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In this episode of the Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood podcast, host Vallen Webb delves into the often-overlooked grief experienced by fathers, particularly in the context of pregnancy and infant loss. She introduces the concept of the 'protector's paradox,' where fathers feel guilt and shame for not being able to protect their children, despite the fact that these feelings are often unfounded. The conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing and validating men's grief, providing them with the necessary support, and creating safe spaces for emotional expression. Through personal anecdotes and research, Vallen highlights the need for society to better understand and support grieving fathers, allowing them to heal and process their emotions in a healthy way.

Takeaways

• Dads often feel a heavy burden of guilt after loss.
• Men's grief is frequently overlooked and unsupported.
• The protector's paradox describes the guilt fathers feel.
• Role-based guilt can lead to emotional shutdown in dads.
• Grieving fathers need validation and permission to grieve.
• Support groups are crucial for grieving dads.
• Men process grief differently than women.
• Creating legacy projects can help in healing.
• Physical outlets are important for grieving men.
• Grief is not a competition; it's about mutual understanding.

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