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Episode Overview
Ever feel like you become a past version of yourself around certain people or places? In this episode, we explore why we unconsciously shrink to fit old roles, especially with family or longtime friends. Inspired by a powerful listener letter, we talk about shifting identities, letting go of outdated labels, and the courage it takes to fully step into who you are now.
Key Discussion Points
- A listener’s story about reverting to their old self at home
- Why we fall back into habits around certain people
- The discomfort of being seen as your “past self”
- Unconscious roles and outdated labels from childhood
- Gossip as default behaviour—and why it’s hard to quit
- How to update your self-image and reclaim your present identity
Listener Takeaways
- Question old self-beliefs—they might not be true anymore
- You’re allowed to grow and change—give yourself that permission
- Notice when you're playing outdated roles—and step out of them
- Stand firm in who you are now, even if others don’t see it yet
- Surround yourself with people who honour your growth
Join the Conversation
What’s one outdated belief about yourself that you need to rewrite? And if you’re struggling to change, is it because you still believe the old story—or because the people around you do?
Send us an email at [email protected]
DM us or leave us a voicemail with your thoughts
📢 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who might need a little permission to grow!
Resources Mentioned- Gabor Maté’s concept of connection vs. authenticity
- Note to Self (our upcoming book!) Watch this space…
Join Us for More on Patreon!
Please join us on Patreon for our Sanity Checks - our short weekly episodes where we share what’s really on our minds. They’ve been part of the podcast since the very beginning - those little check-ins and raw conversations. Now, for the price of a coffee a month, you'll get this extra weekly episode plus much more!
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Links:
- Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod
- Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod
- Email us at [email protected]
Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/
Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy
See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information
Disclaimer:
Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
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By Aileen Harvey and Julie FahyEpisode Overview
Ever feel like you become a past version of yourself around certain people or places? In this episode, we explore why we unconsciously shrink to fit old roles, especially with family or longtime friends. Inspired by a powerful listener letter, we talk about shifting identities, letting go of outdated labels, and the courage it takes to fully step into who you are now.
Key Discussion Points
- A listener’s story about reverting to their old self at home
- Why we fall back into habits around certain people
- The discomfort of being seen as your “past self”
- Unconscious roles and outdated labels from childhood
- Gossip as default behaviour—and why it’s hard to quit
- How to update your self-image and reclaim your present identity
Listener Takeaways
- Question old self-beliefs—they might not be true anymore
- You’re allowed to grow and change—give yourself that permission
- Notice when you're playing outdated roles—and step out of them
- Stand firm in who you are now, even if others don’t see it yet
- Surround yourself with people who honour your growth
Join the Conversation
What’s one outdated belief about yourself that you need to rewrite? And if you’re struggling to change, is it because you still believe the old story—or because the people around you do?
Send us an email at [email protected]
DM us or leave us a voicemail with your thoughts
📢 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who might need a little permission to grow!
Resources Mentioned- Gabor Maté’s concept of connection vs. authenticity
- Note to Self (our upcoming book!) Watch this space…
Join Us for More on Patreon!
Please join us on Patreon for our Sanity Checks - our short weekly episodes where we share what’s really on our minds. They’ve been part of the podcast since the very beginning - those little check-ins and raw conversations. Now, for the price of a coffee a month, you'll get this extra weekly episode plus much more!
Join Us via this link:
https://www.patreon.com/14211197/join
Links:
- Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod
- Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod
- Email us at [email protected]
Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/
Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy
See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information
Disclaimer:
Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.