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Ever wonder if "coming clean" about your past might actually do more harm than good? This provocative episode of Recovery Unfiltered tackles one of recovery's most challenging dilemmas: when making amends becomes a selfish act rather than a healing one.

Larry and Rob dive deep into the concept of spiritual fitness and what happens when it's lacking. Through candid conversation and powerful examples, they demonstrate how relapses aren't triggered by external factors but by spiritual deficiencies. "If you feel like drinking around alcohol, there's something wrong with your spiritual status," Rob asserts, challenging listeners to look inward rather than blaming circumstances.

The heart of the episode examines a painful real-life scenario where guilt-driven confession destroyed a marriage unnecessarily. Rob shares how a sponsee, against guidance, confessed an affair to his wife simply to relieve his own conscience – only for her to later say she wished she never knew. The hosts unpack the Big Book's repeated warning that we "have no right to save our own skin at another person's expense," prompting listeners to consider the true motivations behind their amends process.

This conversation isn't just theoretical – it's intensely practical for anyone in recovery. The hosts extract wisdom from pages throughout the Big Book, showing how Bill W. methodically guides readers through proper amends making. They demonstrate how making decisions from guilt, fear, or shame rather than spiritual principles inevitably leads to more harm.

Whether you're new to recovery or have decades of sobriety, this episode offers invaluable insights into maintaining spiritual fitness, understanding your true purpose in recovery, and approaching the amends process with wisdom rather than desperation. As Larry and Rob remind us, on the "firing line of life," having the right motives is what keeps us unharmed.

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