Empowered with Immigrant Parents

Ep. 28: Men, Therapy & Relationship Building: Understanding How Therapy Can Actually Help

Featured Guest: Nick Bognar | Psychotherapist
Website: www.nickbognartherapy.com / www.nickbognarcoaching.com

Therapy and Relationship Building: For Men and Adults with Immigrant Parents

Have you ever thought about going to therapy but felt unsure whether it's right for you? 

Or struggled to build meaningful relationships while feeling like you don't quite belong?

For adults with immigrant parents, seeking therapy, setting boundaries, and building a supportive community and talking about your needs can come with unique challenges. 

You may have grown up learning to prioritize your family’s needs, keep your struggles to yourself, or always be used to figuring things out on your own. 

But what if getting support could help you build better relationships, feel more confident in yourself, and show up for the people you love without constantly putting yourself last?

In this episode of Empowered with Immigrant Parents, I'm joined by Nick Bognar, a psychotherapist in Pasadena, California, who specializes in men's issues. We talk about what therapy actually looks like, how to find a therapist who feels right for you, and why you don't have to share your deepest struggles before you're ready. 

Nick also shares his approach to building relationships, creating a supportive professional community, and connecting with people who share your values. We explore why putting yourself out there can feel uncomfortable, how your assumptions might keep you from forming meaningful connections, and how to show up in more spaces that you may be comfortable with.

If you've ever wondered about therapy, worry or struggled to ask for help, or wondered whether there's a place for you in a particular community, check out this episode. 

Let's create EVEN more supportive, meaningful relationships so that you can live more of your life while also caring for your parents.

More about Nick Bognar:

Nick Bognar is a practicing psychotherapist based in Pasadena, California, who focuses on men’s issues and helps men navigate relationships, emotions, personal growth, and the challenges of everyday life. He takes a practical, compassionate, and often humorous approach to therapy, creating a space where men can feel comfortable opening up and getting the support they need.Outside of his clinical work, Nick supervises therapists as they build their own practices and coaches mental health professionals who want to create fulfilling and sustainable careers. He’s passionate about making therapy more approachable and helping people understand how it can actually support them. When he’s not working, Nick loves cats—although he remains deeply troubled by their apparent indifference toward him.

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Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: 
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Episode Timeline:
04:38 - What Does Therapy Actually Look Like
5:07 - How Therapy Can Help You Change Your Relationships
8:28 - Why Men May Hesitate to Seek Therapy
10:53 - How to Know If Your Therapist Is the Right Fit
12:15 - Finding the Right Therapist
15:41 - When Therapy Is Recommended For You
17:01 - Why Building Trust Comes Before Opening Up
19:31 - How to Find People Who Share Your Values
21:15 - How to Build Relationships When It Doesn't Come Naturally
26:51 - Nick’s Hope: Increasing Accessiblity

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Ep 27: 3 Free Scripts to Say "No" Now (Without the Guilt)

You can say more of what you want -use this to help.

Do you ever struggle with telling people what you're thinking or what you're needing?

Maybe there are times when you may not even know what you're feeling?

If you grew up with immigrant parents, you probably know what I'm talking about.

Some of the factors that play a role are: family dynamics, what’s talked about (e.g. not emotions), cultural expectations, the hierarchy, the language barriers….and MORE.

That can make it hard to have a space where you get to practice saying what you want, or even thinking about what it is you want, or need.

But you know what?

You actually DO know what you want.

It's just a matter of giving yourself that space, deal with that discomfort of actually finding out what you want, and need.

In this episode, I share what I've noticed in the community of adults with immigrant parents and why I created this free resource you can use today.

These are plug and play scripts you can start using today to START to buy yourself more time to think MORE about what it is you want.

And it’s free.

