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This could be 4 different episodes tbh. We started recording with no plan and ended up talking for an hour about what I learned listening back to our podcast fights, why I thought I was a "bad person" my whole life, and how I bought a stuffed puppy to represent my inner critic. This is Part 7 of our completely unfiltered love story, recorded from our balcony in Vietnam with Buchta snoring, the fridge humming, and zero editing. What to expect: An unstructured conversation that covers childhood patterns, relationship triggers, ego management, and why accepting things (instead of resisting them) changes your life. We interrupt each other, we go on tangents and Tomash literally says "there's no point to this episode" at the end. But that IS the entire point.
WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT:
✨ The Listening Back Revelation - I edited our last episode and realized I was reacting to stories in my HEAD, not what was actually SAID
✨ Why I Thought I Was a Bad Person - Kindergarten psychiatrist, tennis rage, kicked out of the US, the pattern of "something's wrong with me"
✨ You're Not Your Emotions - You are not your reactions, your body, your thoughts, your mind. Your core self is unchanging.
✨ The Friday Night Drinking Example - It's not about WHAT your partner does, it's about what you make it MEAN about yourself
✨ Meet Pepo the Ego Puppy - I bought a stuffed golden retriever to represent my ego and now I pet it when negative thoughts come
✨ The Boyfriend Pattern - How I tried to change every ex until I accepted Tomash (then HE started changing by himself)
✨ Resistance → Acceptance → Evolution - The pattern repeats until you accept it, then it disappears from your life
THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:
- You feel like a "bad person" because of your big emotions
- You've been told you're "too much" your whole life
- You fight with your partner and wonder if you're fundamentally broken
- You're tired of Instagram-perfect relationship advice
- You believe messy is more honest than polished
WHAT THIS EPISODE IS NOT:
❌ Structured (we literally had zero plan and went on massive tangents)
❌ Polished (we interrupt each other constantly, Tomash loses his train of thought, I move locations mid-episode)
❌ A 5-step solution (no frameworks, no formulas, just truth)
❌ Short (we ramble about ego, acceptance, childhood patterns, and Pepo for over an hour)
WHAT THIS EPISODE IS:
✅ The most honest thing ever - We almost didn't post it because it felt too random
✅ Real revelation - Listening back to fights showed me I was reacting to my own filters
✅ Permission to be messy - Big emotions don't make you a bad person
✅ Proof you're not broken - Your core self is separate from your emotions
✅ Practical tool - Meet Pepo, love your ego instead of fighting it
✅ The pattern explained - Why the same thing keeps happening until you accept it
ABOUT US:
I'm Martina (33, feels everything, talks in tangents, says "you know" 47 times). He's Tomash (36, calm AF, wants structure, literally says "I'm leaving with resistance" at the end, gets triggered when I interrupt). We're the couple behind Magnetic Couples Bracelets. We live in Vietnam. Together 24/7 for 6 years. We record with zero plan and somehow end up with gold. We have completely different memories of the same events. We choose each other anyway. English is our second language. I swear when passionate. Tomash can't believe people listen to our random yapping. Buchta snores. Our fridge is extra loud.
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Magnetic Couples Bracelets: https://www.magneticcouplesbracelets.com/
Special shoutout to Heather from Langhorn, PA for her Magnetic black and white Leather Bracelets order! 💕
LET'S CONNECT:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/martinarajcan/
Have a beautiful day or night, wherever you are. This episode is proof that chaos doesn't need a point to be meaningful. Or at least that's what I tell myself while recording unstructured podcasts. 💕
P.S. - I almost deleted this episode because it felt too random. Then I realized: random IS real.
P.P.S. - If you've ever felt like you're "too emotional" or a "bad person" because of your reactions, this is for you. You're not broken. You're just human. Welcome home. 🌱
P.P.P.S. - Tomash wants you to comment if you actually listened to the end (he can't believe people do). I want you to comment: What story are you making up about something neutral in your life right now? 💬
P.P.P.P.S. - "I tried so hard and got so far, in the end it doesn't even matter" - Thanks Chester. This one's for you. 🤘
This is life. Messy, pointless, beautiful, real. No plan, lots of tangents, exactly as it should be. 🎢