In today’s episode, as crappy as it is - we talk about when the abuse gets worse during divorce. It’s not a fun topic, but we would be doing you a disservice if we didn’t talk about it. We bring in Katharine Rupp, a family law attorney based in California, who shares insights on the legal process of divorce, the significance of being organized and prepared for legal battles, and the usefulness of tools like Our Family Wizard app (hollaaa!) in co-parenting and divorce documentation.  Expect to hear strategies for dealing with emotional abuse and conflict, learn the importance of communication and documentation in divorce proceedings, and get practical advice for navigating the divorce process more effectively - as per usual!   Main Takeaways: *Importance of Our Family Wizard - (OFW) is a valuable tool for organizing divorce-related information in one platform *Responding to Attacks (so hard- but DON'T attack back) *Avoid Escalation and Emotional Response (again, so hard) *Documenting and Communicating *Seek Support and Guidance If you want some more information on how to respond to your POS ex, (hee hee) head here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck   Ask your attorney if Our Family Wizard would be right for your case. In our opinion, it can only help give you the boundaries you deserve.    Join our private community for more support. http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity  

103. When the Abuse Gets Worse During the Divorce

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Alright, here's one of Andrea's least favorite topics...but probably the most important: the parenting agreement. Below are the show notes for a special re air episode, all about the parenitng agreement.    Remember, our Divorce Crash Course holds your hand through ALL of the important decisions you make during your divorce process. Grab you DCC, right here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course for only $97, you can save up to THOUSANDS and avoid making MAJOR mistakes. The cost of our crash course includes 5 short videos, which are wildly informative and entertaining (if we do say so ourselves) AND includes a printable guidebook, that has mental health break exercises built in! ***********   We're getting into some real, REAL stuff in this episode. This is one of the biggest concerns our listeners have so we wanted to dedicate an entire episode to how to put your kids first in your parenting agreement. Today, we have therapist Dr. Malissa Tigges with us to talk about how to create a parenting agreement that prioritizes the welfare of your kids. Dr. Tigges is a licensed clinical and forensics psychologist with over 10 years of experience working as a psychotherapist and an evaluator. She helps people make the best decisions possible when developing their parenting agreements.   Dr. Tigges, Morgan and Andrea answer: What do divorcing couples need to understand when putting together their parenting agreement? How to design the parenting agreement so it's appropriate at each age of the children. The biggest mistake divorcing couples make when creating their parenting agreement. What is the main difference of a parenting plan that involves a younger child vs. a teenager? Can you modify a parenting agreement? Who should you consult with to ensure your parenting agreement is the best for your child? Should you open the parenting agreement email after having a few drinks? What is co-parenting therapy and is it necessary? What do you do when your rights are being violated during the divorce process when you're drafting the parenting agreement?   What's the best schedule for co-parenting? 50/50? Week on, week off? Every other weekend? The answer may upset you, but it's important to understand.   Is there wiggle room in a parenting agreement if there's a special trip or long weekend planned?   Dr. Tigges also shares her absolute "must-dos".   Here is where you can connect with Dr. Tigges: @drmalissatigges on instagram, tiktok and facebook   Dr. Tigges is licensed in Florida but if you're not in Florida, your state may allow you to do telehealth with Dr. Tigges so if you need guidance, reach out!   Also- Our Family Wizard is here to help make your coparenting journey a whole lot easier. To learn more about them and to get access to an article that we cowrote, visit them at: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

110: The Parenting Agreement (Biggest Divorce Mistakes) With Dr Malissa Tigges - special re air

Today’s episode is about something we get asked about A LOT - recording your ex. The truth of the matter is there are some major things you MUST think about before hitting that record button, and yes, EVEN if your attorney suggests it. However, there is a time & a place for capturing what you need to help your divorce proceeding.  We answer:      What legally admissible means and how it applies to you     When we would recommend you recording your ex   What does it mean in your state? Is it legal? And what does it mean?   When would it be appropriate to record and when would it not be?   And, why we LOVE Ring doorbells (not sponsored...yet..hit us up, Ring!) This episode is not only insightful but a resource for you that you may need at some point & we want to equip you with the information you need. And remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your coparenting journey. To learn more about Our Family Wizard, please go check them out, you'll also get access to a special (and funny) article we co wrote with them!! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Do you have the Divorce Crash Course??? It's going to help you- BIG TIME. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course   You've got this, friends, and we've got you!