You can grab the three free scripts at https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/sc...
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Episode Timeline:
0:21 — Do You Struggle to Share What You're Thinking?
1:33 — What Growing Up Chinese Vietnamese Taught Me About Speaking Up
6:42 — Three Free Scripts to Start Saying No (Without the Guilt)
9:22 — The Story About My Four-Year-Old That Honestly Impressed Me
10:41 — Why You Always Want to Start With Baby Steps

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Ep. 26: Why Speaking Up During Pregnancy Can Feel So Hard - Especially for Millennial Moms W/ Immigrant Parents featuring Hehe Stewart, Evidence Based Doula, Childbirth Educator, Advocate

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The Pregnancy Advice Every Mom Needs to Hear From a Doula

What happens when you’re pregnant, but the way you were raised taught you to trust authority, listen to the doctor, and not ask too many questions? Or you simply aren't sure how to navigate the health system in this way?

For adults with immigrant parents, navigating pregnancy and the healthcare system can bring up so much more than just questions about birth. 

It can bring up questions on how to manage fear, guilt, language barriers, cultural expectations and dynamics. And also just in general, how to do the “right” thing.

I’m joined by HeHe Stewart, childbirth educator, doula, advocate, and founder of The Birth Lounge, to talk about what it can actually look like to feel empowered during pregnancy and birth, especially when advocating for yourself doesn’t always come naturally, or wasn’t always welcomed.

We talk about the things you may not realize you’re allowed to ask for, how to navigate a healthcare system, what to do when you’re getting pushback, and how your partner, family, or support system can actually help you feel more confident instead of more overwhelmed.

We also talk about something I think applies far beyond pregnancy:
What happens when fear makes you look outside of yourself for the “right” answer?

Because sometimes, you don’t need more confidence first. You need more information.

And once you have that information, you may find that you’re much more capable of making decisions, asking questions, and trusting yourself than you thought.

If you’re pregnant, thinking about becoming pregnant, or simply someone who has struggled with speaking up, or asking for more from people you see as authority figures (or people in general!), there’s so much in this conversation for you.

Listen to the full episode and let me know what resonates with you.

Featured Guest:
Hehe Stewart, M.S | Evidence Based Doula, Childbirth Educator, Advocate
Website: thebirthlounge.com
Email: [email protected]
All platforms: @tranquilitybyhehe
Podcast: The Birth Lounge Podcast by Hehe Stewart

More about Hehe Stewart:
HeHe Stewart is a childbirth educator, doula, and fierce advocate for informed, autonomous birth. As the founder of Tranquility by HeHe and creator of The Birth Lounge, she has spent over a decade helping families prepare for birth and postpartum with evidence-based education and real-world advocacy tools. Known for her no-nonsense, empowering approach, HeHe teaches parents how to confidently navigate the maternity system, reduce unnecessary interventions, and stay in control of their experience. She’s also the host of The Birth Lounge Podcast, where she brings honest conversations and expert insights to support more confident, supported families.

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3 Free Easy-to-Use Scripts to Stop Saying 'Yes' Without Spiraling in Guilt 
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Episode Timeline:
1:42 - Explaining Your Job to Your Parents
2:10 - Why I Joined The Birth Lounge
6:48 - How Hehe Became a Doula
10:38 - Public knowledge vs Hospital Policy
14:33 - Why Our Medical System is Broken
23:00 - The Support System Pregnant Women Actually Need
30:26 - Advice for Male Partners
40:26 - Every Pregnant Woman Should Know This
45:06 - Hehe’s Favorite Tip Around Fear

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Ep 25: Breaking Second Generation Cultural Expectations

Move Forward Using These 4 Steps to Keep Cultural Factors in Mind

Featured On This Episode:

Dana Malstaff, Chief Visionary, Founder of BossMom
Website: https://bossmom.com/ 
Instagram: @danamalstaff
BossMom Podcast: https://bossmom.com/podcast/ 

Dana Malstaff is the founder of BossMom, a brand and app on a mission to change the landscape of motherhood. Because moms aren't going to build new things, create wealth, or model what's possible for their kids inside a system that wasn't built for their lives... they need support, space, and a different way of doing things. That's what BossMom is for. Dana is an author, speaker, podcaster, and the creator of Nurture to Convert marketing, and she's spent over a decade helping moms build businesses that actually fit the lives they're living.

