When Fate Ties You Into A Knot - What Do You Do?

Think of self esteem like a house, if you build a stunning house on a poor foundation, the entire structure will crumble.  However, if you take steps to ensure the foundation is strong and capable of holding anything, the process may be slow, but your self esteem will be built soundly. Many individuals look for help for their low self esteem in books or seminars. Self esteem is your own personal view of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally.  

Everyone has a different view of themselves, but keeping a positive outlook will benefit you more than a negative one.  Many individuals suffer from low self esteem for a variety of reasons and need to build their self esteem in order to succeed in life.  Remember, the only one who can make you excel is you and no one else.  The same goes for self esteem.  The only person who can build up—or consequentially tear down—your self esteem is you.  

People have low esteem for a variety of reasons.  Some individuals suffer from poor body image and focus on all the negative traits of their physical appearance.  Although other individuals may aide the process, the end decision is yours. Others have emotional issues that have caused their self esteem to drop or feel themselves unworthy of any praise.  For whatever reasons your self esteem may falter, the key to building it up again is to find the root of the problem.  

Gallo records reports that IBOKWE, Thandiswa Mazwai’s second album, has passed the 20 000 sales mark, attaining Gold status for South Africa. Courtesy http://www.music.org.za/News.asp 

I would feel envious and jealous to the success of Thandiswa Mazwai for this record-breaking achievement, If you were in my shoes you would probably feel the same way too. The fact of the matter is that she might be struggling to pay certain bill or for her townhouse or maybe keeping up with her overdraft who knows. I can be totally wrong and forgiven for thinking this way. 

Newspaper headlines read “Musicians and singers, who are living in KwaZulu-Natal, will no longer have to travel to Johannesburg to record their music, thanks to the opening of a R15 million recording studio in the province”. The multi-million rand facility, called KwaZulu-Natal (KZN) Music House, with top-of-the-range facilities, was opened by provincial MEC for Finance Ina Cronje, on Friday. The studio material at the KZN Music House in Greyville, Durban, competes with M1 studios in Auckland Park, Jozi. 

As if, these musicians will conquer the world and the world charts from this day onward to live life of bling-bling to the fullest. A warning alarm I resonated almost 28 years ago with resentment and discomfort to sign any record deal where details are blurred and unclear and copyright ownership is not recognized. My musician colleagues and friends, who wanted the glamor and glory of instant fame and stardom, signed without blinking and failed to heed my warning call. 

I was right and they were wrong this time and disappointed because my vision was too optimistic and far-fetched to comprehend. They signed their lives over to a record deal company that they later on regretted. 30 year later, I am still in the business of making music and trying to lay a foundation of my own independent international label a road I would encourage every aspiring SA musician to patiently embark on if they’re serious with a long lasting career in music. 

Nine (9) out of 10 so called current South African legends and music super star face a bleak future ahead of their retirement, than we can afford to give them credit for their fame and super star status. Why? two reasons come to my mind. The local South African culture and music consumer does not respect the law and the use of local musician’s intellectual property nor do they comprehend the value of musical talent, creative input let alone the financial investment that goes into producing a successful artist or record.

Simply put, it is because the South African copyright law has too many flaws to protect these musicians into a successful retirement of their careers in music. SAMRO is supposedly the big deal for most local artist, as if it is the be all and end all of the road to riches in music, thus complacency has set precedence with musicians over issues dealing with copyright laws besides royalty payments or piracy of their music by local consumers and organized crime.

It's amazing how our upbring and the company we keep when we grow affects our perception and attitude towards life. More scary, is the thought of how one loses their self-confidence and their ability to be strong to explore the adventures of life's exciting playground of "feeling-good" and great to conquer the world. We get bombarded with so much negative programming from early childhood and by the time we move up the stage of juvenile to adulthood, - it becomes very difficult to change.

Most of this negative programming emerges from family, when told things like "don't play with your food - you'll go to hell". "Don't break the mirror you'll have 7 years of bad luck. Friend also play a part in influencing our thinking and the way we should act and respond to situations when growing up. We get influenced by peer pressure to start smoking and drinking as youth, because we want to blend in and be part of a group to belong to in order to fit in.

The schooling system adds, yet another layer of information more to this insult of "what things you can and can't do" and so forth. TV and newspapers that we read go a long way into making us what we become when we are grown-ups. Until one cannot figure out  how it happened when we are burdened by life's obstacles. It's almost too late when life and its challenge over powers us and one can't breathe that we try to shout for Help to get out of a rut. 

This Podcast is part.1 of season 3 which explores some of the possibilities and ways anyone can "reprogramme" themselves from all kinds of negative indoctrination which created our "Poor Self-Esteem" in the first place.

Communication is the foundation of problem solving. With technology we can do things faster and efficient. I need more people to come forward and contribute to this new force of life i.e. "follow" me and add their voices to our economic struggle. To inject a new sense of direction, it is pointless for us to watch and see things deteriorate and we do nothing about it. I do not expect you to like want I say nor appreciate what I'm trying to do. I have very limited resources, but utilize my own creative ways to learn to communicate my ideas. Excuses do not make a man - only commitment changes our perspective and thoughts about life.

My point is if we keep complaining about the Government - we are not helping them find alternatives or offer solution to make them realize our challenges. By doing something about it you might be a solution everyone is looking for. So do something positive to help change our circumferences. Be proactive instead of become reactive and condemn them without offering other means to solve problems our society is faced with today.

In the era of Apartheid we stood up and belonged to some community or political organization in one form or another and our contribution in the struggle to fight for our freedom was not the ANC's personal battle as a stand-alone political organization. There were both inside and outside forces who contributed to our freedom. Individuals like me were instrumental and hands-on to serve time and purpose to this effect and went to jail in solitary confinement. It was this commitment and act of passion for what we believed in to get involved in the struggle against Apartheid and its injustices that made us all free today. Read this article here there are brothers who are not being recognized for their contribution to the struggle yet they made a big difference to this country.

