this discussion. 

To see the tattoo, get the permission slip, or talk back to me please visit the show webpage whatexcitesus.com

Emily Nagoski and her book Come As You Are is available at:https://www.emilynagoski.com/home

Here is the list of reasons some folks have had sex

I think this is the episode of the American Sex Podcast with Sunny Megatron that I reference, but really most episodes of this podcast are fantastic, and certainly the ones with Midori

For more about Midori

And the video of How to train to Monkey Mind

What is PCOS really—and why aren’t we talking about it more?

🌿 Find Melissa at thehormonedietitian.com

What if better sex and deeper connection were just one practice away?

“I didn’t even realize this part of me was missing… until I found it.”

New to the scene but already deeply rooted, Aetherius opens up about the thrill and healing she’s found in a tight-knit kink group in northern Vermont. We talk about everything from discovering identity through play, to navigating life as a trans woman in tech, to parenting through authenticity and joy.

She lives with her wife. And their boyfriend. She games. She codes. She scenes. And in this episode, she tells it all.

Topics include:

Whether you're in the kink world or just kink-curious, this is one of those episodes that lingers long after the final word.