If you've ever felt stuck between taking care of your family and building the life you want

If you've ever wondered whether you're being a "bad daughter" for choosing yourself

Or if you've struggled with guilt every time you try to do something different

This conversation is for you.

I joined Dana Malstaff, founder of BossMom, to talk about what it's really like growing up with immigrant parents as a second generation adult. 

We talk about why so many adults with immigrant parents feel responsible for everyone else, and what actually helps you move toward the life and relationships you want.

We talk about the thoughts that quietly keep us stuck, why boundaries feel so uncomfortable, and how you can start making changes without feeling like you're abandoning the people you love.

If you're trying to build a career, start a business, become a better parent, or simply feel more at peace in your relationships, I think you'll see yourself in this conversation.

Stay until the end to get the 4 key things you can start doing today to comfortably start doing more of what you truly desire. 

✨ If this episode resonates with you, subscribe for more conversations on navigating life as a millennial mom with immigrant parents.

Also check out the BossMom Podcast here:  https://bossmom.com/podcast/ 

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Episode Timeline: 

0:19 — Welcome to Empowered with Immigrant Parents
1:01 — How this conversation came to be
4:08 — Meet Dana Malstaff & Allison Ly
7:11 — Helping adults with immigrant parents
15:55 — Mindset shifts that matter
22:10 — When guilt leads to burnout
29:34 — Creating the relationships you want
37:43 — Four Key Takeaways To Move Forward 
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Ep 24: Honor Your Motherhood Panel
Honoring Your Motherhood, Healing Generational Patterns
We talk about motherhood, generational patterns, family dynamics, self-care, taking up space, and what it means to honor what you need and what you’re feeling.
Allison Ly, LCSW,  Faith-Ann Young and Sara Stanizai, LMFT share about how they honor their own experiences at the Honor Your Feelings Fest hosted by Asian Mental Health Project. 
We talk about:- How to create space for yourself- Generational patterns and inherited dynamics- The pressure to care for everyone- What we owe to our parents, children, and ourselves- What self-care looks like in daily life- What we choose to keep and what we choose to leave behind
Mentioned in Podcast: 

Asian Mental Health Project Website: https://www.asianmentalhealthproject.com/ Instagram: @asianmentalhealthproject
Sara Stanizai, LMFTProspect Therapy, Founder Website: https://www.prospecttherapy.comInstagram: @prospecttherapy
Faith-Ann YoungArtist, Community Activist + Mother of 2 Website: https://www.faithannyoung.com Instagram: @faithannyoung
Bios:
Asian Mental Health Project provides educational resources and community care initiatives that help make mental health care more accessible and approachable for the Pan-Asian community. 
Sara is a licensed marriage and family therapist who founded Prospect Therapy to create a queer- and trans-affirming practice specifically serving first-generation American and immigrant communities. In addition to being primarily a couples therapist, Sara is a sought-after speaker and facilitator on a variety of topics including queer and trans healthcare, family relationship dynamics, and the Afghan-American experience. She has a special place in her heart for fellow eldest daughters carrying intergenerational responsibilities, and helps them continue meaningful traditions while making room for themselves. She serves on the board of Asian Mental Health Collective and Mind-1-1. Sara is passionate and knowledgeable about leadership in marginalized communities, and believes in the importance of lived experience in the professional world. 
Faith-Ann is a Los Angeles–based, half-Japanese artist working across photography, textiles, and installation. Inspired by her Japanese heritage and family history, her work explores memory, belonging, and cultural connection through immersive and participatory experiences. She is the creator of Kibō Nobori (“hope flags”), a community art project inspired by traditional Japanese koinobori that has been presented in Little Tokyo for the past five years. In 2026, Young received a Certificate of Recognition from the City of Los Angeles for her contributions to Children’s Day celebrations and the preservation of Japanese cultural traditions in Los Angeles.
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Free Resources From Allison Ly:
Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://www.heyallisonly.com/cheatsheet 
Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/email 
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Episode Timeline:1:25 Why This Conversation Matters (Even If You're Not a Parent)3:35 Meet the Panelists10:25 Creating Space for Yourself 20:30 Unconditional Love, Re-Parenting, and Self-Worth26:45 Generational Patterns and Family Expectations40:10 What Do We Owe Our Parents, Children, and Ourselves?48:00 The Repay Cycle: When Caring Turns Into Self-Sacrifice55:20 What Healing and Self-Care Actually Look Like1:05:30 What We Keep and Leave Behind1:14:20 Honoring Yourself
Show notes and more: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/24
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Ep 23: Why Comparing Yourself to Your Parents Hurts