109. Can You Record Your Ex?? (Divorce Questions)

Friend, let’s be real, we know that you're tired of pretending that everything is okay. We know that your gut is telling you that your marriage is not going to work. So, now what??? If you have EVER wondered: "What do I do if I think I want a divorce?" - this episode is for you.  If you're considering divorce but don't know where to begin, this episode is for you.  If you're just miserable in your marriage, but feel stuck, this episode is for you.  Don't forget: The DCC is here to help you save up to THOUSANDS on your divorce AND help you avoid making MAJOR mistakes. Get The Divorce Crash Course HERE! Join our private community: Here! And remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help you make coparenting easier. Believe us, you want to check them out: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck This podcast was designed to give you information, entertainment and empathy as you embark on the divorce process.  We know that divorce is hard. We know that it's a long and draining process. We also know that life is so much better on the other side.  Don't give up. Everyone deserves to be happy.  You've got this and we've got you.    

108. If You're Suffocating in Your Marriage and Think You Want a Divorce

With divorce, there are things that you might feel you have zero control over, right?  Maybe you’ve thought before, “My attorney's not fighting me.”  OR maybe you're frustrated that your attorney's bills are insanely high and you wish there was SOMETHING you could do so save money. Friend: I hope you listen to this episode with an open mind because we are going to give you very concrete steps that you can take to help your attorney help YOU so that you can make the most out of your attorney. And, if you haven't grabbed our DCC yet, go get it here. DCC = Divorce Crash Course Divorce Crash Course In today’s episode, we cover-  -Saving money -Getting your attorney to fight for you  -Supplying your attorney with the necessary information to really get the best outcome for your case -Why it’s important to pay your bill on time -Why it’s important to stick to the FACTS and leave your emotions out of it  -A clear example of what it looks like to HELP your attorney HELP you  Andrea asks some JUICY questions to Morgan, that you don’t want to miss! And remember, Soberlink is here to help you if you're concerned about a coparent's alcohol use. Save $50 off your device and learn more here: https://www.soberlink.com/notsuck Join our private community, we'd love to have!  http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

107. What the Best Divorce Attorneys Want you to Know

In today’s episode, boooooy did we shed some light on the top asked questions when navigating a divorce. From the quirky laws about eavesdropping, (did you know in Illinois recording someone on the phone without consent is a no-go but in public, it’s fair game?), to seeking multiple opinions like you would for a tricky medical condition – this episode has it all.  And here's your place to grab access to the DCC: The Divorce Crash Course, yes, you need this! :The Divorce Crash Course  And hey, for those wondering about GALs and child representatives in custody battles, we've got the lowdown right here. In this episode we answer:    HOW to tell your spouse you want a divorce (and the big reason why we suggest NOT doing it on a weekend)   What to do when you feel like your spouse has been hiding finances and is it worth it to continue digging?    Trial separations before filing! Doing the right thing or putting off the inevitable?    GAL - what it is and the role that it serves      How do you know if a GAL is going to help or hurt your case? When do you advocate that you want one? Do you say “I want one”, or is it something that you wait for a judge to slap on to your case?    Difference between GAL child rep - How would you know when you need one and not the other?   Who does a GAL speak to and who does a GAL not speak to? And is a GAL the same thing as a custody evaluator? Are they going to come into my home and see what my home looks like?    What does parental alienation actually mean?    What happens if your ex records your conversations? Are they allowed to do this?   How late is too late is too switch attorneys?    Experience requesting an order from the judge    I promise we’re in your corner and here for you and remember, you’ve got this and we’ve got you! **And remember, if alcohol use is a concern with safe parenting time, then Soberlink is a tool you need in your toolbox. Learn more and save $50 off your device here: https://www.soberlink.com/notsuck *** To join our private community, head here: The How Not to Suck at Divorce Community  

103. When the Abuse Gets Worse During the Divorce

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