A Solo Person's Guide to ADHD

When Everything Feels Wrong (But You Can’t Explain Why)


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Have you ever had a moment where everything feels wrong—but you can’t actually explain why?

Nothing specific is broken.
Nothing obvious is on fire.
But you feel overwhelmed, stuck, or quietly panicked—and when you try to name the problem, your mind just goes blank.

If you have ADHD, this experience is common.
And if you’re single on top of that, it can feel even worse—because there’s no second brain around to help you sort things out.

In this episode, Christine Dunning introduces Access, the first phase of The ASSAP Framework. Access is not about action, motivation, or fixing your life. It’s about learning how to enter a problem safely so you can understand what’s actually going on—before overwhelm takes over.

What This Episode Is (and Is Not)

This is not:

  • a reset
  • a productivity system
  • a “try harder” plan
  • a self-optimization project

This is:

  • orientation
  • perspective
  • learning how to notice problems earlier
  • reducing shame by understanding what’s structural—not personal

Life has problems. That part is not optional.
Access is about identifying them faster, with less panic, and more clarity.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why confusion does not mean something is wrong with you
  • How ADHD overwhelm collapses perspective and creates paralysis
  • Why symptoms (procrastination, messiness, brain fog) aren’t the cause
  • How being single removes the “second brain” most systems assume exists
  • What Access really means—and why it comes before action
  • How to start noticing problems without trying to solve them

The Three Access Questions

You’ll be introduced to three simple orientation questions—not to answer yet, but to notice:

  • What keeps breaking?
  • What feels heavier than it should?
  • What do you keep rebuilding from scratch?

No fixing. No productivity. Just access.

What’s Next

In the next episode, we’ll move into Security—how to make this kind of thinking feel safe enough that you don’t shut down, burn out, or abandon it entirely.

Because pushing harder isn’t the answer.
Learning how to approach problems differently is.

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A Solo Person's Guide to ADHDBy Christine