Stop Comparing Yourself to Your Parents while Still Honoring Them
Having immigrant parents, it can be hard to make sense of our experiences without feeling guilty about what our parents went through and comparing our experiences with theirs. 

In this episode, I share some of the questions from the Honor Your Motherhood panel held by Asian Mental Health Project that we didn't get to answer live. These questions are so important. 

Whether you're a parent or not, you can reflect on the stories you've inherited, the patterns you may still be carrying, and how to create more space for your own needs, feelings, and growth.

I talk about family history, self-care, and what it really means to honor your parents' experiences without losing yourself in the process.

Take a listen if you've ever wondered:- How do I have compassion for my parents without dismissing my own experience?
- Where is the line between honoring their sacrifices and carrying their pain?
- What can self-care actually look like in everyday life?
Mentioned in Podcast: 

Asian Mental Health Project Website: https://www.asianmentalhealthproject.com/ Instagram: @asianmentalhealthprojectAttend their next Honor Your Feelings Fest
Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/ 
UCLA Mindful App: https://www.uclahealth.org/ulcamindful/ucla-mindful-app _________
More from Allison Ly  | Free Resources:
Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://www.heyallisonly.com/cheatsheet 
Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://www.heyallisonly.com/resource
Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/email 
3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start 
Free Resource Library:https://www.heyallisonly.com/library 

Episode Timeline:2:49 How your parents' story shapes the way you parent8:50 Q1: Something she used to believe that was quietly hurting her11:01 How to hold two painful truths at the same time12:46 Q2: Where do you draw the line?15:43 The warning sign most people miss until it's too late18:36 The shame around talking about your family19:14 Q3: What does self-care actually look like?24:55 The one mindset shift worth trying
Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/23
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Ep 22: Why Feeling Your Feelings is Hard and What to Do About It
2 Quick Ways to Honor Your Feelings and Inner Child

Follow Asian Mental Health Project 
Website: https://www.asianmentalhealthproject.com/ 
Instagram: @asianmentalhealthproject

Attend their next Honor Your Feelings Fest
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/honor-your-feelings-fest-tickets-1984586818598#organizer-card

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Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: 
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It can be difficult to honor your feelings in general. 

And then on top of that, it’s extra difficult when you may not exactly know what you’re feeling. 

And honoring your feelings is so important. 

In this episode, I’m reflecting on my experience speaking at Honor Your Feelings Fest with Asian Mental Health Project and sharing why honoring your feelings can feel especially difficult as an adult with immigrant parents. 

I talk about why so many of us struggle to identify our emotions, and how constantly focusing on everyone else can disconnect us from ourselves.

I also share practical mindset shifts and reflections around emotional awareness, self-talk, motherhood, play, healing, and learning how to create space for yourself. 

Episode Timeline:
00:00 Why Honoring Our Feelings Matter
00:41 Honor Your Feelings Fest By Asian Mental Health Project
01:55 Meditation in the Noise
03:48 Fun Healing
05:17 Honor Your Feelings Fest Highlights 
06:30 Why Immigrant Kids Struggle
09:25 Ask Yourself This Three Times
13:13 Check in on This
15:40 Try This

