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When His Health Isn’t Just His Problem
When he refuses to deal with his own health, it isn't just his problem. It lands on you too, and you already carry enough.
Maybe you're the one tracking his appointments, noticing whether he's taking his meds, wondering if you have to manage his health on top of everything else. There's a difference between a man taking care of himself and a man numbing himself, and you can see it from the outside.
Jay shares the story of a car his mom couldn't afford to fix, and the rule that shaped how he lived for years: if something rattles, turn up the radio. What that cost his health, his marriage, and Lori.
Real health isn't about the gym. It's whether he sees a doctor, takes his medication, and stops assuming everything's fine. A rule that protects you: you can care about his health without becoming his nurse, and definitely not his mother.
We also cover mental health, why men are more isolated and more at risk, and why talking to someone is not weakness.
If you or someone you love is in crisis, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US).
This is the last Foundation Stone. Next: the storms themselves.
If he's ready, send him to StormReadyMen.com to take the assessment. Explore the C.U.R.E. Method at TheCoupleCure.com.
Timestamps
0:00 His health becomes your load
0:44 There's a difference: taking care vs numbing
0:51 The radio story
2:05 What real health looks like
2:54 It's not your job to manage him
3:31 Mental health counts too
3:49 988 Crisis Lifeline
4:13 Stop treating his refusal as normal
5:17 Last foundation stone
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Next Steps & Resources:
• Explore the C.U.R.E. Method: https://thecouplecure.com
• Join Storm Ready Men: https://stormreadymen.com
• The Basics of Rebuilding Trust: https://jayandloripyatt.gumroad.com/l/LzMJm
• New to the Channel? Start with our 5 seasons of foundational content here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLitabWxO9iDI1-ByymvBpwaiTB0sozSjL
We want to hear from you—how can we best support you in this new season? Let us know in the comments.
To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/28EfZh4vJ4yQbbwg6i57W02
-- Who is This Channel For? If your marriage has been impacted by addiction — whether you're the one struggling or the one carrying the pain — this channel is for you. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's compulsive pornography use. We found a way through it. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we help couples find the peace, trust, and connection they're looking for.
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By Jay & Lori Pyatt
4.8
1212 ratings
When he refuses to deal with his own health, it isn't just his problem. It lands on you too, and you already carry enough.
Maybe you're the one tracking his appointments, noticing whether he's taking his meds, wondering if you have to manage his health on top of everything else. There's a difference between a man taking care of himself and a man numbing himself, and you can see it from the outside.
Jay shares the story of a car his mom couldn't afford to fix, and the rule that shaped how he lived for years: if something rattles, turn up the radio. What that cost his health, his marriage, and Lori.
Real health isn't about the gym. It's whether he sees a doctor, takes his medication, and stops assuming everything's fine. A rule that protects you: you can care about his health without becoming his nurse, and definitely not his mother.
We also cover mental health, why men are more isolated and more at risk, and why talking to someone is not weakness.
If you or someone you love is in crisis, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US).
This is the last Foundation Stone. Next: the storms themselves.
If he's ready, send him to StormReadyMen.com to take the assessment. Explore the C.U.R.E. Method at TheCoupleCure.com.
Timestamps
0:00 His health becomes your load
0:44 There's a difference: taking care vs numbing
0:51 The radio story
2:05 What real health looks like
2:54 It's not your job to manage him
3:31 Mental health counts too
3:49 988 Crisis Lifeline
4:13 Stop treating his refusal as normal
5:17 Last foundation stone
---
Next Steps & Resources:
• Explore the C.U.R.E. Method: https://thecouplecure.com
• Join Storm Ready Men: https://stormreadymen.com
• The Basics of Rebuilding Trust: https://jayandloripyatt.gumroad.com/l/LzMJm
• New to the Channel? Start with our 5 seasons of foundational content here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLitabWxO9iDI1-ByymvBpwaiTB0sozSjL
We want to hear from you—how can we best support you in this new season? Let us know in the comments.
To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/28EfZh4vJ4yQbbwg6i57W02
-- Who is This Channel For? If your marriage has been impacted by addiction — whether you're the one struggling or the one carrying the pain — this channel is for you. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's compulsive pornography use. We found a way through it. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we help couples find the peace, trust, and connection they're looking for.