Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change

When Helping Hurts: The Hidden Cost of Always Being the Fixer


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Do you feel like you're always rescuing your co-parent and/or child? Are you the person who can be counted on for fixing things and saving the day? If so, this episode is for you! Michael Flores, LPC-S and Armando Martinez, LPC discuss what to do if you feel like you're always rescuing someone and how that impacts you and others.
In this episode, we discuss:
(3:00) Listener Question - What do you do when it feels like your ex is trying to control everything?
(6:45) Steps to take when it feels like your ex is trying to control
(8:30) We review the rescuing side of the drama triangle (from Episode 11).
(15:30) What you should learn to do when you feel like you're always rescuing your co-parent and how comparisons and "fair" can get in the way.
(21:00) The important things to focus on - what you can control and your child(ren)
(26:45) Why always rescuing your child can be harmful for their growth and natural relationship with their other parent
(30:10) Why it's important to have a supportive attitude in front of your child.
(33:00) Releasing control and letting your co-parent choose their own relationship with your child
(34:45) Recap of this episode's takeaways
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Beyond Divorce: Embracing ChangeBy Brighter Possibilities Family Counseling