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To learn more about Jackie and Catherine’s therapy and coaching services, and the work they do with individuals and couples, be sure to check out their website.
https://www.candgtherapy.com/
https://www.catherineroebuck.com/
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Most people know how to brace for bad news. But there's something quietly harder about sharing — or receiving — good news. If you've ever found yourself announcing something wonderful with a kind of apology in your voice, or you've noticed yourself go flat when someone you love tells you something great happened for them, this episode is about that.
This episode covers:
- Why sharing good news can feel shameful or exposing — and where that instinct comes from
- The connection between how you relate to your own achievements and your capacity to genuinely celebrate others
- What Brené Brown calls "foreboding joy" — the automatic pull away from positive intensity — and how it breaks contact with yourself and with the people you're close to
- How anxiety about other people's reactions can cause you to downplay your own life, and how to interrupt that
- What to do with jealousy when it comes up — including how to let it point you toward something useful rather than taking it somewhere destructive
This is the kind of conversation Jackie and Catherine have with clients all the time — the smaller, more specific places where closeness breaks down. If you're curious about what it might look like to work on this, both of them offer free 15-minute consultations and would be glad to talk.
Free consultation: [link]
Substack: [link]
Podcast: [link]
01:27 – Why this is harder than it sounds
02:44 – The vulnerability of letting someone in on joy
04:19 – Pregnancy, good news, and emotionally charged topics
05:10 – Learning to manage others' reactions instead of feeling your own
06:00 – What "foreboding joy" actually is
07:10 – The Mel Robbins quote and what it points to
08:09 – How to share without anticipating punishment
09:42 – Differentiation: holding your own experience even when it's positive
11:11 – The other side: struggling to celebrate your partner
12:31 – Building capacity in small steps
15:24 – Brené Brown on joy as the most vulnerable emotion
17:08 – What to say to someone who hides good news out of guilt
18:22 – Jealousy as information, not a verdict
20:51 – Using envy to move toward what you actually want
22:13 – Closing thoughts
Music: Echoes by Roa https://soundcloud.com/roa_music1031
License: Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0
Free Download / Stream: https://audiolibrary.com.co/roa-music/echoes
Music promoted by Audio Library: https://youtu.be/HCXJxHIkH8w
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By Jackie Aston and Catherine RoebuckTo learn more about Jackie and Catherine’s therapy and coaching services, and the work they do with individuals and couples, be sure to check out their website.
https://www.candgtherapy.com/
https://www.catherineroebuck.com/
Description
https://www.candgtherapy.com/
https://www.catherineroebuck.com/
Description
Most people know how to brace for bad news. But there's something quietly harder about sharing — or receiving — good news. If you've ever found yourself announcing something wonderful with a kind of apology in your voice, or you've noticed yourself go flat when someone you love tells you something great happened for them, this episode is about that.
This episode covers:
- Why sharing good news can feel shameful or exposing — and where that instinct comes from
- The connection between how you relate to your own achievements and your capacity to genuinely celebrate others
- What Brené Brown calls "foreboding joy" — the automatic pull away from positive intensity — and how it breaks contact with yourself and with the people you're close to
- How anxiety about other people's reactions can cause you to downplay your own life, and how to interrupt that
- What to do with jealousy when it comes up — including how to let it point you toward something useful rather than taking it somewhere destructive
This is the kind of conversation Jackie and Catherine have with clients all the time — the smaller, more specific places where closeness breaks down. If you're curious about what it might look like to work on this, both of them offer free 15-minute consultations and would be glad to talk.
Free consultation: [link]
Substack: [link]
Podcast: [link]
01:27 – Why this is harder than it sounds
02:44 – The vulnerability of letting someone in on joy
04:19 – Pregnancy, good news, and emotionally charged topics
05:10 – Learning to manage others' reactions instead of feeling your own
06:00 – What "foreboding joy" actually is
07:10 – The Mel Robbins quote and what it points to
08:09 – How to share without anticipating punishment
09:42 – Differentiation: holding your own experience even when it's positive
11:11 – The other side: struggling to celebrate your partner
12:31 – Building capacity in small steps
15:24 – Brené Brown on joy as the most vulnerable emotion
17:08 – What to say to someone who hides good news out of guilt
18:22 – Jealousy as information, not a verdict
20:51 – Using envy to move toward what you actually want
22:13 – Closing thoughts
Music: Echoes by Roa https://soundcloud.com/roa_music1031
License: Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0
Free Download / Stream: https://audiolibrary.com.co/roa-music/echoes
Music promoted by Audio Library: https://youtu.be/HCXJxHIkH8w