Poets! Artists and Musician like Lefifi Tladi etc. HERE:

Why should it be different today? Together we can change people's mind by allowing them to create things using their minds to express a thought rather than perpetuate chaos through looting, xenophobia or burning tires and killing foreigners - There is more we can do with our creative talents in art, music, poetry, rap, writing and publishing articles which can later on be part of our future education system. We need to be leaders and carve a path for change and prosperity for all. Keep listening and please share on Facebook, Twitter and WhatsApp.

Solution No.46 is a small talk of the millennium. Join me share with you other alternative ways to help you to grow and to reach your full potential. South Africa is not the same anymore and our people have lost faith and confidence in the ANC government. We need a new breed of leadership and community initiatives to inspire a new revolution of free thinkers to liberate our people from “group mentality and control". Individuals who can write, sing, rap and recite poetry of discontent to voice their opinion and point of view using alternative media platforms.

Current radio stations and talk shows both private and the public broadcasters do not have enough space to accommodate everyone. Therefore, we need to stand up and represent our own ideals, be it in education, job creation, churches or religious groups or entrepreneurship we need to stand up and take responsibility for the future we want to see happen. 

The time is not tomorrow, but now. Use your talent to make the country a better place for those who live in it. If God should want to bless South Africa and all people who live in it – It should be for the right reasons and not selfish motives of corrupt government officials who have destroyed our hopes and dreams.

Solution No.46 small radio talk for the millennium. Join me share with you other alternative ways we can help you to grow and reach your full potential. South Africa is not the same anymore and our people have lost hope and confidence in our government. We need a new breed of leadership and community initiatives to inspire a new revolution of free thinkers to liberate our people from “group mentality and control". Individuals who can write, sing, rap and recite poetry of discontent to voice their opinion and point of view using alternative media platforms.

Current radio stations and talk shows both private and the public broadcasters do not have enough space to accommodate everyone. Therefore, we need to stand up and represent our own ideals, be it in education, technology, job creation, churches or religious groups. We need entrepreneurs to stand up and take responsibility for the future they want to see happen. The time is not tomorrow, but now. We must use our talents and channel our energies to make the country a better place for those who live in it. If God should bless South Africa and all people who live in it -it should for the right reason and not selfish motives perpetrated by people in government and corrupt officials.

That's why we have these Podcast to find hope and encouragement. I need more people to come forward and contribute to this new force of life. To inject a new sense of direction, it is pointless for us to watch and see things deteriorate and we do nothing about it. I do not expect you to like want I say nor appreciate what I'm trying to do. I have very limited resources, but utilize my own creative ways to learn to communicate my ideas. Excuses do not make a man - only commitment changes our perspective and thoughts about life.

My point is if we keep complaining about the Government - we are not helping them find alternatives or offer solution to make them realize our challenges. By doing something about it you might be a solution everyone is looking for. So do something positive to help change our circumferences. Be proactive instead of become reactive and condemn them without offering other means to solve problems our society is faced with today.

In the era of Apartheid we stood up and belonged to some community or political organization in one form or another and our contribution in the struggle to fight for our freedom was not the ANC's personal battle as a stand-alone political organization. There were both inside and outside forces who contributed to our freedom. Individuals like me were instrumental and hands-on to serve time and purpose to this effect and went to jail in solitary confinement. It was this commitment and act of passion for what we believed in to get involved in the struggle against Apartheid and its injustices that made us all free today. Read this article here there are brothers who are not being recognized for their contribution to the struggle yet they made a big difference to this country.

Small radio talk for the millennium join me share with you other alternative ways we can help you to grow and reach their full potential. South Africa is not the same anymore and our people have lost hope and confidence in our government. 

Current radio stations and talk shows both private and the public broadcasters do not have enough space to accommodate everyone. Therefore, we need to stand up and represent our own ideals, be it in education, job creation, churches or religious groups or entrepreneurship we need to stand up and take responsibility for the future we want to see happen. The time is not tomorrow, but now. Use your talent to make the country a better place for those who live in it. If God should want to bless South Africa and all people who live in it – It should be for the right reasons and not selfish motives of corrupt government officials who have destroyed our hopes and dreams.

Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” This is not a good sign of confidence and it means your “self-awareness” is question itself. More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us.- when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us we just don’t know it.

Isn't it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self-improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.

For as long as you don’t feel good about yourself you will display a poor vision about your capabilities and talents. Your work will not look good to your associates. Your outlook in life and and performance will be compromised; and the end results will very poor in quality and unimpressive. Yet! When you give your all, you display confidence and everything you do will gradually become good if not exceptional.

Life is a canvas where individuals can draw the landscape of their dreams and visions to a beautiful Kaleidoscope of their own grand designs. You have to “BE” alive to remain in control of your destiny. Rain or Shine! This is the order of creation and how it was meant to operate. Love it and you can dance with the wolves to prove you’re human – then you become adventurous to explore life’s limitless possibilities. 

Hate it and you will die and dissolve slowly like ice melting from the heat of the Sun, to stifle and destroy your potential to go beyond your true capabilities. 

Live your life around the laws of Nature or oppose it and you deny yourself simple blessings to see dilemma as an opportunity.

You are the captain who has the power to steer your ship in the direction you choose to go. You can bring love and life “together” into your fold if you so wish or you can climb a mountain and dance your way to happiness to conquer your fears.

However, Ways You Look At Your Daily Challenges And Situations In Life.

There Is Always A Solution.