What Lending a Sweater Can Teach You About Boundaries

Episode 7: The Truth About Boundaries: What No One Tells You

Many of us overlook these facts about setting boundaries - and this is detrimental to your relationships. It affects your relationship with yourself and with others. 

Tune in as Allison Ly dives into some myths and facts about boundaries so that you can shift your mindset about boundaries, and start to use them more effectively and with less guilt. 

Listen in on why boundaries are not one-size-fits-all and why they don’t need to be rigid to be effective. Especially as adults with immigrant parents, boundary-setting can bring up discomfort, fear of being misunderstood, and the pressure to keep the peace. But here's the truth: boundaries are necessary, and they change all the time - making this a lifelong skill you’ll always improve upon.

You’ll hear how boundaries show up in everyday moments - yes, even in lending out a sweater!. And what lessons lending a sweater can teach us about how to think about boundaries. 

If you haven’t been able to set boundaries or even think about HOW to set boundaries because you’re feeling stuck between your needs and your family’s expectations, this episode will help you shift your mindset, get curious (not judgmental), and start practicing boundaries with more confidence, compassion, and clarity.

🎧 Tune in to learn:
- What a boundary really is (it’s more than just saying no)
- How to communicate them when you’re not used to doing it
- Why discomfort isn’t a sign to stop—it’s necessary
- The role boundaries play in protecting your energy, peace, and relationships

And if you’re wanting more support on this so that you can start to enjoy more of your relationships with less overthinking and less guilt, check out ways to work with me:

- Let’s do some 1:1 coaching: https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/ 
- Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence, a program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love. 
https://www.heyallisonly.com/course 

Episode Timeline:
00:00 Why talk about Boundaries
00:59 Defining Boundaries
03:30 Misconceptions About Boundaries
04:20 Why It’s So Complicated
06:40 Adapting Boundaries Over Time
07:04 Examples of How to Set Boundaries
12:06 The Most Important Piece
15:05 What Now?

Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/7
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