In this episode, Dr. Beth tackles a topic she’s deeply passionate about—but has taken time to approach thoughtfully: conflict avoidance and peacemaking. While peacemakers often value kindness, harmony, and sensitivity, avoiding hard conversations can quietly erode relationships over time.

Using real client stories, personal insight, and research from experts like Drs. John and Julie Gottman, Beth explores why holding things in often leads to resentment, emotional shutdown, or explosive anger—and how “being nice” can actually be a disservice to both yourself and the people you love.

This episode covers:

What it really means to be a peacemaker or conflict avoider

How internalizing/“ under-reacting” can lead to  overreacting/exploding 

Why honesty is often more loving than keeping the peace

How avoiding conflict impacts respect, intimacy, and connection

Practical ways to speak up without being aggressive

Why clarity, boundaries, and assertiveness strengthen relationships

If you tend to put your needs last, fear uncomfortable conversations, or pride yourself on being “easygoing,” this episode is a compassionate but challenging invitation to find your voice, advocate for yourself, and build healthier, more honest relationships.

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