In this video, I reflect on leadership and self-mastery for queer change-makers, especially during what I call a poly-crisis—facing many simultaneous challenges that can feel overwhelming.

I explore the tension between wanting to create meaningful change and the limits of what I or any of us can realistically manage at one time. Drawing on Taoist philosophy and my own experiences, I emphasize the importance of inner stillness, focus, and community as the foundation for effective leadership. I share practical insights on how I prioritize, manage my energy, and seek support, highlighting that leadership isn’t about doing everything alone, but about leveraging collective wisdom while staying grounded in my values and purpose.

Great leaders do not stand alone. They seek wisdom, mentorship, and community support to strengthen themselves and the work they do.

Key points discussed in the video

* Leading change is inherently challenging during a poly-crisis; no one can solve everything at once. Trying to manage too many things simultaneously leaves us scattered and frustrated.

* Social media can be both informative and distracting. While it sometimes surfaces hidden truths, brevity is the antithesis of complexity and creates discord.

* Drawing from The Wen Tzu, still water is used as a mirror. When my inner waters are calm, I can reflect clearly and act with clarity.

* Taking care of myself is my first priority. I can’t lead well if I’m agitated or overwhelmed inside. I share moments from my life—ADHD, stress, and dyslexia—to show how internal disruption affects my ability to lead.

* Meaningful leadership comes from focusing on what matters most and pulling support from community.

* Leadership is not a solo pursuit. The best leaders look to mentors, peers, and colleagues for guidance and insight. Collective wisdom and support create clarity, resilience, and effective outcomes.

For us to make a meaningful difference, we must focus on what we can do best, ask for support, and give support in return.

Invitation for Self-Reflection

* What’s disrupting your inner stillness right now?

* Where in your leadership are you trying to focus on too many things at once?

* What one thing could you prioritize today that will make the greatest positive difference for yourself and others?

Leave a comment or message me: I’d love to hear what’s challenging you as a queer leader and support you in creating clarity and direction to be the change you wan to create in the world.

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