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What if “I’m fine” is the most dangerous story you tell yourself? We dive into the quiet mechanics of denial—how it sounds, how it hides in everyday habits, and how it quietly derails intimacy, trust, and the chance to heal. With candor and care, we trace the arc from self-protection to self-sabotage, naming the red flags that partners notice long before survivors can: minimization, blame-shifting, numbness during closeness, and the urge to fix anxious feelings with impulse buys, substances, or people-pleasing.

Storm opens up about learning to feel again after shutting down touch and affection, showing how gentle patience from a partner created a safe bridge back to her body. Alfonso speaks directly to male survivors who mistake performance anxiety for aging while unaddressed childhood SA fuels fear of vulnerability. Together we unpack fawning, trauma bonding, and the nervous system’s habit of trading connection for safety. We spotlight practical first steps—finding a safe person, starting therapy, exploring EMDR, joining support groups, and using simple nervous-system resets to meet triggers with steadier breath.

You’ll leave with a weekly reflection practice to spot repeating patterns, a script to ask for honest feedback without getting defensive, and a reminder that admitting pain isn’t weakness. It’s the doorway out. We also share directories and hotlines for trauma-informed help, plus where to watch our live streams and replays. If you’ve ever wondered why the same argument keeps returning, or why intimacy feels like a cliff instead of a bridge, this conversation offers language, tools, and hope you can use today.

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