You know that feeling when a decision won’t leave you alone? It follows you through the school run, sits beside you while you’re chopping vegetables, hums quietly while you’re trying to be present. In this Parent Pause, I talk about what it’s like to parent when a big decision is living in your body, even if it’s not yet urgent. About how, as parents, we rarely get the luxury of stopping life to decide, and how that can quietly pull us away from our children without us even noticing. I share a moment when one of my children named that I was “here but not really here”, and how taught me something important. This is a reflection on why big decisions need space, why trying to solve them during family time often costs us more than we realise, and how learning to park them deliberately can help us be more present, not less. If you’re carrying a decision that’s quietly taking up bandwidth, this pause is for you.

Thank you for pausing with me. Take care.

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