If you've been diagnosed with ADHD, and your partner wants to know how to better support you - this episode is for you. If ADHD is creating tension, misunderstandings, or repeated arguments in your relationship - this episode is also for you.
In this solo episode, Clinical Psychologist Michaela Thomas shares what she would want a partner to understand if they were sitting together in the therapy room. This episode isn’t about excuses or blame. It’s about understanding how ADHD affects nervous systems, emotions, communication, and relationships — and what actually helps, rather than makes things worse.
In this episode, we explore:
Why ADHD is not an excuse, but is an explanationWhy “trying harder” often leads to more shame and burnout, not changeWhat happens when someone with ADHD is stuck in rumination or emotional collapseWhy logic and reassurance don’t land when the nervous system is dysregulatedRejection sensitivity (RSD) and how tone, silence, and facial expressions can be misreadHow past relational wounds can be triggered in the presentThe common “parent–child” dynamic that can develop in ADHD relationshipsHow to support your partner without taking over or eroding their agencyA free resource for couples
If this episode resonated, Michaela has created a free guide called Balance Your Relationship.
It’s designed to help couples step out of blame and back into understanding — with compassion for both partners.
Download the free guide here:
http://thethomasconnection.co.uk/relationshipbalance/