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Ep 21:  The Word That's Holding You Back (and why) 
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3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start 
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What if the way you are using this word is quietly shaping how you feel in your relationships?
This is something that’s been coming up a lot lately and can have a much bigger impact than you might think. This may be especially true for adults with immigrant parents, where communication, guilt, and this feeling of being responsible for others’ and for so much for is already feeling so complicated. 
We don’t always realize what we are needing and wanting in the moment. 
But paying attention to this word can be so helpful to tapping into that more and also getting our needs met more.
Even if it’s happening after the fact.
Because when you begin to notice these things, and make these small shifts, 
you may also start to shift how you feel, how you show up, and what feels possible in your relationships.
Episode Timeline:00:00 The Word to Be Mindful Of02:27 Why This Word Matters03:49 This is Vague 05:49 Being More Direct 08:47 What if You Don’t Know10:35 Choices13:49 How Guilt Plays a Role15:15 Some Phrases to Use Instead
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Ep: 20 Take care of your inner child with these 5 reminders

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As adults with immigrant parents, you’re probably used to having so much responsibility, pressure, and thinking about what you should be doing instead of thinking about you.

I share 5 reminders that you may benefit from.

Because the truth is… for a lot of us as adults with immigrant parents, childhood wasn’t always simple.

There was responsibility.

Pressure.

Sometimes even roles we took on before we were ready.

If you’ve been feeling stuck in responsibility, guilt, or pressure… this is a conversation that might shift something for you.
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And if you haven’t already, subscribe to Empowered with Immigrant Parents for more tools, stories, and mindset shifts to help you care for your family without losing yourself.

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More From Allison Ly -  Free Resources:
Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet 
3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start 
Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource 
Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/email

Episode Timeline:0:00 - The one truth about growing up with immigrant parents no one talks about
0:31 - Why these 5 childhood lessons hit different as an adult
3:00 - Most adults have forget this
6:43 - The one feeling we all avoid
8:10 - How I see failure
10:57 - Why you're being too hard on yourself 
13:19 - The lost childhood skill that's holding you back



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Ep 19: The Immigrant Stories That Shape You (Even If No One Told Them)

Featured Guest:
Jamie Jo Hoang, Author
www.heyjamie.com
Instagram: @heyjamiereads

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What if you could get some closure, some healing from your parent’s past? Even if they don’t tell you? 

That’s what reading Jaime Jo Hoang’s books (My Mother the Mermaid Chaser and My Father the Panda Killer) did for me.

Author Jamie Jo Hoang joins me for a thoughtful conversation about identity, family, generational trauma, boundaries, and what it can look like to approach our parents and ourselves with more compassion. 

This conversation touches on the unspoken parts of growing up in an immigrant family, why some stories feel hard to face, and how we can start to create a different type of understanding and relationship. 

We talk about:
- Growing up with family histories that were never fully explained
- Why stories can become powerful conversation starters across generations
- The complexity of boundaries in immigrant families
- What it means to hold compassion without dismissing your own experience
- Identity, healing, sibling relationships, and generational patterns
- Jamie’s books My Father, the Panda Killer and My Mother, the Mermaid Chaser

About Jaime:
Jamie Jo Hoang is the daughter of Vietnamese refugees. She grew up in Orange County, CA—not the rich part. She is the author of MY MOTHER, THE MERMAID CHASER, MY FATHER, THE PANDA KILLER and BLUE SUN, YELLOW SKY. Her work has also appeared in TIME, SALON and TinyBuddha.

More From Allison Ly -  Free Resources:

Stop Spiraling in Guilt Cheatsheet For Setting Boundaries: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/cheatsheet 

3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start 

Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource 

Get my weekly emails for actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents: https://heyallisonly.com/email

Episode Timeline:
0:28 – Meet Jaime Jo Hoang, Author
1:00 - Writing About Immigrant Family Trauma
4:30 - What Her Parents Did When They Found Out She Wrote a Book
14:50 - How to Set Boundaries With Immigrant Parents Without Guilt
18:50 - Breaking Generational Trauma: Every Generation Has Its Task
25:36 - A Question About Immigrant Guilt
40:33 - Unspoken Topics Around War
44:26 - Why Self-Compassion Is Harder
48:15 - Which Book to Read First: Mermaid Chaser vs Panda Killer

Podcast Episode Mentioned:
InfatuAsian Podcast 
Ep 194 Author Jamie Jo Hoang on Writing the Stories Our Vietnamese Parents Never Tell 
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6FiSUH5IdtxTIagcm44HCE?si=b6b3df3479b246a6

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