What We Call Love

They say, “When you know, you know”. But that doesn’t make the journey towards love and companionship any easier - especially when there are different parents and offspring involved. This episode explores the nuanced experience of being a step-parent, the complexities of raising a biracial family in New Zealand, and why there’s no such thing as “the right time” when it comes to love.

As the saying goes, there is a lid for every pot. But what happens when you lose your lid and find yourself, either voluntarily or unceremoniously, back in the dating pool? This episode is about divorce, our assumptions around marriage, the power of faith, solo-parenting, and how we can relearn optimism when it’s time to start dating again.

With invaluable insights from human rights activist, co-chair of OUTline and Human Rights Researcher at the Intersex Trust of Aotearoa New Zealand, Aych McArdle, this episode explores the progress New Zealand has made in moving beyond binary definitions of gender and sexuality, while also addressing some of the challenges still faced by Aotearoa’s rainbow community.

Resources:

OUTline

- https://outline.org.nz/

InsideOUT

- http://insideout.org.nz/

Rainbow YOUTH

- https://ry.org.nz/

Why does female pleasure always feel like an after-thought? A frank conversation with an award-winning sexologist about sexual wellness, the miseducation around how men and women achieve pleasure, whether there is such a thing as “good porn”, the stigma that still surrounds female masturbation, and what Otten wants women to know about their right to pleasurable experiences.

Resources:

https://chantelleotten.com

https://www.instagram.com/chantelle_otten_sexologist/

Womanizer Vibrator https://www.womanizer.com/gl/

The fractious relationship we have with our appearance is one of those universal experiences that transcends race, gender and religion, and our insecurities usually bubble to the surface in the realms of dating and intimacy. For the 1 in 4 Kiwis living with a disability, this is only further complicated by the misconceptions held by those who are able-bodied.

Resources:

All Is For All,

- https://allisforall.com

Attitude Pictures,

- https://www.attitudepictures.com

- https://instagram.com/attitudepictures?igshid=1pldwrbsl3k1i

Juniper Unlimited,

- https://instagram.com/juniperunlimited?igshid=173zbi9fz4gp3

The fractious relationship we have with our appearance is one of those universal experiences that transcends race, gender and religion, and our insecurities usually bubble to the surface in the realms of dating and intimacy. For the 1 in 4 Kiwis living with a disability, this is only further complicated by the misconceptions held by those who are able-bodied.

Resources:

All Is For All,

- https://allisforall.com

Attitude Pictures,

- https://www.attitudepictures.com

- https://instagram.com/attitudepictures?igshid=1pldwrbsl3k1i

Juniper Unlimited,

- https://instagram.com/juniperunlimited?igshid=173zbi9fz4gp3

In 2018, The Atlantic published a body of research showing an alarming decline in sex and physical intimacy among millennials in almost all Western countries. Why is our generation finding it increasingly hard to get turned on? What impact has the rise in digital porn, birth control and burnout had on our libido? And how can we reclaim and reconnect with our sensuality?

- Stacey O'Gorman, Women's Wellbeing Coach https://www.staceyogorman.com

- Juliet Allen, Sexologist and Tantra Practitioner, https://www.juliet-allen.com

- Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer https://www.amazon.com/Pussy-Reclamation-Regena-Thomashauer/dp/1401950248

- Woman Code by Alisa Vitti https://www.amazon.com/WomanCode-Perfect-Amplify-Fertility-Supercharge/dp/006213079X

- https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/

From Bumble and The Twenties Club, What We Call Love is a podcast series exploring love, dating and relationships across New Zealand.